- Paperback: 270 pages
- Publisher: Darklight Press (June 30, 2010)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0984468609
- ISBN-13: 978-0984468607
- Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.6 x 9 inches
- Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 23 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #668,533 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Quivering Daughters Paperback – June 30, 2010
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I first thought it might be helpful to point out analytically how the book addresses the intense shame that young girls and young women feel as they learn to be in the world, and all the more so when they are mistreated. It talks about enmeshment, the shame-existence binds, and the no-win situations that so many people face, but especially within rigid, formulaic religion. It speaks honestly to anyone who feels like damaged goods, hopelessly bundled and botched, offering the hope that the Creator who hung the stars in the heaven loves us so and has provided a way of healing for us. Hillary says, "I told you this is a love story" (pg 160). Oh, how analytical! I can only speak from my heart.
Every time I re-read another section of the book, I am changed and healed more deeply. I kept a diary as I worked through the book because it did unearth so much yet unhealed pain, putting words to groans that I cannot utter. I noted at page 159 that wanted to soon finish so that I could go back and read the book again! Many details of my own experience differ from the personal accounts included in the book that are woven between the hope-drenched wisdom of empathetic counsel, yet I share the same experiences in my own way. My heart, soul, and body echoed the pains, fears and disappointments of so many. I even wondered if I'd written one of the "Dear Mom and Dad" letters myself in something I might have sent to Hillary and forgotten about, for it echoes my very own language written in my own private journals.
As I held the book in my hands and read, I also realized how boldly and powerfully the Words of Scripture confront the ideas of men that sought to help but brought regretful and unintended harm. How valiantly Hillary declares truth in power, in tender love for her sisters, and in the authority that the Word of God carries! I remembered some long-forgotten, hopeful ideas about who I was, who I always wanted to be, who I have become, who I can be, and who I am in Christ.
I still find Meg Moseley's comments haunting when she states that the QF movement is "sometimes as harmful as it is sincere," noted just inside the front cover of the book.
Hillary writes in the introduction:
"In obedience to His will for me, I've written the book I wish was available over ten years ago -- not that the content itself is exhaustive or that I am worthy to write it, but because the body of Christ is too silent and perhaps somewhat uniformed regarding these issues."
I also wish that this *book of mercy* had been available for me when I went through my own exodus from my own problematic group a dozen or so years ago. I rejoice that it is available for so many today. May many valiant souls follow the challenging but ever hopeful path that Hillary has blazed so tenderly. God bless and continue to watch over Hillary as He does over every quivering heart!
Frustrated by the apathy, if not arrogance, he encountered among those who were detached from the realities of slave life, Wilberforce invited a group of Britain's high society political patrons for a dinner cruise, pampering them with the best food and wine, first rate servants, and an impeccable string quartet.
As the guests finished their meal, their boat laid anchor alongside a ship called the Madagascar and Wilberforce introduced his guests to a slave ship that had just transported its latest cargo. Explaining that the voyage had begun with over 600 slaves but that 2/3 of them had died along the way, one by one, the horrified dinner guests, now covering their noses with fine linen handkerchiefs, realized that what they smelled was the stench of human death.
In a clear and simple voice, Wilberforce confirmed, "God has created all men equal," giving his guests a starting jolt of the reality of slavery and making clear why he was so passionately opposed to it. Wilberforce did not simply say "yes, there might be abuse of some Africans." Instead, he declared that the institution of slavery itself was a horrible evil.
I could not help but think of Wilberforce and his zeal to defend those who could not defend themselves as I picked up Hillary McFarland's Quivering Daughters for the first time. Exposing the reality of life for many daughters within the patriocentric paradigm, Hillary turns this movement on its head by revealing the dark side its leaders don't want to admit exists.
Hillary makes it evident right from the start that she loved being homeschooled, loved having a house full of siblings, and that she deeply loves her mother and father. This is no "Mommy Dearest" treatise nor is it a forum for rebellious homeschooling daughters. Instead, Hillary graciously explains the nature and practice of spiritual abuse while weaving together both her own experiences and those of young women who have suffered at the hands of a patriocentric system into a book that is certain to touch many hearts.
To be clear, this is no psycho babbling self-help book either. Instead, Hillary encourages her readers to seek the grace so fully offered by Jesus Christ to heal and sustain them and to embrace forgiveness as they rebuild their lives. Giving credit to her parents for instilling a love of Scripture in her life, Quivering Daughters capably explains the wrong doctrines of patriocentricity, rightly correcting its attitudes and teachings with what the Bible actually says.
The truths discovered on the pages of Quivering Daughters won't only be helpful to the young women who have been harmed by this system. Moms and dads who have embraced the performance-based style of parenting within the homeschooling world will see the fruits the paradigm peddlers don't want you to see and only the most cult like will be blinded to the fact that Hillary isn't talking about how "some" daughters are abused, but the reality that being part of the system itself IS the abuse!
I highly recommend Quivering Daughters for anyone who has been personally touched by the patriarchy/patriocentricity movement or who wants to understand what the controversy is all about; it is must reading for every single homeschooling parent. Let's pray that those who still cover their noses with patriocentric linen hankies will be convicted and stirred into action.
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