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The Manly Pursuit of Desire and Love, Your Guide to Life, Happiness, and Emotional and Sexual Fulfillment In a Closed-Down World Paperback – June 15, 2015
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Desire stands in the great no man's land of human activity: the zone of most conflict, fear and anxiety. It scares us. We are often asked to hate it by those who claim to have given it up for better things and who often, hypocritically, haven t. Their biggest desire is power, and desire, whether you are for it or against it, is a blast furnace of power.
In writing about desire, Perry Brass is addressing much more than mere transitory sexual or material wants. He is dealing with our profound need for completion, identity and enlargement. Understanding the true nature of our desires, recognizing the boundaries we place on these desires as the image we create of ourselves and being able to genuinely share our desires in intimacy with others are essential developments for the spirit of a healthy and progressive person. With an interactive book that calls on the reader to do more than passively reflect on the printed word, Brass explores the many facets of desire how it interacts with religion, with our need for security and of course, with sexuality and how to use that blast furnace of power in the cause of our own evolution and that of our community.
Gay, bisexual and trans people are the healers, builders, artists and believers in a powerful universe that we are especially in contact with. We are part of the secret past as well as the wonderful future. We are allies of women and very strong allies of other men too. Perry s book point the way and gives us tools with which to make the journey. --Out in Jersey June, 2015
About the Author
Born in Savannah, Georgia, and currently living in New York City, poet, author, and playwright Perry Brass has published 19 books, including poetry, novels, short fiction, science fiction, plays, and advice books including the Amazon bestseller The Manly Art of Seduction.
He has been a finalist six times for Lambda Literary Awards, has won five IPPY Awards from the Independent Publishers Group, and was a finalist for a prestigious Ferro-Grumley Fiction Award from New York s Ferro-Grumley Foundation for his beautiful Southern coming of age novel King of Angels. Active in the movement toward lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender rights since 1969, Brass s work deals with issues of sexual freedom, spirituality and personal politics coming out of his involvement with the politics and culture of the late 1960s and early 1970s. He has written about and anticipated in his work much of the progressive change we see today throughout the world around gay marriage, economic justice, gender equality, reproductive freedom, men s health issues, and transgender rights. In 1972, with two friends he started the Gay Men s Health Project Clinic, the first clinic specifically for gay men on the East Coast in America. It actively advocated for the use of condoms a decade before the AIDS crisis. This clinic still operates as the Callen-Lorde Community Health Center. He also writes regularly for the Huffington Post.
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Top Customer Reviews
"The Manly Pursuit..." is about acceptance, self-acceptance; followed by the ability to connect completely with others on levels many probably had not thought possible before. It's about casting away natural fears that bind us-- physically and emotionally; and setting free the true complete person inside.
All masks discarded, this book is geared towards finding, discovering and expressing who we really are-- who we are meant to be. Discovering and accepting our deep desires and allowing ourselves to come to a place where we can truly love and be loved. It's an honest exploration-- completely free of any judgement, rules or demands.
This isn't just another self-help, 'how to... ' book. It is at times scholarly and textbook and others historical and personal. Each short chapter clearly and succinctly tackles and explores a very specific topic and ends with an opportunity for the reader to question, answers or connect his own experience and feelings to what was discussed.
A lot has changed in the world towards what is openly accepted; but none of that makes any difference if we can't connect to our own wants and desires-- allowing us to live happy and fulfilled lives. This book may hold the answers to unlocking the soul.
I was fortunate to receive a complimentary ARC of this book through NetGalley. If only it had been available 30 years ago when I was younger and struggling with my own identity. It would have made my journey a little easier, clearer and helped prevent so much stumbling along the way. Make no mistake though, in my 50's now, there is still so much that this book has to offer.
The Manly Pursuit of Desire and Love is a book about the sexual and romantic and lustful side of gay life from the perspective of somebody who seems to have seen it all. He's lived most of his life in New York City and likely has. And his advice about it all is sensible, matter-of-fact, no-nonsense and deeply compassionate and heartfelt. Throughout the pieces of advice strung loosely together in fifty-nine short chapters again and again is the reminder to love yourself and that the deepest part of you really does love you and wants your life to be the best it can be. Be true to yourself and honest about your desires, and don't be guilty or shamed by desire--it's one of the finest parts of you and offers access to your inner life. What you desire and what turns you on is the clue to your fullest self. It is from desire that art and happiness and self-healing and love for others arises. And the suppression of desire closes you off from your soul. Sexual pleasure and fun and human love are good things in themselves, for themselves. They don't need to be justified by biological exigencies. Indeed, they are beyond--and deeper--than the overt biological functions. They are dynamics of the spirit.
As a writer myself about gay "spiritual" matters, I was particularly interested in Brass's term "Deeper Self" as the all-embracing term for the multiple and sometimes conflicting ideas of religion and myth. A lot of the advice in this book is about meeting other men for sex and maybe for love and long-lasting intimate relationship. Useful advice. The list of sexual fetishes, most by Latin names, is an education in itself. But supporting all this is a gentle and tactful theory of religion, God and the sacred as manifestations of a larger consciousness all human beings participate in and arise out of. Brass demonstrates the ability and power of gay consciousness to transcend dualities and polarities and reveal the truth about being vitally alive that is coded in the religions and cultures we've all inherited.
Even if you wouldn't agree with all his suggestions and interpretations of how and why gay men are as we are, you'll likely find his discussions of the issues interesting, good-reading, and enlightening. I bet you'll discover you learned something. I did. -- Reviewed by Toby Johnson, author of The Myth of the Great Secret: An Appreciation of Joseph Campbell & Gay Spirituality: Gay Identity and the Transformation of Human Consciousness.