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My Dinner with Andrea Kindle Edition

by Jen Durbent (Author) Format: Kindle Edition

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Faith has started dating again - with the blessing of her wife - to find someone to connect with. Andrea seems to be a good match in many ways. The world is a difficult place for two trans women dating, but when you take into account neo-Nazis, a rapist, and some overzealous cops, it can feel downright impossible.

About the Author

Jen Durbent is a poet, writer, and stand-up comedian who grew up in and is based out of the greater Chicagoland area. She lives with her wife, children, three cats, and a very old dog. She uses "she," "they," or "it" pronouns. She can be found on the web at jendurbent.com or Twitter as @JenDurbent. My Dinner with Andrea is her debut novel. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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179 pages
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English
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HYBRID Ink, LLC
Publication date

March 1, 2018
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1026 KB
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ASIN ‏ : ‎ B079Z14K38
Publisher ‏ : ‎ HYBRID Ink, LLC; 1st edition (March 1, 2018)
Publication date ‏ : ‎ March 1, 2018
Language ‏ : ‎ English
File size ‏ : ‎ 1026 KB
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Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
Print length ‏ : ‎ 179 pages
Page numbers source ISBN ‏ : ‎ 1948743000

Best Sellers Rank: #3,153,861 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #1,385 in Transgender Romance
- #71,572 in LGBTQ+ Romance (Books)

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Kristin Duhr

Quirky, queer love story with lots to love.

Reviewed in the United States on April 20, 2018

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I despise doing reviews on things. Especially books. Either I like it or I don't. If I tell you it's a good book, it is. I felt compelled to write this because it is a wonderful book. Personable, witty, sarcastic. It's very personal to the author, you can tell, but it's also very relatable to me.
I don't read books much more than once, twice if I really enjoy it. I'm halfway through on my 3rd trip. I hope Jen continues to write, because I'll read every piece.

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A. T.

Real and poignant

Reviewed in the United States on May 11, 2018

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A bit of a fairy tale, sweet without being saccharine. Jen Durbent shows an immense amount of empathy for people with all of their flaws without equivocating. Trans people deserve good media about trans characters, and this book definitely fits the bill.

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Shops Alot

I enjoyed this book very much

Reviewed in the United States on April 10, 2018

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I enjoyed this book very much. A different genre than I usually read, usually I read nonfiction. I thought it was intriguing and enlighting. Definitely worth reading!

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Julie Knispel

A book by us and for us...

Reviewed in the United States on March 28, 2018

OK y'all...

I just finished reading Jen Durbent's debut novel, My Dinner With Andrea. and I am basically a mass of emotion right now.

First of all...this is a very real book. That means there are moments of amazing joy, and moments that ring far too true for far too many of us. It's unflinching, and I mean that in the best possible way.

It's honest.

It's >real<.

Next, Andrea and Faith are amazing characters. They're real. I know them. They're us in so many ways. and Michelle...is...so complex and real. They are characters you care about...fall in love with.

So much of this is...au courant. There is stuff here that could easily be a headline tomorrow. I am saying this because this can be a very triggering book. Fortunately Jen includes a concise list of trigger and content warnings. But know I had shakes at times. I say that with love, by the way...because it's not there for shock. It's there because it's real.

This is a real book.

About real people.

Now, there is a bit I also want to point out, and that is the fact that Jen includes some poly content in here. I know that she mentioned to me a few times she was worried about this.

She shouldn't have been.

What she's done is fantastic. it's sensitive, and sweet, and good. and I loved it. I think she did a superb job, and I'm proud of her for doing it.

This is a book by us and for us.

It's a book that all y'all out there should really pick up a copy of. Because supporting our own creators is hella important, and I think this is a special, hella important novel.

Were I all memey, I'd say 'i r8 8/8 gr8.'

But I won't.

Cos that's puerile and I am a mature adult who can take care of herself.

Instead, I'll say that this is...worthy. and worth your ducats and attention.

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Nicole Lynn Perry

You will get many various feelings as you read the book

Reviewed in the United States on August 1, 2018

I just finished reading My Dinner with Andrea by Jen Durbent. Talk about hitting hard. Reading this story reminds me of what I have gone through as a polyam trans woman. Not only do we get to see things from the point of view of Faith, but we also get to see the feelings and thoughts of Michelle, Faith's wife as well as the titular Andrea. We also get to see the underside of what #trans people go through from those who hate us. Brava, Jen Durbent, this is a wonderful story!!

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Chelle

Felt like I was reading a fanfiction...

Reviewed in the United States on March 28, 2018

The story overall and the writing style is very fanfiction-esque. I had a hard time getting into it, and halfway through I really struggled to keep reading. The dramatic event in the middle of the story, along with the random switch into Michelle’s perspective, made me facepalm and REALLY begin to feel like I was reading something from a fanfiction. I do not like when people use horizontal lines to separate events or show a passing of time, and this is done frequently. It’s really frustrating, and another fanfiction-esque element. I enjoy the inclusiveness of trans folk (a fellow tran here), but I would recommend the author get an editor (or a better editor).

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ShoeloverInMaine

A witty, warmhearted modern trans love story

Reviewed in the United States on March 23, 2018

"My Dinner with Andrea" is a tender and funny portrait of two trans women, Faith and Andrea, tentatively embarking on a new relationship. Faith's wife Michelle also plays an integral role, and the author does an especially skillful job depicting their life as a couple and how that has evolved over the course of Faith's journey. Issues around polyamory and disability were addressed with sensitivity and care. There were a few unexpected twists and turns in the plot, which may have been jarring by design, but I found that they detracted from my overall enjoyment of the relationship-based narrative. Overall an extremely solid book from a new author who will hopefully have much more to say in the future!

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Cass

new love being born over tacos and nintendo and shared life experience

Reviewed in the United States on April 13, 2018

i loved this book. a lot of it felt honest to life. it deals with various forms of loss and grief. enveloping all that is a story of eros and agape. old bonds forming into something new. new love being born over tacos and nintendo and shared life experience.

this is a wonderful book. read it.

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Ultraviolet

A voice which deserves to be heard tells a gripping, unforgettable story.

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on June 25, 2018

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This is a story told with warmth and humour but uncompromisingly raw and real, just as it needs to be. It demonstrates why transgender and other marginalised people's stories need to be told in an authentic voice. As a cis white woman, I learned so much from reading it; the issues faced by Faith, Andrea and the other people in their lives who are in marginalised groups are described in a way which brings across to the reader just how pervasive these issues are. The transgender perspective conveys nuances which the mind of an ally, however well intentioned, would simply not have the experience to portray.

For example: early in the story, Faith contemplates whether she should pull out Andrea's chair for her as they sit down to their meal as would have been expected of her when she looked like a man. Not WAS a man: LOOKED LIKE a man. Transgender women are, and always have been, women; transgender men are, and always have been, men. The insights into Faith's perspective later touch upon the privilege which went along with looking like a man and how uncomfortable this felt. Andrea has a friend who knows that when she visits, the very first thing she will urgently need to do is use her bathroom; every trip out has to take into consideration finding safe places to use the toilet facilities. It is mentioned that there is an app which identifies the nearest transgender friendly bathroom. Just imagine having to think of these factors, all the time and for the reasons it is necessary, in a world where those whose job it is to uphold the law and keep citizens safe cannot often be relied upon to do so and indeed add to the oppression and offences against people for simply being who they truly are.

The story deals with such issues as coming out to family, dealing with the change in the relationship with a partner whose own sexuality is not compatible with continuing the physical relationship after transition, caregiving, longing to have a child, constantly having to explain and educate, dysphoria, intimacy with a new partner and dealing with the aftermath of traumatic violent events. Separate life crises carry details which bring the reader up short with their impact; Faith's wife Michelle, who married her when she looked and was living as male, phones her for help after a horrific incident and in that moment of crisis almost calls her by her deadname (this is the name by which a transgender person used to be known when they were having to live as the wrong gender; to deliberately call a transgender person by their deadname is very offensive and not something which Michelle as we have gotten to know her would be expected to do).

The style of writing is boldly conversational; in places it reads like a stream of consciousness, written exactly as the characters would speak or think in real time. It compels the reader to engage and stay engaged, facing every uncomfortable truth. The deep love, strong bonds and friendship threads add joy and lightness to the serious and harrowing aspects of the story. The love scenes are written with breathtaking tenderness; honest but never sensationalised.

The most important point I need to make is this: The role of an ally, another issue touched upon in the story, is to amplify the marginalised voice not replace it with the ally's own. So please do not just take my word here; read the book and get this story, which needs to be told, from the right source.

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