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A Good Marriage Starts with Good QuestionsDid you knowmarriage wasn't created justto make us happy that God calls us touse it for eternal purposes? But a satisfying, God-centered marriage takes work, starting even before you re married or engaged.With nine sessions of time-tested questions and guidance, "The Sacred Search Couple s Conversation Guide," which acts either as a stand-alone resource or as a companion to "The Sacred Search," helps you as a couple explore: . How to have a doubt-free wedding day. How to engage in healthyconflict. Why you need to "divorce "divorce. How to develop and maintain sexual intimacy. Why asking hard questions now is better than asking them five years from nowWhen you love each other with God s purposes in mind, intentional conversation becomes not just preparation for marriage it s the first step in merging two lives into onefor the ultimate glory of God."Includes a mentor s guide and a counseling questionnaire."

About the Author

Gary Thomas is writer-in-residence at Second Baptist Church in Houston, a frequent guest on Focus on the Family and FamilyLife Today radio, and a popular speaker around the world. His award-winning books have been translated into a dozen languages and sold hundreds of thousands of copies. Thomas and his wife have three children.
Drs. Steve and Rebecca Wilke, cofounders of LEADon, Inc. and Sonkist Ministries, have dedicated their professional lives to “people-helping” in the fields of psychology, leadership, and education. Drs. Wilke speak nationally and internationally and enjoy sharing their insights via the Internet, radio, and television.


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 160 pages
  • Publisher: David C. Cook (January 1, 2013)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1434705498
  • ISBN-13: 978-1434705495
  • Product Dimensions: 0.8 x 5.5 x 8.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 5.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (25 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #51,132 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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This was excellent. My boyfriend and I have been talking much more seriously about marriage, and went through this book together. We would read the chapters outloud, answer the questions on our own, then compare. We got some great discussion out of it, including some things we hadn't considered. Even though we were both nervous to begin with, we both understood that it would be better to hash things out now, before getting engaged, instead of later down the line.
Also, there's very little fear-mongering in this book, which we both appreciated (we're paranoid enough on our own). We get it, marriage is hard. I think some pre-marital books are a bit heavy handed on that side of things. Not this one! It's very candid, but accessible.
Further, the authors really have a knack for asking questions in such a way that you may actually answer them honestly ;) For example, they ask "If someone was concerned about your relationship, what might they say (whether or not you would agree)?" It's very clever writing, and got us both to open up and be honest with ourselves and each other.
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This book is a guide to stimulate discussion between couples and their counselors, pastors, or facilitators. Designed to accompany Gary Thomas's new book, The Sacred Search, it is a tool that focuses on guiding couples in pre-marital counseling. Written together with a couple that one pastor had previously counseled NOT to get married, it is a testimony of God's grace on the one hand, and the folly of human impatience on the other. Ultimately, to help other couples avoid the same traps, the Wilke's join forces with Thomas to come up with this "Couple's Conversation Guide," designed to ask tough, probing questions in order to reveal the purpose, the desire, and the wisdom of couples wanting to get married in the first place.

For pastors, this book is to give them a way to implement nine sessions of pre-marital counseling with couples wanting to get married. It is especially helpful if pastors do not have prior materials available. While the questions are helpful, they do not in any way replace the conventional methods of pre-marital counseling.

For couples, this nine sessions or nine weeks course can be most effectively completed when couples come with an open mind, total honesty, in courage, to actively discuss, and be prepared to work through issues, and when necessary, work with a trained professional.
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I have read both this book The Sacred Search Couple's Conversation Guide and its companion book The Sacred Search. If you are a truly committed follower of Christ and you want to make a Biblical decision regarding a potential marriage partner, this book is essential! If used with a prayerful and open spirit and - if possible - an Awesome, professional Christian Counselor like Dr. Steve Wilke, this book will help you have the tough conversations every couple should have BEFORE they get married (or, rather, ENGAGED) so that you do not make a mistake in this lifetime decision. These conversations are difficult to have but imperative to vetting your potential marriage partner and determining if this person has the same life and spiritual goals and desire to follow God as you do. I only wish I had this book prior to my (failed) marriage. Before I marry again, this book and process will be a required commitment of my 'potential' prior to considering a marriage relationship. Anyone who is not willing to do this work prior to engagement and marriage, probably should not get married. Marriage is an option, not a requirement. we should each make sure that if we are exercising this option, we are honoring God and following Him in our decision making process. This book will help you to do this. Make sure you pick up two sets - one for you and one for your potential marriage partner!
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I was on vacation when I decided to go through this as a devotional/workbook. I am not currently in a dating or courtship relationship, but I would (and have already) recommend this book to any couple that is.

It helps you look at yourself and take stock of what's there. What you will bring into a relationship - both good and bad. I read the "Sacred Search" book in a little less than two days, but this book will (and should) take you much longer as you process and write down your thoughts. Honestly, it made me think about and face things about myself that I didn't even realize needed to be worked through...but now that I'm on the other side of that, I'm so very thankful I read this book.

You will get out of this book only what you put into it. I have the digital version and my kindle is FULL of notes because I journaled directly into it. Sometimes after a session with this book, I actually felt drained and took a nap...but it's scripturally sound and I highly recommend it for any young couple looking at the possibility of marriage. Likewise, I also recommend it for singles to look at and use as a tool to "take stock" of what's there and what their makeup is and so forth. Singles note: If you read the "Sacred Search", it's not hard to figure out at least a "straw" figure of the kind of person you're attracted to, you can work from there. In the event of entering into an actual relationship, you would want to update that.. but for the purpose of getting through this book at times, it may be necessary for you.

NO, it's not easy stuff. It's not fluff and used properly as a tool, this book will not leave you unchanged. Some of it even hurts, not gonna lie.
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