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Very good, but get from a library
on October 11, 2012
This book had some excellent questions that helped clarify for me many issues surrounding the decision to become a parent. But first, I would recommend that you check this out from a library instead of purchasing it because you are likely to find as I did that many chapters are not applicable to you (in my case I skipped entire chapters: 5: Deciding Whether You Want to Be a Single Parent (no way), 7: For Couples: Is Your Relationship Ready for a Child? 11: Taking a Close Look at Your Relationship, and 12 Giving Yourself Permission to Wait (not an option, I'm old). That is a lot of book that is Not Applicable, so don't waste the money.
What I liked: excellent questions/points raised, for example: real reasons for wanting a child, distinguising fantasy from reality, are you physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially prepared, and finally are you willing to be and do all that it takes to be a good parent (e.g., huge disruption in your current lifestyle and sacrificing of things you value)?
I like that the psychological explanations behind your possible answers are brief and include (also brief) anecdotes and quotes from people.