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Nice, even for a grown up
on May 24, 2011
I actually liked this book, though I am 32 and it was apparently written for teens as other reviewers already said.
This is a short book (I was able to finish it in one sitting) and even though I doubt it will really make you stop being a perfectionist, I still think it will provide you with good general information about causes and symptoms of being a perfectionist. If you read it, you'll become aware of the many ways perfectionism might express itself in your own life, and, as they saw, awareness is the first step towards cure and liberation.
I also liked the numerous examples of real life situations provided in the book, even though they were of teens--it was still relevant for an adult as well. Some parts of the book will relate mostly if not completely to teens, though. The other good thing about the book is the numerous references for further reading and exploration that the author provides.
One of the cons of the book is that it lacks really serious tools to deal with perfectionism. I've been a perfectionist all my life and I doubt that using only the tools provided in the book I'd be able to break free. Our mind is just a very tricky machine and it won't let go just that easy. After all, at the root of perfectionism lies our identification with things, achievements, and so on, and to stop this harmful habit will mean to really change the way we see ourselves and the way around us. And that is not easy. There's also the danger of approaching the very problem of being a perfectionist with perfectionism and demanding perfect results in stopping being a perfectionist. Still, the ways to deal with it, the author provides, might be helpful as general guidelines and directions of behavior.
I've given this book 4 stars because I think that overall it provides what it promises and it's an enjoyable reading overall. A good way to get to know the subject and its place in our everyday lives. A good way to see real life examples and situations and learn about what can be done about them.
I'd recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn to recognize and deal with perfectionism in their life.