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Parenting Without Power Struggles: Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids While Staying Cool, Calm, and Connected Paperback – March 13, 2012
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“Susan Stiffelman is full of heart and soul but firmly grounded in commonsense understanding.” -- John Gray, New York Times bestselling author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
“With her clear, wise, soulful, and poetic writing, Susan Stiffelman shows us how both the blessings and challenges of the delicate child-parent relationship can be a hotbed for mutual growth, healing, and connection. With children determining the future of our planet, Susan lays the groundwork for us to usher this new generation toward a more healed, humane, and connected world, starting with our very own selves. I am so grateful to Susan for having written this powerful book.” -- Alanis Morissette, singer/songwriter and activist
"Susan Stiffelman shows parents how to create healthy, loving relationships with children while helping them develop the resilience and authenticity that will serve them throughout their lives. Parenting Without Power Struggles is one of the best parenting books I have ever read." -- Arianna Huffington
“This book changed my life. I’m going to search high and low for this woman’s number because I’ve learned so much.” -- Jessica Seinfeld, #1 New York Times bestselling author
“Susan Stiffelman is an insightful writer who clearly knows what she’s talking about, sharing much-needed wisdom and advice for the caring but often frustrated parent.” -- Marianne Williamson, bestselling author
"Full of wise insights and effective strategies, this book should be required reading for all parents." -- Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Giving the Love That Heals: A Guide for Parents
"If there was ever someone who could truly change the course of a family's life, it's Susan Stiffelman. Her effective methods are spelled out clearly in her wonderful book, making it easy to create a parent-child harmony at home." -- Susan Avery, More magazine
“Conversational and practical… Stiffelman’s engaging work gives parents tools to navigate confidently in both calm and stormy family seas.” ― Publishers Weekly
“Susan Stiffelman, who has double standing to give parenting advice, as a professional therapist and the mother of an exceptional son, has hit the nail on the head twice over…her book is filled with practical, real-world ways to minimize the fights and maximize the love.” -- Kurt Andersen ― novelist and host of public radio's Studio 360
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- Publisher : Atria Books; Reprint edition (March 13, 2012)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 320 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1451667663
- ISBN-13 : 978-1451667660
- Item Weight : 10.1 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.5 x 0.9 x 8.44 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #78,818 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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In addition, the best parts were taken from the work of Gordon Neufeld without enough credit given to him. The author does credit Neufeld for the 6 stages of attachment but otherwise she used his ideas without crediting him. This is stealing. For example, chapter 3 "How to Help Your Kids Have a Healthy Relationships with Members of Their Village" she does not reference Neufeld. However, a key part of his recommendation to parents is to build an attachment village for the child. Chapter 18 in his book is "Recreate the Attachment Village."
The parts I loved most were drawn from Neufeld's work. The author's own ideas just didn't compare to his. Some of her suggestions were silly. Like thinking of your thoughts as drugs (page 20) - not helpful. Some stuff is corny - pp. 18 and 19 - she's putting a guilt trip on parents for their "beliefs" and "stories" about their kids behaviors - as if the problem is the way the parent is viewing it; that if the parent just acted with empathy the problem will go away. Of course we have to have empathy and support our children, but there are more helpful ways to frame these issues. She also underplays the impact of divorce on children.
A much better book that builds on Gordon Neufeld's model and which credits him responsibly is "Rest Play Grow" by Deborah Macnamara. A fantastic book, full of fresh ideas for applying Neufeld's insights on a practical level. It's a home run, absolutely captivating. Her book focuses on the preschool years. I'm waiting for her to write something for parents of older kids and teens. Of course, Gordon Neufeld's masterful "Hold On to Your Kids" should not be missed. He's a genius.
I loved this book! It was easy to read and understand. The concepts are simple and I felt they were all the things I already knew but need help and reminders as to how to implement these ideas into our daily, chaotic life.
As I read through the book I found myself feeling calmer and easily putting some of her tips into practice. I am about to read through it a second time. It will take more than once or twice before I am able to really remember and put into practice all her suggestions, but it's worth it. I can already see a change in our house!
Aside from basic, everyday parenting practices, the book also contains several good suggestions for dealing with larger problems such as anxiety, depression, anger, etc.
I found her writing style to be well organized, simple and clear to understand. This book is a must read!
I'm pretty sure that I will always let my children argue with me like a lawyer. Sorry, but that's just my personality. I have trouble feeling like my decisions are set in stone unless it is about something very serious.
Good LUCK :)