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File this book in the circular file.
on February 20, 2005
I have to depart from the rest of the folks and say I thought this book was a diasspointment. The woman who wrote it claims to be a Christian, but I didn't see any mention of the word
"sin" which is the root of all bad behavior. I will admit I dind't read the whole thing, it irritated me too much. So I did jump around alot. All the little stories are "cute," but we are doing our children a disservice if we say "you're sanguine, so of course you will be flighty and forgetful." This may be so, but we are still called by God to train up our children to His standard, not lower the standard so that each of our children can meet it in thier own "tempermental" style. For example "Melencholy Tyler is protective of his own space. He likes to get hugs from his parents, but is irritated if he things his older sister is hugging him too much. His sanguine sister "simply can't resist" giving her little brother hugs" This isn't a problem of different temperments, it's a sin problem on the part of both children. Brother is not putting others first and is not willing to show/accept love from sister. Sister is not putting others first, she isn't controlling a behavior that she knows is irritating to her brother. Mom and Dad can help both children be more like Jesus by teaching them that others are more important, that love overlooks an offense, etc. Why do I need to know that my kid is melancholy for that? I do believe that all kids have their unique stengths and weakness, but the root of bad behaviour is self love and self centerdness, not their temperment. As a final thought, I think I woudn't have been so offended by this book if the author hadn't been talking putting herself forth as a Christian. This kind of stuff is fine for those who don't know the Lord, it would probably even be very helpful. But for believers, we want our children to grow up depending on the Holy Spirit who guides them through knowledge of the scriptures.