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Necessary Dreams: Ambition in Women's Changing Lives Paperback – February 8, 2005
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Okay, now that we got that out of the way (I am always wary of five star reviews myself), I just have to say that this is a great book. I first bought the book thinking it was a book on teaching woman how to be more ambitious. I am a pretty passive person in general. I lack drive and motivation, but have big dreams for myself. Yep, I'm also pretty lazy. So I was looking for a book to jumpstart my psyche so I can go out there and get what I want. Well, I didn't get that from this book. What I got was an eye-opening experience on why woman do the things they do, what drives them to do it, and a brief history of women's accomplishments and hardships through the centuries. I could not put this book down. While reading, I felt compassion, anger, hope, devastation, and a slew of other emotions that I haven't felt in a long time. I was finally understanding why I do the things that I do, why I defer to men all the time and let some of them run my life. This is a deeply psychological book, and the way it is written reminds me of a professional research paper. What I'm saying is, you really have to follow closely and pay attention to get the most out of it. It is definitely for the serious reader. So please, whether you are a woman or a man, you will benefit much from reading this fine work.
Not a self help book -- there are no Ten Steps to a Better You in these pages --Necessary Dreams will help you think about your life in new and maybe surprising ways. It's the perfect answer to the ongoing backlash against feminism that has done so much to make women feel guilty for wanting things men take for granted. The writing is a joy, too--clear, trenchant, and witty.
It's also the rare scholarly psych book that's also...very funny. Fels' two-page takedown of John Gray's tired (and wildly flawed!) Mars/Venus formula will make you laugh...while you wince. Women of the Western world, read this book: you're not crazy, but you are tired and suffering from a kind of low-grade, ambition-sapping flu. This book provides a healing balm...and a bracing wakeup call.
This book is not about male-bashing; it's about seeing the ways in which our society (male and female) consistently discourages women from seeking recognition for their achievements - and ultimately from achieving anything at all. While Fels offers some guidance on how to correct the imbalance, I wish there were a clearer path laid out. I suppose that's up to us to figure out.
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This is a great book and goes deeply to provide analysis of the general women issues in the modern society in an objective way. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Joan
The book was not exactly right for my needs, and I found it hard to understand.Published 11 months ago by Janise
Wow- were was this book when I was a single MOM raising 3 sons??? Even now as they have grown into their own lives I found value in this book to enhance my current career.Published on October 5, 2013 by Gloria Cartwright
I purchased "Necessary Dreams" at the same time as Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers (A NICE GIRLS Book). Read morePublished on December 10, 2012 by Inspiring Insomnia
Fels is a very smart psychiatrist, who addresses the central problem that many intelligent women have, in getting and staying motivated to do what it takes to be successful. Read morePublished on May 27, 2011 by dragonlady
This book is particularly important for young women who are struggling with the competing demands on their time and their identity and those who struggle with ambivalence about... Read morePublished on November 2, 2010 by The Hourglass Solution
This is a great book for any woman who wants to resurrect her goals, dreams, ideals, etc. that she may have left on the side of the road in favor of some other aspect of her life... Read morePublished on February 15, 2009 by Kendra Kett
In "Necessary Dreams" by Ana Fels, Fels articulates some of the subtle issues that are always present but rarely discussed. Read morePublished on April 9, 2008 by SF Native
While reading this book I thought of every woman I know, and of the men in their lives. I wanted to send it to each of them, regardless of their stage in life or regardless of the... Read morePublished on September 27, 2007 by catherine