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Mom Genes: Inside the New Science of Our Ancient Maternal Instinct Paperback – April 5, 2022
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Everyone knows how babies are made, but scientists are only just beginning to understand the making of a mother. Mom Genes reveals the hard science behind our tenderest maternal impulses, tackling questions such as why mothers are destined to mimic their own moms (or not), how maternal aggression makes females the world’s most formidable creatures, and how a crisis like the COVID-19 pandemic can make or break a mom.
Weaving the latest research with Abigail Tucker’s personal experiences, Mom Genes “is an eye-opening tour through the biology and psychology of a role that is at once utterly ordinary and wondrously strange” (Annie Murphy Paul, author of Origins).
- Print length336 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- Publication dateApril 5, 2022
- Dimensions5.5 x 0.84 x 8.38 inches
- ISBN-101501192876
- ISBN-13978-1501192876
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—The Wall Street Journal
“[Tucker's] ability to break down complex topics and conflicting research is formidable… Mom Genes is a book for the many mothers within—and those willing to see them in a new light.”
—The Washington Post
Tucker climbed that mountain of inconclusive science about how humans succeed at the terrifying and ancient task of mothering only to find the answers closer to home… [Readers will] see that an intriguing subject — the author herself — awaits you."
—New York Times Book Review
“Tucker’s enthusiasm radiates on every page, and her dive in to the wacky world of motherhood is fascinating.”
—Discover Magazine
“Meticulously researched and well-documented, Mom Genes is one part memoir (Tucker intersperses her own experiences as a white mother of four children), and one part incredibly readable popular science… Richly entertaining, filled with humor, and deeply informative, this engaging book is recommended for mothers, potential mothers, and anyone who has ever known a mother.”
—Library Journal, starred review
“Using clever, colorful, figurative language and a warm, conversational tone, Tucker documents the complex challenges women who become mothers face.”
—Booklist
“Tucker has a knack for making complex science accessible, and she encouragingly touts the importance of mothers having a support system… Moms-to-be in search of a straightforward look at the changes ahead will find this a good place to start.”
—Publisher’s Weekly
“Tucker is a consistently energetic guide, and she doesn’t shy away from discussing ‘the dangerous and opaque mental problems that hound moms.’ In a particularly vibrant chapter, the author explores the countless deleterious effects of poverty and how American society continually fails to provide the support that mothers deserve. Filling in the gaps and moving the story forward are Tucker’s personal observations—she is the mother of four—and the ups and downs of her experiences, many of which will be familiar to mothers of all backgrounds.”
—Kirkus Reviews
“Shocking and yet somehow reassuring...Whether you're a mom, know a mom (of any species), or ever had a mom (that's pretty much everybody), you are going to want to read this surprising and rigorously-researched book.”
—Sy Montgomery, New York Times bestselling author of The Soul of an Octopus
“Mom Genes is my new favorite book on motherhood: fascinating, informative, funny, and smart as a whip. Abby Tucker is the friend you want to lean on when you’re wondering how to cope with your child, the researcher who can explain a thousand weird, wonderful aspects of parenting, and the quirky thinker who can open your mind to the strangeness and beauty of being a mother.”
—Martha Beck, New York Times bestselling author of Expecting Adam
“Mom Genes is witty, reassuring, and takes motherhood out of the footnotes and places it front and center—where it belongs!”
—Louann Brizendine, MD, author of New York Times bestseller The Female Brain
“Filled with jaw-dropping facts and findings, this brilliant, absolutely fascinating book grabbed me from page one. In Mom Genes, Abigail Tucker distills an extraordinary range of cutting-edge research into fun, accessible chapters. Written in an engaging, often hilarious voice, Mom Genes illuminates the biology of everything motherly. I couldn’t put it down.”
—Amy Chua, Yale Law professor and author of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother and Political Tribes: Group Instinct and the Fate of Nations
“I’m a father, but I found every page of this gripping and wonderful—not least because of the author’s rare skill at making science vividly understandable to lay readers.”
—John Colapinto, New York Times bestselling author of As Nature Made Him
“With thorough research, keen insight, and wry humor, Abigail Tucker shows us why moms are different from other people—even, daresay, special, with superpowers that science is just beginning to reveal. For anyone who is a mother, or who has a mother, her book is an eye-opening tour through the biology and psychology of a role that is once utterly ordinary and wondrously strange.”
–Annie Murphy Paul, author of Origins: How the Nine Months Before Birth Shape the Rest of Our Lives
“Deeply researched and compulsively readable, Mom Genes illuminates the ancient biological roots of modern motherhood. Tucker narrates vividly and often hilariously on a journey that travels from the nursery to the laboratory and back again, out into the wild and across time. I loved this book and its rich exploration of the causes—and consequences—of becoming a mother.”
—K.S. Bowers, coauthor of Wildhoodand Zoobiquity
“An entertaining storyteller, [Tucker] weaves neuroscience with tales from all kinds of mammal moms, including her own travails and joys. If you’ve ever had a hunch that motherhood changed your brain forever, Mom Genes not only confirms your suspicions, but shows you how and why.”
—Randi Hutter Epstein, MD, author of Aroused: The History of Hormones and How They Control Just About Everything
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- Publisher : Gallery Books (April 5, 2022)
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3 Fetal microchimerism: your fetus donates cells that wander around your body and wind up in heart, brain, thyroid, …
One woman had a lobe of her damaged liver rebuilt by cells from an aborted son (she had no children).
2014 NIH admits not using enough female subjects or female cell lineages
In the month after birth, moms are 23 times as likely to become bipolar than at any other time of life.
Brains of new moms are changed and changing to see the world in new ways; reward responses esp. change. No specific mom behaviors come with this.
Among the very few human specific behaviors is left-side cradling.
Perhaps so baby sees more of mom
Perhaps so mom has more input to emotional, right side of brain.
The periaqueductal gray of any human responds to any baby face in 99ms, irrespective of race of baby. Unique among mammals.
The changes in the brain as one becomes a mom:
infant-centric pleasure, heightened sensitivity to baby cues, bull-headed motivation.
New moms think of their babies 14 hrs/d.
41 11% of moms become obsessive-compulsive, vs 2% of general pop.
Loss of up to 7% of gray matter; changes in brain diagnosable by brain scans.
Call it maternal unmasking.
New dads are not so diagnosable.
Ch 2 Dad Genes
Normal neuro anatomy: F larger hippocampus, M larger amygdala
45 care by males as common as by females in fish.
46 90% of birds share work of rearing.
47 5% of mammals get help from dad.
Men rate fatherhood as 27% of personal ID; expected 17%
Women rate motherhood as 55% of ID; expected 16% before the changes.
Experience makes men become more paternal; they pay a lot of attention to how much the baby face resembles theirs. So do paternal grandmas.
en take paternity leave.
67% of tenure track women take maternity leave.
55 Canadian single dads have increased rates of cancer & heart attacks;
3 times as likely as single moms to die.
59 identifies earlobe shapes as genetically determined: [wrong.]
62 placental shapes structures vary among mammals.
30 miles of surface area in humans.
umbilical cord blood vessels cannot be compressed.
Placenta calls for hormonal changes, later makes its own progesterone & pts of estrogen.
Placenta expresses dad genes.
Placenta makes it harder for mom to access her own blood sugar
makes appetite & thirst rise.
Placenta makes 25% of mom’s blood serve embryo, opens mom’s blood vessels.
Ch 3 The Whole Shebang
70 inject virgin F rat with mom rat blood to make her act like a mom.
In mice 3 hrs of oxytocin makes a virgin F respond to pup distress calls;
oxytocin receptors in left auditory cortex.
estrogen enhances oxytocin receptors in various parts of the brain.
77 in front of the hypothalamus is the medial preoptic area (mPOA) which
can be stimulated to cause mom behavior.
mPOA reaches to the ventral tegmental area: dopamine pleasure center.
hormones are replaced by neural connections with experience.
83 male rats can be “maternalized” with effort; F easier to induce.
adoptive human mothers become similar, but not the same as biol mothers.
84 willingness of our species to adopt allows more aggressive demands for resources by young: mom can be replaced.
Ch 4 Mommy Weirdest
87 easily awakened by disturbing dreams
less grossed out by fleas or poop
blunted stress response
92 better discrimination of colors
better recognition of faces
more attention to male faces
93 cows are more dangerous than bulls; female rage UK
lactating mothers are more aggressive than are bottle feeders (prolactin)
memory problems
100 lost sleep: 700hrs in first year.
103 Ch 5 Mother of Inventions
mom brains show diversity
109 mom brains change with each pregnancy
experience w babysitting seems to help with mothering
First time births average 21yrs in 1972, 26 yrs now
Over 40 rate continuing to rise. Younger moms more likely to kill the baby, more postpartum depression
older moms better with praise, structural play, attention to diet, prenatal care.
better executive function
118 under 25s still developing.
122 breast feeding moms 5x less likely to neglect young.
123 breast feeding helpful for bonding after C-section.
2nd time mom has mom brain up & running, may miss previous giddiness.
3rd time moms do worse on verbal recall tests.
129 Ch 6 In Search of the Mom Genes
licked vs less licked rat pups and high vs low contact babies make better moms.
epigenetic in rats better moms had genes unmethylated for oxytocin receptors,
more oxytocin cells.
even in foster families
Ch 7 Why the Child is Father to the Mom
153 fetal hrt beat at 37 weeks ~140.
fetal activity levels vary by 5x, impacts mom.
Baby personality affects mom: ADHD, drugs
173 Moms favor cuter babies & healthier babies.
175 boys cause more diabetes, early birth, C-sections,
are larger, slower growing, more demanding on mom, & frailer.
#boymoms 70% more likely to have depression, more strongly react w disgust,
less morning sickness, use 10% more calories.
177 Mom’s milk for boys has 25% more calories; other mammals also.
178 Multiple boys, more mom mortality.
infanticide targets girls.
188 What stresses new moms the most are chronic shortages or erratic resources: lack of diapers, hunger, poverty.
Stress undoes the boldness and calmness of new moms in rats.
194 Abortions & miscarriages rise with unemployment, also unittentional
injuries to babies (distracted moms).
50% of conceptions fail to proceed.
Stresses reduce frequency of males.
207 Distant parenting, cortisol in the milk may prepare the child for an adverse environment.
209 Ch 9 No Mom is an Island
The maternal grandmother helps the most; paternal is unsure of paternal parent.
Mom’s social network is very important.
Voles that mate for life, dad helps with young; remove male and mom carries on (depressed), but she does not pair bond again. She will mate & rear more broods, though.
241 Ch 10 Motherland
Collectivist Asians become as individualistic in a single generation. Tiger moms disappear.
251 Happier moms in Holland & Nepal & Singapore. Less income diversity seems to help.
Less happiness where moms work outside home over 40 hrs/week.
255 Recommendations:
Guaranteed, lengthy maternal leave.
Financial support for new moms, continuing.
Improve delivery etc hospital rooms: single family occupancy.
Reduce C-section variation: 7 to 70%.
Longer hospital stays to nudge behavior
Same team throughout delivery.
Baby box of stuff
Home visits.
Longer Medicaid coverage for new moms.
Within the first two chapters she makes a sarcastic remark how a culture baby wears their children until they're two, mentions "routine" infant circumcision (this would have been a great place to dive into how circumcision can mess with the breastfeeding relationship and how circumcision rates are drastically declining), and turns her nose up at "primagrava" mothers. I definitely got the impressions many times that the author had an inferior attitude or maybe it is just me because I'm soooooo tired from raising my FOUR children (sarcastic eyeroll)
Anyways, im highly disappointed and dissatisfied. The author only touches the surface on many situations when if she just went a little further, this book could have been a gold mine of information for the moms of multiples and those silly first time mom. (Sarcasm again )
Abigail, if you ever read this, your reversing stations during your first birth were probably because your cervix became so swollen from all the dilation checks. Also, women can in fact, undiluted, especially in a hospital setting. It's a very interesting concept that is very common and I think you'd like to research it








