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Mom Knows: Reflections on Love, Gay Pride, and Taking Action by [Tuerk, Catherine]
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Mom knows--and feels, cares, and fights--in this exceptional collection of essays by Catherine Tuerk. There's something for everyone here: Allies will be better educated, advocates will be inspired to fight even more, those who are hostile to gays will be challenged. Gay people themselves will be moved and grateful that people like Tuerk exist--and write so well. She's bold in the topics she covers--from why some gay men have sex in public bathrooms to how she has met gay men and women in numerous countries where homosexuality is harshly punished. Mom Knows is full of memorable characters like Uncle Johnnie, brother-in-law Richard, and spunky Mother Tuerk. None, however, is as spunky as the author herself, who challenges the reader just as she has challenged herself to be more open, knowledgeable, loving, and strong. Accompanying her, from Pride parades with PFLAG to touring in Tanzania, is a trip one won t quickly forget. --Rabbi Bob Saks, Rabbi Emeritus, Congregation Bet Mishpachah (founded by members of the Washington, DC, gay community in 1975)

Mom Knows is a compelling account of the historical progression of one mother who set out to educate herself and make the world a better place for people of all sexualities and genders. In her eloquent writings of more than two decades, Catherine Tuerk weaves together her professional expertise, maternal wisdom, and boundless activist commitment, educating us and encouraging us to join her. A must read for parents, educators, health and mental health professionals, policy makers, advocates, and anyone who wants to understand more deeply the challenging road to affirmation for LGBT and gender-nonconforming people and their families. --Diane Ehrensaft, PhD, author of Gender Born, Gender Made: Raising Healthy Gender-Nonconforming Children; director of Mental Health, Child and Adolescent Gender Center, Oakland, California

A leading force for acceptance of LGBT persons in our society, Catherine Tuerk has written a heartfelt book that is the culmination of her many years of work with gender-nonconforming children and their parents. Her tales bear sad witness to societal, medical, and psychiatric approaches that were misinformed and steeped in homophobia, profoundly harmful to children and parents alike--a legacy that is still with us. --George R. Brown, MD, DFAPA, Professor of Psychiatry, East Tennessee State University; Board of Directors, World Professional Association for Transgender Health

About the Author

Catherine Tuerk, MA, APRN, is a psychotherapist in private practice. In recognition of her volunteer service as president of the Metro DC chapter of PFLAG, she received the Starr Award, the national organization's top honor for exemplary leadership by a parent in the local community. Co-founder and past co-director of the Gender and Sexuality Advocacy and Education Program at the Children's National Medical Center, she now serves that program as senior consultant. Advocates for LGBT people in their Jewish community, Catherine and her husband, Jonathan Tuerk, live in Washington, DC, where they raised their son and daughter and now entertain their five grandchildren.

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  • File Size: 1565 KB
  • Print Length: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Catherine Tuerk (May 23, 2012)
  • Publication Date: May 23, 2012
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services LLC
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B0085YZ5US
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This collection of stories about a mom coming out about her gay son is an amazing journey of hope for all LGBT families. As the co-founder of a support group for gender non-conforming children, Ms. Tuerk is an inspiration for so many parents--giving them "permission" to love their children wholly and unconditionally; and giving them the tools to navigate the world with dignity, love, and respect for themselves and others.

Her book doubles as an amazing travel guide around the world as she shares her experiences and interactions with LGBT communities around the world. Her essays about her journeys, her grapple with religion, and her process of devouring information to support her son, lend her book to become the "Eat, Pray, Love" for all LGBT families.
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I've read thousands of books. I can think of exactly one which has made me weeping--or laugh-- on almost every page. This one. Catherine's story, of her journey from a middle class, Jewish professional mom nauseated by the very thought of homosexuality, to a globe hopping GLBTQ activist and media figure, is riveting, personal, and honest enough to cut like a knife. She gives voice to the negative feelings, the fears, the homophobia and transphobia which most of us feel at our children's coming out, and then takes us by the hand, through tolerance, acceptance, and finally to exuberant celebration of gay son's identity, life, and adoptive family. As a parent who, in the 70s, used psychoanalysis to 'fix' her gay son's feminine tendencies, Catherine has baggage. WIth the best clinical advice of the era, the best treatment, and the best of intentions, she ended up isolating and damaging her beloved son. Healing this rift with her son, and her subsequent lifelong activism, is her act of tikkun loam, in Catherine's Judaism, the act of repairing the world.

We follow her, through African and Asian cultures, learning about the modern day plight of GLBTQ people first hand, through her interactions as a PFLAG advocate. Her insights, into the degrees of acceptance, compromise, tolerance, in countries like Egypt and Tanzania, are fascinating. Everywhere she goes, there is work to do, for while many cultures aren't as overtly homophobic as the USA, virtually no culture on the planet celebrates GLBTQ family life as equal to its heterosexual analog.
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What a wonderful book!
Long-time activist and PFLAG mom Catherine Tuerk has assembled a group of her essays and publications relating to her son's declaration "I am gay" and her subsequent journey to activism. She not only describes her life as the mother of a gay son but also calls on all of us to stand up for our children - constantly.
Her book is divided into sections with essays and articles pertinent to their titles. The book begins with "My Story" and progresses through "Family," "Sex, Love and Marriage," "The Children," and Ms Tuerk's travels in many other countrys. She leads the reader using her own experiences into discussions of many facets of activism on behalf of our LGBT loved ones and their families. The book closes with several articles about dealing with your gender non-conforming (or gender variant) child in loving and healthy ways.
Most of the chapters are short - a couple pages - making for easy reading. The stories about Ms Tuerk's family and their journey together demonstrate the difficulties that gay men and their families have gone through for decades, both in the US and around the world. Her emotions and her initial struggle to accept her child really show through. It would be difficult, in my opinion, to read the book without somehow becoming emotionally involved both with her family's life and that of our LGBT families around the world.
Ms Tuerk's constant activism on behalf of all our children is a stellar example of accepting the ethical responsibility to help make the world a better place. Read it, then go out and emulate her dedication.
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This quick read of essays offers a wealth of comfort and hope for parents who find themselves faced with something they might never have considered--being the parent of an LGBT child/youth/person. Ms. Tuerk courageous sharing of her own stumbling journey to acceptance and, beyond, to advocacy, offers a path of love for others to consider.

What is particularly helpful is the focus on gender variant children. It is only very recently that therapists and pediatricians have come to understand that gender non-conformity is a normal variation of child development. Rather than damage gender variant children by trying to force them to conform, Catherine (and other experts in this field) promotes allowing children freedom of self-expression, an issue that can be particularly complicated and painful for gender non-conforming boys in our society/culture.

As a parent of a gender non-conforming girl, this book gives me comfort that I am raising my child in her best interest by giving her the freedom to be who she is, and hope that we are entering an era that will mark the end of discrimination against and hatred of sexual and gender minorities.
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