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Perfection: A Memoir of Betrayal and Renewal Hardcover – June 9, 2009
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"A visual standout. [Metz] brings refreshing candor to a startling, painful tale."―The New York Times, Janet Maslin
"Heart-wrenching but triumphant."―Glamour
"A fascinating memoir by a woman who, after learning of her much-loved late husband's history of affairs, decides to confront her former rivals."―People Magazine
"Readers will be mesmerized. Her honesty about middle-aged sex and fear of never finding the "new" right someone make this a delectable summer read."―USA Today
"You'll be absorbed by the real-life sleuthing in Perfection, a riveting memoir about a widow who discovers that her late husband lived a deceptive double life."―Real Simple
"It is impossible to put PERFECTION down as we follow Julie Metz through her true story of love, lies, loss and moving forward. Her raw and brave writing makes you want to cheer Metz on as she pieces her life back together, one beautiful sentence at a time."―Marian Fontana, author of A WIDOW'S WALK
"Julie Metz's memoir of how her marriage unraveled after her mate's death is piercingly honest, haunting and heartbreaking. Anyone who has ever been in a bad relationship will over-identify."―Susan Shapiro, author of FIVE MEN WHO BROKE MY HEART and LIGHTING UP
"Metz's Perfection chronicles with lapidary precision one woman's climb back to happiness after not just a spouse's death, but also the shocking recognition that her life before that death was not what she had thought it was. The journey is a painful one, but Ms. Metz is much the stronger for having survived to recount it."―Julie Powell, author of JULIE & JULIA
"This aching memoir of love, loss, and deception is candid and compelling. I found myself rooting for Julie Metz in her search for a happy second life."―Hilma Wolitzer, author of THE DOCTOR'S DAUGHTER and HEARTS
"Lyrical, haunting, and utterly gripping."―Redbook
"A dark, evocative memoir from a woman forced to come to terms with her husband's death and the revelation of his infidelity."―Shelf Awareness --This text refers to the Paperback edition.
Top Customer Reviews
Julie Metz is in her office when she hears a heavy thud. Continuing her work, she doesn't think much of it. Then all of a sudden, her mind rewinds and she itemizes all of the things it wasn't. She runs into the kitchen and finds her husband Henry on the floor. She calls 911 and breathes into him, but he cannot be saved. Over the course of the next few days, her house becomes a parking lot for friends and family to aid her and her 7 year old daughter Liza. She hears a woman in Henry's office shriek shrilly but doesn't think much of it, as immersed in her grief as she is. Yet it comes back to her later. Going through the motions of returning to her schedule for her daughter's sake, Julie can't eat, she isn't sleeping well and she's being visited by Henry's spirit.
Six months later, a friend of both Julie and Henry tells her that Henry was unfaithful. This revelation understandably cuts to the core, but it's just the tip of the iceberg. There wasn't one liaison, there were several. As there were several women. When Julie finds out just how close to home his betrayals came, her bite is sharp. As she digs through the evidence of infidelities of the man she thought she knew and gave herself wholly to, there is much fury, pain, and most surprisingly, a curiosity that seeks to understand and almost forgive him these slaps in the face from him. It's almost like she stepped out of the pain and hurt she felt to try to understand a reason for this need of his and forgive, in such a way that shows how lucky he was to have her and what a mistake he made in seeking solace and comfort elsewhere.Read more ›
As a psychotherapist specializing in relationships, I think this book is a realistic and well written account of what happens when infidelity cracks open everything one thinks is real. Buy the book today!
My only complaints with the book were that I felt that Julie shared too many intimate details of her sexual encounters, especially since I felt she was just using some of the men she slept with. Also, the last third of the book was slower paced and less interesting than the first part. Overall, though, a good read with a sympathetic narrator.
The book is at its worst when Metz tries to convince the reader that she is better than being known simply as the widow of a cheat. She does this with such a bombastic tone that it was often off putting. We are to understand that she is an artist and she is from New York, not this boring suburb! She visits a former lover in Paris and peppers the text with french, failing to give the terms any context for those readers without a background in the language. She claims to have been duped by her husband, even though she reveals he wooed her while in a relationship with a friend.
It is these personal defenses that keeps "Perfection" from being perfect. When the memoir is full of raw emotion, it feels honest and makes for a very compelling read. If only Metz had understood what makes her story interesting isn't her social resume, but the way she discovers and then copes with the infidelities.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I thought it was well written and a good though depressing story! Happy ending helped!Published 1 month ago by Marylyn A Durie
I really wanted to like this book, but Julie Metz's story of learning about her husband's infidelities after his death was ultimately disappointing. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Cari B. Clark
Julie Metz took a chance by bearing her soul to share with us a lady's choice of how to deal with the number one crime of a marriage: infidelity. Julie survived and found herself. Read morePublished 12 months ago by DebMcDonald
I felt like a voyeur reading this book. I hope writing this book was a catharsis for the author. I thought she was brave in sharing with her audience her experience with the grief... Read morePublished 17 months ago by pie
I bought it because I am from the sleepy little Village that Julie came from and know many of the people in the story. Read morePublished 18 months ago by avalentine5601
I wish I could 'like' the author more! I agree that the book is intended to be deeply personal, perhaps a cure-all for the various sad events which she experienced. Read morePublished 23 months ago by Sandi Kay Wheatley
I love to read. I can't wait to start it. It is so easy to order hard to find books on Amazon!Published on July 6, 2014 by Betty Jo Jurries
Metz struggles to make sense of her husbands complete disregard for her as a human being and his amoral behavior. Read morePublished on June 14, 2014 by Carrissima