- Paperback: 268 pages
- Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform; 1 edition (December 28, 2015)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1522966382
- ISBN-13: 978-1522966388
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.5 inches
- Shipping Weight: 12.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 64 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #923,928 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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If you met Mary DeMuth today, her joy would confuse you. Who she has become in light of tragedy is a testimony of Jesus’s ability to transform a broken life. A child of three divorces, a victim of sexual assault at a young age, with a father who died when she was ten, Mary wanted to end her life in her teens. In the tenth grade, she heard about Jesus, and she knew she wanted to chase after Him for the rest of her life. Thankfully, He chased her. Mary is the author of thirty books, including her latest: The Day I Met Jesus: The Revealing Diaries of Five Women from the Gospels. She has spoken around the world about God’s ability to uncage a life, bringing needed freedom to her audiences. She’s been on the 700 Club, spoken in Munich, Cape Town, and Monte Carlo, and planted a church with her family in southern France. Her best work? Being a mom to three amazing young adults and the wife of nearly 25 years to Patrick. She makes her home in Dallas alongside her husband, and two dueling cats. Find out more at marydemuth.com.
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What we usually do not see is the psychological, emotional and spiritual toil the abuse and the loss of trust in adult caretakers imposes on the victims. Mary offers us a window into those wounds and the devastating effects they have on all aspects of the victim’s life, often for the rest of her life. As Mary puts it, these scars leave the victim feeling “marked.” As Mary describes it, it feels like an “imprinted sexual abuse mark, a beacon inviting others to abuse you, a reminder to you and other that you carry secret shame. It seems so permanent, more indelible than a Sharpie pen’s ink, as if the sexual abuse was pierced underneath your skin like a tattoo.” It is a mark that has led many victims spiraling into despair, depression and even death, as Satan has imprinted his lies into their lives, convincing them than they are beyond hope.
Mary shows us that it does not need to be that way. That is the overarching message of this book. Mary shows us that if we place our trust in Jesus, then He will walk with us on a healing journey that will lead to wholeness, restoration and redemption. Mary offers a poignant illustration: Imagine that you are walking along with the scarlet mark fully visible on your forehead. People point at it, snicker, flirt or try to seduce you. Despite your best efforts, you cannot erase the mark, so you begin to walk with your head down, watching your feet. “Suddenly you almost run into Someone, spying sandaled feet on the sidewalk in front of you. You look up and catch the gaze of Love. Jesus weeps as He sees your mark. He wipes His tears, then takes His hand, still wet from tears, and washes away the mark. No evidence of the mark remains---it’s been washed away.” You are unmarked, free. That is the promise of true healing that Mary presents in an honest and winsome way. It is not an easy journey and will not succeed unless the victim and those she loves intentionally pursue healing. However, it is a fruitful and worthwhile endeavor, one that will lead you out of the darkness into the Light of healing, hope and eternal life.
If you are ready to live freely and unmarked, or you are ready to offer that hope to someone you love, Mary’s book is the place to begin. Find out more at [...] .
Read more about Mary’s story and discover some outstanding resources to help you or your loved one on a healing journey at: [...]
Although I don't know her well, I'm familiar with Mary's story. I've read her memoir and most of her novels.
Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing After Sexual Abuse is a must read. Not just for survivors of sexual abuse. Not just for spouses of sexual abuse victims. It is a must read for everyone.
Because, statistically, we all know a sexual abuse survivor.
DeMuth shares her own story with frankness and authenticity but without appealing to anyone's prurient interests. She gives practical help for those working for healing and for those walking along their side. Her husband, Patrick, has also written several portions of the book giving his perspective as a spouse of a survivor.
I passed my copy of this book on to a family member with instructions to send it on to another. I ordered a copy and had it sent to a friend. This is a book that everyone needs to read.
Did I say that already?
Well, it bears repeating.
Pass it on.
Initially that was my motive for reading this book...to try to understand the pain they have and are still wading through.
But what I found was that regardless of my own background, this book pointed my heart to-- HOPE.
Hope for real healing. Hope found in Jesus, His love, and His ability to heal.
Mary doesn't gloss over the pain and struggle, she doesn't minimize the heartache, but she offers real suggestions (not platitudes) for healing and progress and she proclaims the freedom of living-- not marked.
As a mom, I appreciated Part 4 in this book as well-- where Mary discusses common questions about sexual abuse and also discusses ways to protect children from sexual abuse. I also appreciated her husband, Patrick's, input as he vulnerably shared how he has been impacted and how God has worked in their marriage through the process of healing.
This book made me cry. It made me angry. But it pointed towards hope.
And I'm so thankful Mary wrote it and put words to the silence that so often shrouds the topic of sexual abuse.