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Everybody Loves Dean Sometime
on October 30, 2016
Dean(a) Martin, the youngest of Dean's daughters from his first marriage, pretty well sums it up when she says of her Dad, "No, he wasn't a good father, but he was a good man." I got curious about Dean after reading about the Martin & Lewis team, and wanted to know why the break-up occurred. Dean was a restless man after a ten-year stint, he wanted to branch out and make music, which he did in a phenomenal way. He'd already conquered the nightclub act, he'd already made 17 movies with Jerry, he went on to star with John Wayne on the big screen, plus other flicks ... he made record after record, once surpassing the Beatles with what became his theme song 'Everybody Loves Somebody' ... plus had a contract with NBC to star in his own hit television variety show for 20 years ... oh yes, and was also into radio ... he was a success in every media outlet at the time, and today his songs can be heard on the internet.
Yet Deana paints a sad portrait, the other side that the public got a peek at, but weren't privy to the background story.
These celebrities present a happy front, but the more you find out about them the more you see that they had their own demons to deal with, just like the rest of us.
Dean married his first wife, Betty, while he was Dino Crocetti, and had four kids with her. Then he became famous and lived on the road with his act. While on the road he mixed & mingled until he fell in love with Jeanne the beauty-queen. He deserted his first wife and children (supporting them with alimony payments and child support, of course), and married wife #2, then made three kids with her.
This is where Deana fills in the gaps, and tells how Betty (wife #1) and the four kids handled the situation ... and the situation got worse. Betty took to hard drinking and Hollywood living; when Dean found out, he cut off her alimony, which gradually drove the first family into worse economic shape, until Betty couldn't afford to raise the kids anymore. Her drinking problem made things worse, and the four kids were all taken to live with Dean and wife #2 in their giant fortress.
Betty disappeared from the scene, and Deana described what it was like growing up with Dean and Jeanne with wealth and fame.
But even wife #2 didn't keep Dean happy, so after a number of years he divorced her and played the bachelor for a short while until he got married again to wife #3 ... for a short while. After their divorce, Dean had to cough up 6 million to keep her happy and off his back, a large settlement at the time.
He had it all but somehow it wasn't enough. The older he got the more he withdrew. He left wife #1, wife #2, and wife #3. He was a hard guy to get to know, and he kept most people at arm's length. I guess you have to do that when you've got a lotta dough, but he wound up doing that to members of his own family. They were treated to cars and presents, more than most of us will ever see, but I think they loved him (and he loved them)... but there was a certain distance that was maintained. Guess Dean was trying to protect himself, and withdrawing from his family members was one way to maintain his peace of mind. Deana did a good job explaining him; an interesting (and entertaining) read.