Be the Noodle expresses the wisdom of the head and the heart. I have experienced all that Lois Kelly writes about on a personal and professional level and her short, easily understood lessons are a gift to us all. --Bernie Siegel, MD, author, Faith, Hope &Healing and Help Me to Heal
Lois Kelly has captured the ups and downs of caring for a loved one with great humor and wisdom. Her insightful ways to be helpful -- all 50 of them -- are well worth knowing and embracing. --The Rev. Paige Fisher, associate rector for pastoral care, Trinity Church
"This wonderful book, written from both the heart and the head, would provide great support and comfort to anyone caring for a relative or friend who is dying." --Dr. Roger Woodruff, International Association of Hospice & Palliative Care
From the Author
I am so humbled and joyful knowing that this little book has done just that for many. I am also grateful that people have been kind enough to tell me how the book affected their lives.
One of my favorite stories came from a family in Alabama.
My niece gave Be the Noodle to her college friend Kelli whose father was dying. Kelli was at school miles away from home, sick with worry about her terminally ill father. She read Be the Noodle and sent it to her mother. Then her mother called and said, "Come home."
A few months later Kelli's mother wrote, "I had no intention of sharing with Kelli or her brother the last 15 days when the dying had begun. My husband and I did not want those memories to be our children's last memories of their father.
"But when Kelly read Be the Noodle and told me about it, it allowed me to share with her the most agonizing, poignant, intimate, and life-changing experience of our lives.
"Thank you for helping us remember my husband's final days not with agony and heart break but as his caregiver, the 'most courageous, inspiring and rewarding job I never wanted.'"
I hope that some of the 50 lessons in this book help you navigate the adventure of dying, and find small joys and new sources of love in those difficult days.
PS - Please consider passing the book along to someone who has entered the caregiver journey. They will appreciate it much more than a banana bread or casserole.