I really don't feel like going back to previous love experiences and this morning when I woke up I wondered if I couldn't live without a man and a steady relationship. I mean, what purpose does a man serve in my life? I sat up in my bed and made a short list of things to use a man for. I thought I would find maybe just three to four areas so I could just decide to live without him. But before I knew it, the list got long:
1. To talk with about work, both his and mine
2. To laugh together
3. To make love (often)
4. To assist me in making my equipment in the house work
5. To tell me about important historical events when I want to know more
6. To discuss politics with
7. To paint the kitchen and the rest of the house with me
8. To remind me that it really doesn't matter what other people think
9. To give me a massage from head to toe
10. For pure unconditional love
11. To travel the world with - or just spend a long weekend in New York
12. To discuss books with
13. To pay the restaurant check without asking me to share the bill
14. To feel desired
15. To kiss
16. To flirt with
17. To mow the lawn
18. To share delicious food
19. To provide good practical advice on many matters
20. To buy what's on the grocery list
21. To go to the DIY store and come home with the right stuff
22. For grilling food
23. To play with
24. To think big together and make ambitious life plans for us
25. To open jars with jam or pickles that I can never open
26. To cuddle on cold nights (and even those few warm ones)
A list with 26 points means that I cannot live without a man in my life. What is interesting though is that when I try to sort the points into different areas, I end up with the following three main areas:
A. I enjoy having good talks about work, politics, practical matters, life, love and so on.
B. Sex, caressing and cuddling are important to me
C. Practical matters of all kinds must be solved
I got up and took a bath. As I rinsed myself, I had an idea. I'll scrap the traditional boyfriend hunt and instead, I'll look not for one man...but for three men to meet my needs: one to talk with, one to have sex with and one to help me with practical things.
This way, I can improve my skills at dealing with men in three different areas and try to have my needs fulfilled by different men. And each of the men will have a need of their choice satisfied. Most of the time, things go wrong because people's expectations are far too high.
--This text refers to an alternate
kindle_edition edition.