- Hardcover: 224 pages
- Publisher: Thomas Nelson (August 8, 2017)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 9780718031848
- ISBN-13: 978-0718031848
- ASIN: 0718031849
- Product Dimensions: 5.9 x 1 x 8.7 inches
- Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 568 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #5,631 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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"If Jimmy Fallon and Ann Voskamp birthed a literary love child, they'd have to name it For the Love." - Danielle Brower, wife, mom, lover of love, orphan advocate
"In the midst of my uncontrollable laugher I saw the ever-present grace and mercy and hope of Jesus shining through. This is a book for the 'every woman.'" - Krista Wilbur, blogger, Netflix aficionado, dog lover
"Don't be surprised if you get to the end and want to immediately start all over again." - April Lakata Cao, military wife, mom of four extraordinary kids, writer
What readers think about "Of Mess & Moxie" by Jen Hatmaker
"I see myself so clearly in Jen's stories that I feel spied on." - Allison Picket, mom of four wild ones.
"Never have I read a book that spoke to so many of my own fears or anxieties about being a wife, a daughter, or a believer." - Jacey R. Nordmeyer.
"The perfect blend of hilarious and touching. Jen Hatmaker's poignant insights are a breath of fresh air for every woman trying to navigate the Christian life in this age of impossible expectations." - Barbar Seidle.
About the Author
Jen Hatmaker is the author of the New York Times bestseller Of Mess and Moxie (plus twelve other books) and the host of the For the Love! with Jen Hatmaker podcast. She and her husband, Brandon, founded the Legacy Collective and also starred in the popular series My Big Family Renovation on HGTV. Jen is a mom to five, a sought-after speaker, and a delighted resident of Austin, Texas, where she and her family are helping keep Austin weird.
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First, a little about me to give this review some context: I’m squarely of the Jen Hatmaker tribe. I’m a Married Mom - progressive Christian married to another Christian who was into Gospel-motivated social justice way long before _Interrupted_ (because: Jesus). I loved Jen from “go”. I have zero qualms about Jen’s “theology” though I do love to read the pearl clutching reviews from Those With the Qualms, and when you quote Scripture in KING JAMES in your review? Well, I just about fall over. Thanks for giving me life.
Anyway, I never pre-order books, but I preordered _For the Love_ when it first came out, (because: Jen). I subscribe to Jen’s church’s sermon podcast and I mostly love it, especially when she preaches. I’ve listened to many of her For the Love podcasts. I follow Jen on Instagram and Twitter. Jen’s Facebook page is one of my “See Firsts” in my feed. You get the idea. I’m down with my girl Jen.
But this book, yall? Sigh. Not so much. I still got love for Jen, but I think this is my last Jen book for a long minute. Two specific issues with this book: 1) It was too random to be truly worth my time (I know. I’m not trying to be mean, just honest, and I can’t find a better way to say it) and 2) It left me hurting. I’m still struggling with this, and I’m not entirely sure why or that it’s Jen’s fault or anything, but I’ll share in case someone else feels the same.
Unpacking those two things:
#1) I felt like the chapters were so disjointed as to offer little beyond what I can get from Jen by just reading her Facebook posts. The book was not a sustained meditation such that it really warranted a book. I love Jen’s Facebook posts, but I don’t need to spend my money or hours of my time reading them. Instead of buying her next book, I think I’ll stick with Facebook and her blog.
#2) I’m so struggling with this. Perhaps I just don’t understand. What was the goal of the book? I suppose that it’s supposed to be kind of like hanging out on your big sister or your girlfriend’s porch listening to her muse about her life so that you could connect, laugh, relate, and be shored up and encouraged? The book starts off with a gorgeous Introduction about setting the table for ALL women. But goodness did it fall short, IMO. The entire book assumes a shared narrative of The Married Christian Mom. Even though I am the (millennial) Married Christian Mom, totally of the Tribe, this whole book felt like a dinner party that I could (sort-of) attend but to which I couldn’t invite my single, never-married, divorced or childless friends. Honestly, I’m of the perspective that you can’t be all things to all people - at least not all of the time and maybe not all in one book, but to set such a beautiful, inclusive vision (as the Intro did) then to fail (so badly) to really achieve that vision was just so disappointing. People do not attend dinner parties or read books to simply observe your life, to admire you. They do so to connect, to belong. This book honestly felt like an invitation to come, sit and Jen’s table (or on her porch) and just observe her life and agree about how great it is, and by extension how great she is, how favored among women.
I loved the more universal parts of the book about forgiveness and vision-casting for church and what a wide table we can set in love and how to love our people who are suffering, but at the conclusion of the book, it was difficult to not feel like all of those good things were rooted more in how well-loved Jen has been her whole life, by her parents, her husband, her friends; indeed it seemed those good things were less rooted in the transforming power and impossible grace of Jesus. For many of my friends and I, the chasm between our experiences and Jen's are vast and painful. What then is the Hope for those of us who want to build beautiful, connected lives that are shot through with love like Jen's? It's Jesus, yes? As such, it would have helped me if the book talked about Jesus more, and Jen less.
At the conclusion of the book, she writes, “Sure, these are some of my stories, but really, they are all our stories” Except...not really. And she gets that these stories aren’t shared by many (so many) of us as she continues in the same paragraph, “Some of you didn’t have healthy parents, and the love note to mine was painful to read”. Ok, so she gets it. But it still begs the question: “Why?” Truly, how many people in your life have the kind of family, marriage, and friend group that Jen does? Or even close? So if you know that, and you know that witnessing your published PDA to your family is straight up painful, then why publish this? Why not just type it out in an email or print it out and share it with your family? I mean this honestly: what was the point? Was it meant to inspire? It kind of did. Was it meant to be a how-to achieve this same sort of family bliss? If you read between the lines, there’s certainly some of that there. But goodness, it just struck me as an opportunity to trot out all that is great about your life. Sigh.
If I dig deep, I’m able to be genuinely happy for Jen that she’s been so well-loved. I can even begin to grapple with the painful fact that God has, somehow, for some reason(s) allowed many of my friends and I to not have that same kind of love, that firm foundation of friends, family, Bonus-Moms and such. I can even be inspired by the fact that such a kind of life exists, even if it’s not mine. I long and plan and pray and pursue these things for my kids. But I’m still left with the question: what was the point? Honestly, what was the goal of this book? It mostly just hurt, and even the good parts weren’t much beyond what I could get from Jen’s Facebook page.
Lastly, a note for those of us who have not been as well-loved as Jen Hatmaker: Perhaps this means that there is a hole in this space that we need to rise up and fill. Those of us who have been so neglected and abused that it’s a (straight up) miracle that we’re still here, that we have the tiniest bit of faith in the love of Jesus, despite not having tasted it in friends and family like Jen has - perhaps it’s time for us to start writing our stories to set a wider table than that which was set in _Of Mess and Moxie_? I think so. Let’s rise and do it.
Sometimes a book makes you feel more at home in who you are and whose you are. For me, this is that book- the one that inspires me to embrace who God made me to be, and shares how to use my life to honor Him and love others, even when I don't have it all together. While this book made me think and made me laugh, the best thing about it is the way this book fights to include us all. In a time when I've felt distant from the church, this book made me feel like I belong. Of Mess and Moxie is a powerful reminder that God's grace isn't waiting on your perfection.
I was very encouraged, inspired and convicted by several of her essays. The chapter “Defer and Prefer” has been rolling around in my head in the days since I read it. Jen is talking about this in the context of marriage and communication styles but I have been thinking about this for all of my relationships in general. If I am trying to really love God and others then a defer and prefer mindset can help me to become better at both.
“Bonus Moms” talked about the treasure of parenting in community, of having trusted friends who can help shoulder the load. Bonus parents can be sounding boards for your kids when they might not necessarily want to talk to their parents about everything. This community-style living is something that I have craved for awhile – probably ever since I became a mother. I have gotten glimpses and tastes but nothing consistent. I would like to continue to pursue this goal of having other adults and families regularly in my children’s lives so that they have some more relationships with non-family members they can trust and confide in.
Once again, Jen writes a book you will want to refer back to when you’re struggling in your current season and want some encouragement, support, or hope. You will close the book and feel that your perspective on life has been bolstered. If you want someone to remind you that you are doing well in your season and there is light at the end of the tunnel, this book is for you.