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Men and Marriage Paperback – July 31, 1992
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"Men and Marriage . . . is an outstandingly important and well-argued book."National Review
Drug Addiction, lack of education, welfare, children in poverty, violence, unemployment, single-parent homes-these critical problems facing our country today. Many ideas have been presented regarding the cause of these problems, but only George Gilder speaks directly and with authority about their one undeniable source: the disintegration of the American family.
Men and Marriage examines the loss of the family and the well-defined sex roles it used to offer and how this loss has changed the focus of our society. Poverty, for instance, comes from the destruction of the family when single parents are abandoned by their lovers or older women are suddenly divorced because society approves of the husband's new, younger girlfriend. Gilder claims that men will only own up to their paternal obligations when the women lead them to do so and that this civilizing influence, balanced with, proper economic support, is the most important part of maintaining a productive, healthy, loving society. He offers a concrete plan of action for rebuilding the family in America. His solutions challenge readers to return to these roles and reestablish those family values which were once so crucial in staving off the ills that plague our country.
About the Author
George Gilder is author of several books on social and economic issues. He was a speech writer for President Reagan and now writes regularly for the Wall Street Journal and Harpers.
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If downright forced to identify some negatives, I'd first lament the occasional R-rated descriptions of deviant behaviors. I could have lived without those. Some will find the book too cerebral and may want to keep a dictionary on hand. Christian readers might balk at his references to evolution but, for reasons I can't go into here, I'm not even convinced he is a buyer. That's about it.
Gilder makes a case for sexual constitution. Men and women really are different. You would never know it from the reactions to this book--Gilder earned "Male Chauvinist Pig of the Year" honors, courtesy of Time Magazine and the National Organization of Women--but he actually asserts the superiority of women over men in several key areas: sexuality, morality, even emotions. Unlike (most) women, men in their natural state need tamed. They are legitimate barbarians who, if not cornered, caged, and duly domesticated, will turn their energies against society if they don't kill themselves first. It is futile to deny this, as any honest man will attest. Citing FBI statistics, Gilder reports, "Although single men number some 13 percent of the population over age fourteen, they comprise 40 percent of the criminals and commit nearly 90 percent of major and violent crimes."
For this reason and others, the philosophical foundations of the modern welfare state are relentlessly and mercilessly battered, chapter after chapter. It is suicide to enact policies which encourage the disintegration of families. Gilder condemns the delusion that the state can replace the father as provider and the mother as nurturer without inflicting irreparable harm on society and particularly on the "lucky" recipients of government aid.
You will need steel-toed boots if you are a liberal, an effeminate sociologist professor, a militant homosexual, an angry feminist, a self-serving politician, or a socialist. Sometimes sacrificing tactfulness for honesty, Gilder takes on subjects like sexual politics, education, women in the military and in the workplace. How blissfully refreshingly in this our age of ubiquitous liberal sanctimony to read a book that from cover to cover shows literally zero patience for political correctness!
We need real men; we need real women; we need marriages; we need children (and lots of them); we need traditional families in which the father/husband busts his tail and the mother/wife nurtures the children. We need to ignore the self-appointed experts whose criminal obliviousness to reality has translated into equally criminal policy disasters.
I considered attempting here to lay out the groups that would most benefit from respective chapters: "Those with children in public schools need to read chapter 11. . ." But, no. I found myself thinking, "Everyone needs to read this chapter. And this one too." In fact, may I propose we force a Congressional recess until those who write our laws can prove they've read and understood Gilder (leaving nothing but retirement as an option for some). I'd bet $100K of tuition that this single book packs a better education than a sociology degree. Is my enthusiasm obvious? Read this book.
Sterilization and Marriage
What the Catechism Teaches; 1603-1604 that marriage is for the well-being of conjugal and family life, 1643-1644 open to fertility, total mutual self-giving, 1664 openness to fertility essential to marriage, refusal of fertility turns married life away from its "supreme gift," the child, 2036 the Magisterium of the Church to remind them of what they should be before God, 2037 to be instructed, 2210 to acknowledge the true nature of marriage, 2297 sterilizations are against the moral law, 2352 sexual pleasure sought outside of "the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved," 2363 the transmission of life, the twofold obligation of fidelity and fecundity, 2366 fecundity is a gift, an end of marriage, for conjugal love naturally tends to be fruitful, the Church teaches every marriage act remains ordered to the procreation of life, established by God, man may not break the unitive and the procreative significance which are inherent to the marriage act. 2367 called to give life, to transmit human life, they will fulfill this duty, 2368 of mutual self-giving and human procreation, 2370 every action which render procreation impossible, is intrinsically evil. Of not giving oneself totally to the other, refusal to be open to life, 2398 fecundity is a good, a gift and an end of marriage. By giving life spouses participate in God's fatherhood. 2399 the spouses do not justify to morally unacceptable means, (direct sterilization), 2469 man owes it to another to manifest the truth, 2470 live in the truth, abide in the truth, while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not live according to the truth.
Question 1: Why is it the Church does not, or rarely does speak out against sterilization in talks or sermons?
Question 2: How can the Church go against its own teachings and marry couples where one or both have had themselves sterilized?
Question 3: Are these marriages actually legitimate marriages in the Church and in God's eyes, truth and law?
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