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The Myth of Self-esteem: How Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy Can Change Your Life Forever Paperback – October 3, 2005
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"Albert Ellis is a contemporary prophet whose ideas will be remembered along with those of Jesus, Buddha, Lao Tzu and Sartre. In this important book, he shows how to develop self-acceptance as well as to learn how to create healthy relationships. In a world of increasing involvement with machines (i.e., computers, televisions, video games) and decreasing involvement with people, nothing could be more needed."
—Jon Carlson, PsyD, EdD, ABPP
Distinguished Professor, Governors State University
"This wonderful book, as it helps us move toward greater compassion for ourselves, for others, and for our troubled world, is one more significant contribution by Dr. Ellis—not only toward greater personal happiness, but also toward a better world."
—Howard C. Cutler, M.D.
coauthor (with the Dalai Lama) of The Art of Happiness, A Handbook for Living
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Last night I was reading the old book "Do What You Love, the Money Will Follow" (not written by Dr. Ellis). Good title, but by the second chapter, the author starts implying that if we're not in work we love, it must be because we suffer from (you guessed it) "low self-esteem." The rest of the book is devoted to telling us how we can supposedly "raise" it.
Ellis' point is that "self-esteem" is NOT the root cause of all mental problems, contrary to what many self-help "experts" tell us. In fact, "self-esteem" can even be counter-productive. If you have high self-esteem, for example, you may think that you "deserve" to be happy, satisfied and fulfilled no matter what job you have or what circumstances you are in. Dr. Ellis' point is that we must get away from obsessing over "self-esteem," both as individuals and as a society, and start dealing with the real false beliefs that cause us distress.
This book is not so much about not trying to achieve significant things in life as it is about not blaming ourselves when we fail, as we occasionally will.
But what is `self-esteem' anyway? Typically, in the mind of most people in America, it means `overall rating of your worth as a person'.
If you're an intelligent person capable of critical thinking and are willing to seriously think about the concept of this `self-esteem' stuff, you'll tend to feel that it's very confusing.
`I speak very well, so I feel good about my self'; then `I'm overweight, so I feel lousy about myself'; then `my school grade is A+, so I'm better than most people in the class'; then `I failed to enroll in Harvard, what a loser I am'; then `Cathy didn't invite me for her wedding, so I must be not good enough, I feel depressed', etc, etc. So, how much is your 'total worth'? No wonder so many people's `self-esteem' is in the hands of other people.
In order to rate your `total worth' (self-esteem) against other people, you have to enlist all of your strength and weakness and opinion of every people you know, and enlist all the attributes of other people you can imagine, and weigh them on a magic balance.
How this is possible? What's your overall worth to yourself?
THIS IS IMPOSSIBLE! It's absurd to rate your `total worth'. It's absurd that `your total worth' depends on comparison with and opinion of other people.
As a person, you value your own existence, care for your own needs and naturally want to enjoy your life. So, based on reality, naturally you want to develop some skills and abilities to earn a decent living and also to seek to realize you potential. That's all. You're not perfect (not even close to being perfect). No one really is. You don't have to rate your `total worth'.Read more ›
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This book is about being kind to yourself and others regardless of whether you or they possess high status resources. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Do No Harm
I love Ellis. He is practical and his techniques work if you apply them.Published 3 months ago by Virginia King
Albert Ellis pioneered a revised approach to self-esteem in particular & cognitive therapy models in general, over a half-century ago, & his system is still productive today.Published 3 months ago by Jerrold I. Gilbert
This is probably one of the top ten. Yes, even in Albert Ellis' opinion.Published 4 months ago by Amazon Customer
Good help book if you need to explore issues regarding self esteem. It was recommended to be read and I think the recommendation was right on. Read morePublished 11 months ago by Clarke
Ellis' self-esteem isn't lacking. But I guess he's earned it. This book confirms that he does.Published 14 months ago by Amazon Customer
This book is a philosophical, logical, practical and scientifically sound study of self-acceptance and its psychotherapy applications.Published on August 24, 2014 by Tomas A. Serrano