Quivering Daughters Paperback – June 30, 2010
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- Paperback : 270 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0984468609
- ISBN-13 : 978-0984468607
- Dimensions : 5.98 x 0.57 x 9.02 inches
- Publisher : Darklight Press (June 30, 2010)
- Item Weight : 10.4 ounces
- Language: : English
- Best Sellers Rank: #2,622,342 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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As someone who has struggled with perfectionism, I found this book very helpful in removing the heavy burden I find myself under at times. It kept bringing me back to the gospel of God's "unilateral love" and the true gospel that Jesus lived and preached. Even though I've known that gospel for a long time now this was yet another tool God has used to plant it deeper into my soul.
If you struggle with perfectionism or come from a legalistic and harsh, religious background it's worth picking it up. Even if you don't, there are good things in this one that will help strengthen and establish your heart in God's grace even more.
I first thought it might be helpful to point out analytically how the book addresses the intense shame that young girls and young women feel as they learn to be in the world, and all the more so when they are mistreated. It talks about enmeshment, the shame-existence binds, and the no-win situations that so many people face, but especially within rigid, formulaic religion. It speaks honestly to anyone who feels like damaged goods, hopelessly bundled and botched, offering the hope that the Creator who hung the stars in the heaven loves us so and has provided a way of healing for us. Hillary says, "I told you this is a love story" (pg 160). Oh, how analytical! I can only speak from my heart.
Every time I re-read another section of the book, I am changed and healed more deeply. I kept a diary as I worked through the book because it did unearth so much yet unhealed pain, putting words to groans that I cannot utter. I noted at page 159 that wanted to soon finish so that I could go back and read the book again! Many details of my own experience differ from the personal accounts included in the book that are woven between the hope-drenched wisdom of empathetic counsel, yet I share the same experiences in my own way. My heart, soul, and body echoed the pains, fears and disappointments of so many. I even wondered if I'd written one of the "Dear Mom and Dad" letters myself in something I might have sent to Hillary and forgotten about, for it echoes my very own language written in my own private journals.
As I held the book in my hands and read, I also realized how boldly and powerfully the Words of Scripture confront the ideas of men that sought to help but brought regretful and unintended harm. How valiantly Hillary declares truth in power, in tender love for her sisters, and in the authority that the Word of God carries! I remembered some long-forgotten, hopeful ideas about who I was, who I always wanted to be, who I have become, who I can be, and who I am in Christ.
I still find Meg Moseley's comments haunting when she states that the QF movement is "sometimes as harmful as it is sincere," noted just inside the front cover of the book.
Hillary writes in the introduction:
"In obedience to His will for me, I've written the book I wish was available over ten years ago -- not that the content itself is exhaustive or that I am worthy to write it, but because the body of Christ is too silent and perhaps somewhat uniformed regarding these issues."
I also wish that this *book of mercy* had been available for me when I went through my own exodus from my own problematic group a dozen or so years ago. I rejoice that it is available for so many today. May many valiant souls follow the challenging but ever hopeful path that Hillary has blazed so tenderly. God bless and continue to watch over Hillary as He does over every quivering heart!
The author explains what today's Christian patriarchy movement is and how it came about. There are numerous first hand accounts--including her own--of living a lifestyle of shame, spiritual manipulation, and emotional abuse. But the overall tone of the book is hopeful and compassionate, focusing on helping girls and women damaged by such a lifestyle discover Truth, find their voice, and follow their Lord.
Quivering Daughters was intensely thought provoking, prompting a re-examination of ideas I had accepted as fact about Christian womanhood. I highly recommend this book.