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Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: A Guide to Getting Over Your Partner's Past and Finding Peace by [Zachary Stockill]

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Are you tired of constantly thinking about your partner's past relationships and/or dating history?

Do you want to learn how to let go of intrusive, obsessive thoughts, anxiety, and curiosity about your partner’s past?

Wouldn’t it feel great to be free from retroactive jealousy, and be able to move forward in your relationship without worrying about the past?

What if I told you that you already have the “cure” for overcoming retroactive jealousy?

You do—all you need is the proper guidance. And that's where Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy comes in.

Written from the perspective of one who struggled with, and overcame obsessive jealousy surrounding a partner's past, Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy is the only book you will ever need to let go of jealous thoughts, curiosity, and anxiety about your partner’s past relationships/sexual history.

AFTER READING YOU WILL:

• have access to a multi-step program that will help you to let go of your jealousy and anxiety
• begin incorporating coping exercises into your daily routine which will eliminate your jealous thoughts as soon as they appear
• feel a new sense of optimism and confidence in your ability to grow and overcome retroactive jealousy
• understand what your jealousy is really about, and have a concrete plan of action for overcoming it, and moving forward

You might currently feel hopeless; like retroactive jealousy is something that you’ll just be forced to “live with” until you die. You might even be severely depressed, mired in obsessive jealous thoughts and confusion.

Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy will show you that you are suffering needlessly—and show you the way forward.

In nineteen chapters, author and coach Zachary Stockill (featured in BBC News) outlines a series of time-tested strategies, practices, and exercises for overcoming intrusive thoughts about a partner’s past as painlessly and efficiently as possible.

A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR:

Several years ago, I experienced crippling retroactive jealousy. It disrupted my career, destroyed my relationship, and provoked months of anguish. But thankfully, through a process of self-exploration, growth, and discovery, I managed to overcome it.

Based on my experience, and years of research with fellow sufferers, I wrote this book to give you a step-by-step program to help you do the same, and overcome retroactive jealousy as quickly and easily as possible.

I know that this step-by-step program works because since 2013 my book has helped thousands of readers get over retroactive jealousy, and regain control. I now know that my jealousy was actually a blessing in disguise. As I write to you today, I am undoubtedly a stronger, more confident, more loving, and overall better man for having gone through it.

It might not seem like it now, but you too can use your jealousy to your advantage. As you overcome retroactive jealousy, you will emerge a stronger, more confident, more attractive, and more loving person and partner.

So whether you’re struggling with your girlfriend’s past, wife’s past, husband’s past, or your boyfriend’s past, you need to know that you have the power to move forward and kiss obsessive, intrusive thoughts goodbye.

You can get a hold on your brain, and patterns of constant curiosity and obsessive thinking.

You can move forward in your relationship without the burden and strain of retroactive jealousy.

You can be the partner you want to be—you just have to understand where retroactive jealousy comes from, and how to deal with it.

So let’s get started!

Get your copy of the bestselling book on the market for overcoming retroactive jealousy, and join thousands of readers who have regained control, and found peace.

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About the Author

ZACHARY STOCKILL is an award-winning Canadian researcher, writer, and podcaster.

His work has been featured by BBC News, BBC Radio 4, The Sun, The Huffington Post, The Art of Charm, and many other popular podcasts and publications.

Zachary has been acknowledged as a leading authority on dealing with jealousy in relationships. In 2013, he published the guidebook Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: A Guide to Getting Over Your Partner's Past and Finding Peace, and founded RetroactiveJealousy.com, the most visited site on the internet concerning retroactive jealousy. He is also the creator and host of "Get Over Your Partner's Past Fast," an online video course in personal development available via retroactivejealousy.com. His most recent book is The Breakup Recovery Workbook.
He is the creator and host of Humans in Love: A Podcast for Curious People, available worldwide via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and more.You can visit his personal website at zfstockill.com, and follow Zach on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram @zfstockill.

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ASIN ‏ : ‎ B00EZWPHFW
Publisher ‏ : ‎ Humans in Love OÜ (December 9, 2013)
Publication date ‏ : ‎ December 9, 2013
Language ‏ : ‎ English
File size ‏ : ‎ 2176 KB
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Print length ‏ : ‎ 90 pages

Best Sellers Rank: #130,034 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #97 in Two-Hour Self-Help Short Reads
- #163 in Spiritual Growth Self-Help
- #3,054 in Personal Transformation Self-Help

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ZACHARY STOCKILL (B.A, M.A, M.A) is an award-winning Canadian researcher, writer, and podcaster.

Zachary writes about culture and personal development for publications such as the Huffington Post, Mic, PopMatters, and many others. His work has been featured by BBC News, BBC Radio 4, HuffPost Live, The Art of Charm Podcast, Knowledge for Men, The Sun, and many other publications and programs.

Zachary has been acknowledged as a leading voice on confronting and overcoming jealousy in relationships. In 2013, he published the guidebook "Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy," and founded RetroactiveJealousy.com, the most popular site on the internet concerning retroactive jealousy. Zachary is also the host of the popular online course in personal development "Get Over Your Partner's Past Fast," available via retroactivejealousy.com.

In 2016 Zach's former podcast Travels in Music was featured as 'New and Noteworthy' by iTunes US, UK, Canada, and Australia, reaching the top-20 charts in several countries. Zach's new podcast is Humans in Love, a venue for wide-ranging conversations about culture, relationships, and personal development. Humans in Love can be listened to on iTunes, Stitcher, Google Play, and most places podcasts can be heard. You can also listen to his solo podcast, The Zachary Stockill Podcast.

You can follow Zachary on Twitter and Instagram @zfstockill, and visit his personal website at http://zfstockill.com.

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M25

Well worth the time

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on March 23, 2023

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I was fine for many years, with a slight flare-up of Retroactive Jealousy now and then. Recently I was reflecting, and out of nowhere, Retroactive Jealousy struck me. I got the Kindle book and read it in two hours. There is nothing new or cutting-edge in the book. Still, Zachary Stockill does an excellent job of piecing together a variety of theories, information, and examples that will help you overcome Retroactive Jealousy. I read the book, immediately implemented some of his ideas, and saw some results. What I like about the book, it gives me an understanding of some of the issues, the causes, and solutions.

For example, I dealt with Retroactive Jealousy regularly while I lived in the same town as my wife’s ex-boyfriend, and when we moved, there was a significant improvement. Zach’s discussion of triggers provided some excellent insight into why this was the case, and I could look back and see what the actual triggers were. Plus, now I can avoid triggers. Although the example of the field and clouds seems simple, I have used this as a reminder to move on and not entertain the thoughts of your partner and her past partners. It is all about controlling your thoughts and emotions and not going down the rabbit hole that will destroy you and your relationship. It is not the curse but the power you give the curse that influences your life. I told my wife I was reading the book, and she was quite pleased. I shared some of what I was doing with her, and now she can hold me accountable. If you are experiencing Retroactive Jealousy, take the time and do the work Zach suggests. I am currently working on the letters he offers writing. This is very therapeutic. On a side note, forgiveness was my key over the years.

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Maddy H

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Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on May 7, 2023

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I found this book to be helpful in my own struggles both for its practical exercises and the simple reassurance that I’m not alone in the struggle of retroactive jealousy. Zach does a good job of impressing upon the reader the seriousness of the issue without making you feel like a total dirtbag.
I gave four stars instead of five because I would have enjoyed a little more depth into the mindfulness stuff, and a little more help with how to shift your interactions with your partner, not only your interactions with yourself.

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Tamara

Great read, highly recommend

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on May 3, 2023

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For years I struggled in silence and felt alone in my feelings until this book. It felt like the author was perfectly explaining myself and my struggle. I highly recommend this book to anyone struggling with RJ.

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on December 26, 2022

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After a bit of research and realizing I have been suffering from RJ, I decided to read this book. I was desperate to heal; the thoughts of my partner's previous sexual encounters would play like a full length movie in my head. It would create anxiety and mental exhaustion and I wanted to get rid of it. From the moment I started reading this book I couldn't put it down and I finished it within a week, which for me, is fast reading. I recognize that I'm not completely healed but within this short amount of time, I'm able to control my thoughts and emotions much better than I was just a short while ago. I recognize I still have much work laying ahead and I may have bad moments but I highly recommend this book as the beginning step for self-heal and to get rid of RJ.

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John A.

Good, but a little too generalized

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on August 22, 2022

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Although I thought this was a good read because of the specialized subject matter, to me, the most valuable part of the book was the examples of RJ the author quoted from others. I was immediately able to relate to those feelings. I think the problems I had with the book were that the exercises were either just common sense “If she still wanted him, she’d be with him, remember that.” or too “meditate…it helps”. I was expecting some deeper insight, but then again, the author noted he’s not a psychiatrist and therapy should still be a utilized resource if needed, so that was good. The other issue I had was that it’s a bit too generalized when I think RJ is probably pretty nuanced. In the author’s defense, you can’t address everyone’s specific situation in one book, but for example, in my case, my RJ was situational. I’d never experienced it in previous relationships, AND even in this relationship, the jealousy was around 1 ex, not ALL of her ex’s…and even with that 1 ex, it took years for my jealousy to kick in. What sparked it, was my partners inability to stop telling stories that revolved around things she’d done with him, places they’d gone, things he’d bought for her, etc. That and the fact that she remained in touch with him, even when he was actively trying to sabotage our relationship (trying to get her to come see him, telling her I could never give her what she’s accustomed to like he could, etc). She didn’t engage with that, but just the fact that she enabled his behavior by never completely cutting the communication off, ended up causing a lot of trouble in our relationship, and kicked my RJ into overdrive. I was hoping to find some help dealing with that, but this book fell a little short on that front for me. I think my review can be summarized by me reading (in BOLD FACE) “move away from the idea that your partner’s lovers left some sort of indelible impression on your parter – they didn’t”, and thinking “That CLEARLY is not the case with my partner…so how do I deal with THAT?”

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Johnny

RJ doesn't stand a chance

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on January 11, 2023

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Reading through the book was not enough, there is too much to digest. After reading through the book twice, I have found a new release on my relationship and life. That being said, this book is an amazing start for me. My RJ has been pretty bad, so after getting this book, I have also gotten Stockhill's course. My RJ has already descresed dramatically, and I'm so excited to get rid of it for good. Thank you, Mr. Stockhill for 1) your detail to information, and 2) your belief in putting in the work equalling success. Highly recommend to anyone who is even remotely plagued by RJ.

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The Guv'Nor

Long winded and totally autobiographical

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on September 10, 2019

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This book, is, trying far too hard to be the be all and end all manuscript in a jealousy field. But falls way below what I was expecting from the other reviews.
Most of the time the author rewrites the same thing down over and over ad nauseam. Which for a book of 100 pages 50 pages were unnecessary. All you needed to write was
" don't think about the past, you cannot change it. Don't think about the future as it hasn't happened so cannot be changed. All you have to worry about is now! This precise moment. Do what you need to do and don't think about your partner's past or future. Live for today if your partner wants to be with you then they will be. If they cheat just walk away. You being jealous wont change anything apart from hurt yourself. "
There all done in less that the book done it in.

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Aaron

I feel free at last, for the first time. Thank you

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on January 8, 2018

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I have just finished reading this book and I have already let go of so much toxic thought and anger, I can't believe it! I feel so empowered now. This book has given me so many practical tools to deal with and change my thinking that I just have this inner confidence that I'm going to be ok now.

These things used to send me to a place of anger that was not experienced in any other area of my life. I used to beat myself up with my own feelings around this stuff.

Thank you Zach. You are a life saver. Well done on creating a solution to this debilitating illness

8 people found this helpful

sportsywardy

What a huge help

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on January 7, 2019

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A book that truly spoke to me and has made me feel better, free-er than anything else I've read. The authors states its not a book to be reread, but after one read I genuinely felt like a weight was lifted. I wouldn't normally review but if the author every reads these - thank you

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Seano.

Amazing book.

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on June 9, 2017

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I've had the book for 5 days now and it has already made a huge difference to my life. It's great to know I'm not alone in this and the book has helped me look at my jealousy in a different light. I can deal with the mental movies and intrusive thoughts now.

I have started on the exercises in the book and I'm researching different meditation techniques. Anything that helps right?

Thanks a million Zach. You have changed my life.

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Amazon Customer

Right on the mark!

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on October 13, 2022

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I've read a few books on this subject and Zachary's approach and words don't beat around the bush, but they also spot on. You really feel that has been through this and struggled with it himself. He tells it as it is (from his own experience, which I think is very important), but a bit of tough love is needed to snap you out of the nonsense that that does nothing else but suck the life out of you. Highly recommended.

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