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A Promise to Ourselves: A Journey Through Fatherhood and Divorce Hardcover – September 23, 2008
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“Vivid [and] deeply felt.” —The New York Times Book Review
“Told with intelligence and passion . . . This book is a must.” —Raoul Felder, The Huffington Post
About the Author
Alec Baldwin graduated with a BFA from New York University. As an actor, he has been nominated for a Tony Award and an Oscar, and has received an Emmy. He stars in the award-winning television series 30 Rock on NBC.
Top Customer Reviews
The previous reviewer needs to READ THE BOOK instead of watching interviews and judging Mr. Baldwin's political beliefs. I doubt if he understands the California Family Court system all the way from Sweden.
Having just completed a divorce myself as a mother of two where I kept not only the welfare of my girls' future emotional and psychological well-being primary, I also considered with utmost care the feelings of their father that I could no longer stay married to. So this meant that we took our time with mediation, we personally served our papers to one another, and shared in 50/50 joint custody. We agreed to all this and more not only for our children but for our own individual futures. This has kept our family emotionally whole and now a year later are thriving as a new kind of family! Unfortunately, as just one example in the book, this was not the same for Kim Basinger who had Alec Baldwin served with their Separation Papers, which is more a punch to the gut than most women (and men when reversed) realize. How can anyone respond without retaliation, swords drawn and ready for battle? And then, of course, how can one not eventually lose control of one's anger when legal minefields release destruction and anguish at every step along the way. Sure Alec was wrong to hurl such words and accusations at his daughter on the phone, but I can see the path to that call more clearly now. So sad. Oh yes, and BTW, "leaking" that call to the public had to have been horribly painful for their daughter--and all for what? To show Alec as a bad man? Surely there was no consideration whatsoever for the child!
And then the climax of using and abusing the legal system to inflict the parental alienation tactics I think is reprehensible.Read more ›
While I was attracted to the book by my own dismal experience with the Los Angeles "family courts judicial" system, I was expecting to read a whining, salacious text vetting out the bad behavior of Baldwin's unrepresented ex. Fortunately enough, whether through Baldwin's own good sense or because those dirty details were sealed by court transcripts, most of those were keep out of the book. Instead, Baldwin delivers enough of his own personal details to make the painful point of a father locked out of his daughter's childhood and he, more importantly, devotes a fair amount of the book to the insight he has gained about the realities of Parental Alienation, how it is identified, how it manifests itself and how you might approach marriage, divorce and co-parenting to mitigate it.
This book stands out in the limited, but growing body of material on this subject. Making the point that if a parent with the resources of Baldwin can't win the fight for equal custody, how can anybody else. What was his crime? What did he or his daughter do to deserve the punishment?
With some limited examples from other parents, Baldwin also attempts to round out his own experience. Frankly, I think he held back. Parental Alienation is worse than you can imagine.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Thank you Alec for writing about your journey. And especially that celebrity doesn't make you immune to parental alienation....and being ignored by the judicial system.Published 1 month ago by AnnB
Painful story of a father's search for understanding Parental Alienation. This is a real problem we can't overlook.Published 3 months ago by PT
I read this book as a woman who has been thru almost exactly what AB did in his divorce/custody issues (minus the deep pockets), with an ex-husband who was an attorney himself. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Vicki of CA
Alec is right on about the corruption of the family law court system. His book is EXTREMELY well written. And has a powerful point. Read morePublished 9 months ago by Rod Richardson
Learned a lot about divorce. Feel bad for Mr Baldwin both you and your wife where in my favorite list of actors. This story was so uncalled for. Read morePublished 10 months ago by Alisha Everts
ok book but he could have had a lot more pointers to help other men going through this similar thing, because it's aweful. Read morePublished 13 months ago by teresa hoffman
Straight to the point I had to live through the same insanity only far worse and it continues today. At least I know I'm not the only one with a BPD ex LOLPublished 14 months ago by dave
Wow - what a book - I am going through exactly this and it was like Alec wrote my story. It is sad that women are allowed to do that and whole notion that they make better parents... Read morePublished 15 months ago by VB