- Paperback: 160 pages
- Publisher: Perigee Trade; Expanded edition (December 4, 2012)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0399161929
- ASIN: B00FY2TDES
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.4 x 8.2 inches
- Shipping Weight: 5 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 77 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,837,818 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Parenting the QBQ Way, Expanded Edition: How to be an Outstanding Parent and Raise Great Kids Using the Power of Personal Accountability Paperback – Bargain Price, December 4, 2012
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''I have used the QBQ! book in my business for years! Now my wife and I are applying QBQ concepts to the raising of our children and we've been amazed at the positive outcome at home.'' -- Steve Jones, president, Tenacity Investment Group
''The best way to raise an accountable generation is to ensure that we, as parents, make personal accountability a core value in the home. Parenting the QBQ Way is the tool to do just that.'' --Kevin Brown, assistant vice president, ServPro --This text refers to the Audio CD edition.
About the Author
Karen G. Miller has served as a mentor to other moms in MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) and MOMSNext. She was a registered nurse for sixteen years.
John and Karen, who have been married since 1980, live in Denver, Colorado. They have seven children.
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A simple book that is filled with other ways to look at situations.
Children are children. There is not much we can do about that. They deserve to be children.... they will only be children for a small amount of time. But instead of "blaming" the negative side of parenting on the children, QBQ asks parents to look within. To ask YOU why your children are acting the way they are. Instead of saying "Why are you doing this to me??" Try to ask yourself "why are they acting this way? What can I do that will make this better?"
The main goal with Parenting the QBQ Way is to look within, instead of outward. A simple concept, really.
Every child is different, every parent is different, every parenting style is different. The key is to find the best style to parent YOUR children. Sometimes seeing words in print makes them clearer than thinking them in your head.
Parenting the QBQ Way is filled with parenting situations from a nightmare on an airplane (nightmare for the child involved!) to sisterly love'ish drama. In every story there is a point where you see what went wrong (and even cringe at some).... It is easier looking in from the outside than it is looking in from inside! Just the simple aspect of it gets you thinking...... all it takes is a thought to begin a change. Just one single thought.
From this book I realized I can stop and take a breather. I can LOOK in and see what is happening, why it is happening and how I can (attempt) to correct it. No one is perfect. And that is okay. All I want is to be better for my babies. And taking a moment to see why something is happening is a huge step in correcting it. (Again... common sense factor.... but I was surprised by how I forgot that. I hold an Early Childhood Development Education Degree..... and yet I forgot this simple skill.)
Parenting the QBQ Way asks you to complete a simple task. A task so simple I kind of laughed at it, at first. But then I thought about it (there is that word THOUGHT again...) What better way to see what is inside of a child's mind than to ASK them. Simple right? The question is "What can I do to be a better mommy/daddy for you?" I thought I knew what the answer was going to be.... If you ask a child what you can do to be better (my children anyway) the words more candy and juice come to mind.... But the answers that came out of my children's mouths.... brought the sun into my house.
"What can I do to be a better mommy?"
Pooker (5 years old):
"Love me, kiss me and snuggle with me.... but you do that already mommy."
Kit Kat (3 years old)
"buy another mommy..."
With my oldest, I realized that even with my faults.... in her eyes I am the best mommy for her (right now.) With my youngest.... everything revolves around stores...... My sweet Kit Kat, not everything can be purchased. :-)
Now, don't roll your eyes at me. I know we are all "perfect" parents and we have heard and seen lots of books on parenting. However, all I can say about this one is "WOW!" It's a super quick read with some of the best parenting advice and insight I've read anywhere. I know, I know...who has time to read, right? I get it, each chapter is only a couple of pages long so you are able to take in the message and put the book down until you are ready for the next lesson.
QBQ stands for the "Question Behind the Question." It's about asking "How" and "What." If we start questions with "Why," "When," or "Who," they lead to "victim" thinking. In the end, we are parents...not victims though sometimes we feel that way!
It's turned a lot of my thinking about parenting around and has introduced a novel concept to me, "personal accountability." Truly, once parents (including myself) accept our role in our child's behavior, we will see a change for the better in our homes and families.
My favorite quote in the book (and it is full of great quotes) is that "when it comes to my child--I own the result." The other one I love, "Our children become what we expect of them." Thus, using words of encouragement, leading by example, being present for them when they talk to us, and using a loving but firm approach are all methods covered in detail in "QBQ."
If you are looking for a summer read at the pool, beach, or in my case, the ice rink, I highly recommend "Parenting the QBQ Way." My book is underlined now and penciled in with my notes or I'd let you borrow mine!
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This book challenged me where I need to be challenged. It's on me. It's nobody else's job to parent the right way.