- Paperback: 116 pages
- Publisher: AuthorHouse; 1 edition (January 10, 2006)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1425909744
- ISBN-13: 978-1425909741
- Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 0.3 x 11 inches
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- Average Customer Review: 8 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,494,977 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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About the Author
About The Author My late husband and I had lots of friends, with varied skills and resources, eager to help. Yet I was nearly destroyed until I started applying the principles that you'll be introduced to in this book. Maya Hennessey is a national consultant, trainer and author. In addition to conducting workshops on Maya's Model, and on Communicating Effectively With Healthcare Professionals, she is the chairwoman of the Illinois Community Action Network of the National Family Caregivers Association and has trained for the Illinois Council of Case Coordination Units and Area Agencies on Aging. Maya was featured in the Bill Moyers series on addiction titled Close To Home. She is also a trainer and consultant on services for addicted women and their families with a long list of appointments to city, state, federal projects and committees on child welfare, corrections, sexual assault and domestic violence. For more information on Maya see www.mayahennessey.com. "Working with caregivers daily, I personally recommend anyone providing care or expecting to be providing care to apply Maya's techniques. This book will save you a lot of heartache and help you make the most of your caregiving experience." Theresa Colvin Caregiver Specialist Northwestern Illinois Area Agency on Aging "Maya Hennessey is an incredibly energetic, motivated, and passionate training expert. Her warmth and understanding weave through every word, as she takes participants on a walk through her life and her soul-passing on to others the healing techniques that she discovered throughout her personal and professional journey. " Linda Henderson Prevention Resource Development Project Prevent Child Abuse Illinois "Maya's charisma and her engaging style are the marks of an outstanding presenter and workshop leader, as her expertise and passion for oppressed women keep weaving their way through the additions field." Bill L. White Author, Slaying the Dragon: The History of Addiction and Treatment a
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Hennessey--a longtime (and acclaimed) addictions counselor, educator, consultant, trainer, and psychotherapist--has brought to bear all of her skills, experience, and hard-won insights on this most difficult of situations. If Only is a 102-page workbook certain to change the life of any caregiver--of a partner, child, sibling, or parent--who applies Maya's Model to their challenges. It is a wonderful hybrid that combines theory, personal stories and empowering exercises into practical and therapeutic solutions to the seemingly insoluble problems that anyone of us might face when caring for a loved one with a serious disease or injury.
After a helpful introduction, If Only begins with the author's moving story of how she came to write it--as a desperate response to the agonizing loss of her husband. She writes, "Each caregiver has a personal story to tell. Here's mine [. . .] Walk with me through my story of near-destruction, the mistakes I made, and the lessons I learned that evolved into the model I present you, Caregiver, unsung hero that you are." This warm and direct engagement with the reader permeates the theory, practical advice, and exercises that follow.
Then, in easy-to-apply steps, Hennessey lays out the model she wishes she had had when her trials began, made up of: the Caregiver (each one's unique personality and preferences); the To-Do List (unique to the reader/user, their family, and the loved one); the Social Support Network (composed of the reader/user's friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances, and community services people); and the all-important Mind-Mapping method which blends the right and left brain into creative problem solving. Mind Mapping is a simple but creative and flexible way to sketch out and break down tasks; assemble categories of people (helpers) in one's Social Support Network; and match up helpers (the Social Support Network) with the tasks.
As with the old proverb "The work will teach you how to do it," Hennessey's simple yet powerful exercises guide the reader to apply solutions specific to their own experience. This, in turn, helps the caregiver to deal with feelings and blocks that the exercises might bring up, and get more out of any therapy or relevant support groups they avail themselves of. If Only presents both basic, practical tools for concrete, step-by-step approaches and psychic/spiritual insights to undergird and support the caregiver.
The book brings all of its arsenal to bear in the second-to-last chapter, "Dealing with Difficult People," with an emphasis on kindness, understanding, and firmness. Anecdotes of success in turning unhelpful friends into useful members of the caregiver's social network (or at least neutral observers) is terrific, as is advice on dealing with healthcare and social service professionals and others, using Hennessey's "Assertiveness Ladder."
The last chapter, "Until We Meet Again," ties the book together with warm and practical closing from the author. A thorough resource list of recommended reading and organizational sources, as well as an appendix listing all of the exercises currently comprising "Maya's Model," fill out the book.