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Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship Paperback – November 3, 2003
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"Bernstein and Magee ... will assist any motivated couple in making meaningful changes in their relationship." -- Monroe A. Bruch, Professor of Counseling Psychology, University of Albany, State University of New York
"This book [will]...help your relationship become better, less conflicted, and more romanticeven if your partner doesnt read it!" -- Steven D. Mullinix, Ph.D.
"This excellent book ... gives detailed guidance on how to create a lasting love. I heartily recommend it." -- Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., New York Times best-selling author of Getting the Love You Want
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2) Catastrophic Conclusions
3) The Should Bomb (feeling like your partner should be able to know what you are thinking/feeling)
4) Label Slinging
5) The Blame Game (seeing yourself as a victim)
6) Emotional Short-Circuit (feeling like your partner's emotions can't be handled; can lead to the silent treatment)
7) Overactive Imagination
8) Head Game Gamble (trying to read partner's mind)
9) Disillusionment Doom
I don't think the title fits the book. I feel like this book could easily be overlooked because I told myself "that just doesn't feel like what our problem is." But I got it anyway. I'm happy. My girlfriend is happy. We aren't dancing in the streets like a couple of loons, but we are more open, honest, and able to recognize our problems before they get blown out of proportion. The tools in this book should be required reading in every relationship. I almost feel bad for people who haven't read it yet. I'd buy it for my friends if it didn't seem like I was "saying something."
The downside of the book is it's quite boring. I love to read. I read about one book a week. But this book was a bit difficult just because it didn't really have a lot of fluff. Which is a plus in some ways, but some humor, motivation, more success stories, or just some interesting analogies would have been nice to hold my interest.
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This book was tremendously helpful. Great information how to communicate to your spouse without the expectation that he/she can read our minds. Read morePublished 3 months ago by melissa
Jeff had spent a few hours over the phone with me many years ago. His book gives everyone a chance to hear what he has to say, and benefit from it for years to come.Published 4 months ago by Karla
Overall I think this is a great book! It helps illustrate how distorted thought patterns influence relationships in a very simplistic way. Read morePublished 4 months ago by Baliloci
I haven't read this yet but I sent it to my husband in jail and he enjoyed it. He said he learned some valuable concepts and recommended that I also read it and can learn some new... Read morePublished 5 months ago by Stephanie Johnson
I don't think the title does this book justice. Excellent book, lots of ah-ha moments! Not just a marriage book, I think it this is a great read for anyone as it helps point out... Read morePublished 6 months ago by Cassie Mulanax
I bought this a couple years ago and I'm on here again looking to buy another copy, as my first one got lost between people borrowing it. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Brittany
I really loved reading this book. It really helped me think differently about how I act and react in my relationships. Read morePublished 10 months ago by Alex
This book is terrible, just another book telling you to think positive, supposed to tell you how to do it but was never clear on that. Read morePublished 11 months ago by Luke