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In the early 1990s, the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming -- being a submissive, masochist, slave, 'boy' or 'girl, ' or other BDSM recipient -- is as much an art as topping. Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players. Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book gives even more insights and ideas about how to be a successful, popular bottom!

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Dossie Easton is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor who specializes in the concerns of people with alternative sexualities. A lesbian bottom, she has been active in the S/M scene since the early 1960s.

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Janet W. Hardy is a writer and sex educator, and founder of Greenery Press. She has also been published as Catherine A. Liszt and Lady Green. She is the author or co-author of eleven books, and frequently collaborates with Dossie Easton

Dossie Easton is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor who specializes in the concerns of people with alternative sexualities. A lesbian bottom, she has been active in the S/M scene since the early 1960s.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Greenery Press; 2nd edition (January 12, 2001)
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Paperback ‏ : ‎ 173 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1890159352
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1890159351
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 9.3 ounces
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6 x 0.5 x 9 inches

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Ned Flanders

Transformed my understanding of BDSM

Reviewed in the United States on June 22, 2023

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Brief, so well-written, and I highly recommend the companion book "The New Topping Book".

If you're interested in power dynamics / 'trust games', buy these 2 books. I don't think you'll be disappointed.

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Aletheia Knights

Good information, but may disappoint 24/7 lifestylers

Reviewed in the United States on October 12, 2011

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Every now and then, over the course of the year and a quarter that I've been exploring BDSM, I've stumbled across a perfect gem: an author who voices my own unspoken thoughts more clearly than I ever thought possible. Having spent over two decades ashamed of my own need and ultimately isolated from my sexuality, I cannot overstate the value of these little glimpses into other minds that think like mine. Polly Peachum's lovely essay "The Fragrant Dust" leaves me exhilarated and stunned with recognition. Miria Hunter and Yaldah Tovah have written some of the finest essays you'll ever read on the dynamics of consensual Master/slave relationships and the psychology of submission.

Perhaps it was a mistake to pick up "The New Bottoming Book" looking for more of the same. After all, such a perfect meeting of the minds is a rare thing. I've learned from and enjoyed plenty of articles that weren't entirely on my wavelength. But here was a whole book on the experience of bottoming, a book that professes on page 1 to be "a celebration of sensational submissives and marvelous masochists . . . of those who love to struggle and serve and scream and submit . . . of bottoms, submissives, captives, slaves, pets and all the beautiful recipients who ever peopled a kinky imagination." I hoped that here was a book that would help me understand my own sometimes mystifying needs and desires.

And there were some passages in the book that did exactly that. There's a list in Chapter 2 of emotions that a person might wish to experience in-scene, and along with such expected items as "helplessness," "lust," "humiliation," and "being nurtured," I was pleasantly astonished to discover "martyrdom," "pathos," "resentment," "sadness." Rarely, if ever, had I seen such emotions treated as potentially normal and desirable parts of the BDSM experience, and yet they figured often in my fantasies as part of an essentially cathartic psychodrama. Obviously, seeing as how Easton and Hardy saw fit to include them in the list, there are other people who have the same needs I do to venture into the realm of quiet, dark emotions.

Unfortunately, such moments of joyous connection were rare. Through most of the book I had the disconcerting feeling that I was waiting for something that was just out of reach, promised and even sampled, but never actually attained. I wanted to read about the psychology of submission, while the authors seemed more focused on the erotic thrills of play. Easton and Hardy seem to expect their readers to engage in scenes of limited duration, with a variety of partners, for the purpose of mutual erotic gratification. If you're involved in, or looking for, a relationship based on total power exchange, internal enslavement, and/or consensual nonconsent, you won't find much of use in these pages beyond what you'd get in any general-interest BDSM book (there are a handful of references to 24/7 D/s in these pages, but ultimately nothing of substance). If you enjoy playing at being a slave, you'll love this book. If you really want to BE a slave, the constant focus on YOUR rights, YOUR power, YOUR gratification, may be more than a little disconcerting.

I could easily have given this book four stars, in spite of its flaws. After all, it is presented, according to the title at least, as a guide to bottoming, not to submission or enslavement. There are far more play bottoms or part-timers out there than there are dedicated 24/7 lifestylers, and Easton and Hardy might well be commended for sticking to what they know rather than trying to tackle a topic with which neither has any particular experience (both authors are switches, and Hardy actually leans more to the "top" end of the spectrum). However, since one of the purposes of this book is to help novice bottoms accept themselves, I couldn't quite forgive a couple of brief passages that actually seem to disparage 24/7 relationships. On page 30, Easton and Hardy tell us that "[t]he desire you may have to be utterly bottom, to be operated by and operated on by another, to be very small, to be owned . . . is not reasonable." I found this very disturbing, as did several of my friends. After struggling for years with this strange and shameful desire to be truly and profoundly owned, the last thing we need is to be told by our fellow BDSM'ers that we're irrational and unreasonable. I read this sentence with only a twinge of uncertainty and a great deal of annoyance, but if I had picked up this book a year earlier, I likely would have come away from it in despair that I was disturbingly deviant even by the standards of folks who like to wear leather and hang out in dungeons.

If you are a play bottom, this might be the most useful book you'll ever read. If you're a slave at heart, however, although you may find a few valuable nuggets scattered among these pages, I definitely recommend that you begin your literary explorations elsewhere.

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DelMarVaKinkster

WELL WORTH READING…

Reviewed in the United States on January 17, 2023

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Interesting book, Janet Hardy takes a serious subject, how to be a safe, informed, and well prepared bottom, and treats it with logic, common sense and humor. Everyone has a different definition of what it means to be a bottom and Hardy's book helps you figure that out for yourself. Its not a how to manual, there are other books for that, it is more of a its alright to be who your are manual. Some sections, such as her dealing with the internet, are a little outdated, but all in all the information in here is timeless and for both bottoms and tops its a book you should read.

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Phoebe

Problematic limited scope

Reviewed in the United States on January 3, 2022

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I bought this book because I was looking for an honest philosophical discussion of BDSM and bottoming that would help me understand myself more. I wanted to unravel the problematic relationship between a desire to be debased and an antithetical strong belief in feminism. I did not find that in this book. What I found was a manifesto and a how-to book with many lost opportunities to be honest or thorough in their examination of what it means to be a bottom. This page is an example: they mention the concept of “forever roles” (the way you can wind up feeling like you are still submissive and weak and your partner can wind up still feeling dominant even when it is not play time) and they completely side-pass the opportunity to discuss the extremely problematic nature of this phenomena, instead giving some nebulous suggestion to assuage each other’s ego. What? If a man continues to feel dominant over women and I continue to feel debased and subordinate to men during my real life, that is a PROBLEM. Clearly the people who wrote this book have pledged their allegiance to the culture of BDSM and dare not speak any heretical doubts about it even for a second. Disappointing.

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Brittany C

Informative

Reviewed in the United States on July 21, 2021

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Awesome book! Relatively new to the BDSM community and found this book to be helpful and informative. The authors go over in great detail all the different aspects of play and scenes and give personal examples. They also remind readers that there is no shame in someone’s desires and emphasize as long as there is communication and things are handled in a safe and consensual way, the outcomes are amazing. I was worried it would be outdated as it was published 20 years ago, but the same general principles apply well.

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Fun Mom

Power and meaning that BDSM can create for a practitioner.

Reviewed in the United States on October 12, 2018

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This is NOT a How To Manual but rather real-life anecdotes showing the sensations, feelings, meaning and power one can experience through a BDSM exchange, scene or practice.

I love understanding why people do what they do. It is easy to describe what a sexual practice or relationship looks like in terms of external appearances and customs and those things are covered by many other books. This gives a VERY thoughtful, intimate and personal description of the way the authors and others experience being a “bottom” in a bdsm exchange, i.e., the one generally in a receiving role in a scene.

The authors explain some of the reasons *why* and how these exchanges can be transformative, healing & spiritual and of course mention the more commonly known reasons, such as enjoyment!

I highly recommend this if you are trying to understand the appeal and some of the emotional and psychological cautions and possible outcomes and safety issues.

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Peter

BDSM book.

Reviewed in Australia on October 1, 2021

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I have heard gay friends express dissatisfaction with this book and I can understand why. The average gay man would see the title and misunderstand what the book is about. The book is a thorough account of how to be a great bottom in BDSM, whether male or female.

The term Bottom is used a bit differently in non-BDSM gay male sex. While its use in both spheres is perfectly valid, it should be clearer from the title that the book relates to the mixed BDSM scene.

spoonfeeding

Je recommande couplé avec le New Topping Book

Reviewed in France on July 31, 2014

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L'un ne se lit pas sans l'autre pour en finir avec la dichotomie Top/Bottom. Le livre attire l'attention sur d'autres considérations " L'échange de plaisir". Du coup les rôles ne sont pas hiérarchiques comme le veut la classification traditionnelle.

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Max Zachs

Its a classic

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on February 1, 2014

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Yes this book is a classic but that's because its awesome, its a standard text and you can't really get by without reading it. I have the feeling I will buy this many times over to give as a gift its just that good.

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Joan Arling

The New Bottoming Book

Reviewed in Germany on July 22, 2011

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Ein Buch, das sich unüblicherweise nur mit der "unterlegenen" Sichtweise des Themas BDSM beschäftigt (es gibt das Pendant "The New Topping Book" von denselben Autorinnen).

Frau Easton und Frau Hardy sind selbst erfahren in der Praxis und geben auch mit der Schilderung eigener Erlebnisse, sowohl Erfolgen als auch Fehlschlägen, einen sehr glaubwürdigen Blick auf was geschehen kann (oder auch, was nicht geschehen sollte).

Es gibt keine Ausflüge in die Welt Gor, keine Anleitung zu Spielzeug... es geht darum, wie Subbie es anstellt, optimal mit ihre(r/m) Top zu interagieren. In dieser Hinsicht topt ('tschulligung) dieses Buch alle deutsche Literatur über BDSM mit Leichtigkeit.

Einziges "Problem": es ist nur in englischer Sprache erhältlich. Wen das nicht stört: Tun Sie sich den preiswerten Gefallen und lesen Sie es (oder das Pendant)!

Nicht vorgesehene sechs Sterne.

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Amazon Kunde

awesome book

Reviewed in Germany on June 2, 2020

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great book, i read the topping book 2 times, now this one :)

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