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My Bonus Mom!: Taking the Step Out of Stepmom Hardcover – August 29, 2011
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By Autumn Reo on 10/02/12 02:50
Fort Worth Star-Telegram
A few pages into this book, I was already crying. Not because I’m a child of divorce, but because as a mother now, I was instantly touched about how a child would feel reading this book and as a parent IF I had to discuss such a difficult issue with my child. While it is sad that divorce is so prevalent in our culture, it is fact that children will be affected when 50 percent of marriages do result in divorce.
Thankfully there is a book on a 3 – 8 year-old level that kids relate to and can help parents communicate and share their feelings about divorce in an easy-to-read format.
A child of a successful “bonus mom” relationship, author Tami Butcher penned My Bonus Mom! Take the Step out of Step Mom to plant a seed in children’s minds that having a stepmother/stepfather can be a bonus with their hearts and minds accept the new relationship in a positive way. Through colorful graphics and rhyme, she’s developed a must-have book for any family affected by divorce and remarriage.
Read more here: http://www.star-telegram.com/2012/10/02/4303668/talking-divorce-with-your-kids.html#storylink=cpy(Autumn Reo Talking Divorce with Your Kids - Book Review: My Bonus Mom)
About the Author
Tami Butcher made it her goal to write a children’s book while teaching seventh-graders at Phoenix Prep Academy.
As a child, she grew up with what she lovingly refers to as her “bonus mom,” a nurturing, caring woman many would refer to as a “stepmother.” Butcher’s parents amicably divorced when she was 11, and for the sake of Butcher and her three sisters, decided to keep each other fully involved in their children’s lives despite the divorce. Eventually both her parents remarried, but they continued to share birthdays, holidays and special times together with their children, as well as with their new spouses. Because of her parents’ efforts, Butcher and her sisters grew up feeling blessed for having two moms and dads instead of “stepparents.“
Reflecting on her own family dynamics, Butcher realized that if she could plant a seed in children’s minds that having a stepmother or stepfather can be a “bonus,” then their minds and hearts might grow to accept their parents’ new spouses instead of automatically thinking of them as evil as many childhood fairytales portray them. The product of that revelation was My Bonus Mom!
Currently, Butcher resides in Chandler, Ariz. with her husband and three children. When she’s not volunteering, writing or promoting her new book, she helps with the family restaurant business. Her mother and “bonus dad” own Rustler’s Rooste Steakhouse and Aunt Chilada’s at Squaw Peak restaurants. Although her professional life is full, she always makes room for her greatest pride and joy: her family.
Feras Nouf is a published illustrator of children's books and was selected by Tami Butcher to illustrate My Bonus Mom!
I love my stepmom. She did a great job of stepping into a difficult situation, and I would highly
recommend any parent going through a similar situation to read this book to their child. Not only
is it a cute read, but it is also written in a loving way that children can relate to. I wish this book
had been around for me when I was a child going through divorce and remarriage. Well done, my
friend, well done.
–Bill Engvall, Comedian, television star of “The Bill Engvall Show” and “Blue Collar Comedy Tour”
Top Customer Reviews
Not all stepparents are bad. Tami Butcher helps parents and children communicate their feelings with this wonderfully illustrated book. The core of this story comes from her own personal experiences as a young girl. Young readers can identify with the children in this book and will enjoy reading it over and over again.
The story Butcher shares is about three sisters who are experiencing divorce. Both parents are upset but they are assured it is not at them. Soon they are spending certain days with mom and every other weekend with dad. As they get the hang of the new schedule they find that birthdays and Christmas are double the fun with double the gifts. Even the dog has adapted. All seems well until dad brings along a new friend to meet them. The girls find that they enjoy her very much and would like to get to know her.
Butcher does a great job of showing readers that a new stepparent is a bonus. Readers will find through the rhythmic verse that stepparents are just people they will learn to love and in return they will be loved twice as much. This is a great story to share with children aged 5 to 8.
My 2 stepkids are 2 1/2 and 4/12 so they are too young to be angry about the divorce. They also don't understand why their mother doesn't like me or want to meet me. They have accepted me into their lives. I think this book is probably better for kids who are a little older and not accepting of the new woman in daddy's life.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
This is a great book for stepmoms and kids!!! I have been looking for something to read to my step daughter to help her understand our situation and help her feel normal. Read morePublished 22 months ago by Kassidy
Awesome ! 3/4 of the way thru my 5 y/o asked if some day I would get him a bonus Mom! I could not have hoped for a better response :)Published 23 months ago by Ken of Narrow Ridge
I bought this book for my husband to read to my future stepson, who is five. He seems to have some loyalty conflicts and he is often confused as to what my role as stepmom is. Read morePublished on August 9, 2013 by Katie
We really loved the approach this book took to addressing the expansion of families. We never really liked the word 'stepmom' especially with so many negative stereotypes... Read morePublished on May 22, 2013 by G. Santorelli
This is an excellent book with a message for all. The words of the author ring true as they seem to come from the heart and the artists illustrations are perfect. Read morePublished on June 6, 2012 by Bann