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Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved Paperback – October 4, 2005
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God can be more easily found in human love than in the human mind - from the Brothers Karamazov
Ongoing interaction with a long-term partner can be an agent of transformation more powerful than any other. We have come to believe that it is the clearest way for transformation to occur.
Sooner or later in every relationship the initial attraction turns into a power struggle as couples find themselves facing in their spouse the same behavior and attitudes that drove them crazy in their parents. (Or it could be they project issues they had in the past with other people onto their spouse).
It turns out that loving your partner is the best way to facilitate your own personal and spiritual growth.
The impulse to step away from positive input is an indication that you have problems receiving love.
The most important commitment we (the authors) made were to end negativity and move toward amplifying the positive, even though we said many times we didn't know how to do that.
Separate Knowing = what is real and true exists independently of who is doing the observing.
Connected Knowing = Let me suspend my critical judgments for a minute and see if I can enter your world and try to feel the truth of what you are saying.
We are formed from every important relationship we have ever had.
No one comes to a relationship empty handed. There are all kinds of information, prejudice, wishful thinking, and expectations interjected between people before they really get to know each other.
Self-rejection and self-hatred are directly related to the problems people have in receiving love; i.e., "I'm not good enough".Read more ›
I finished this book feeling a great sense of sadness because it explained so clearly why my last relationship - with the love of my life - failed. The hope of the book is that it gives communication techniques for creating emotional intimacy in a relationship.
The book's premise is that many people are blind to the fact that they create barriers towards receiving love. I had never thought of this before but can apply it directly to my own life: I never thought that I deserved to be happy or to be loved. Similarly, in my last relationship I did everything possible to reach out to my girlfriend and open myself up emotionally to her, but the more I reached out, the more she shut down; I see now that she was simply refusing to accept love and had a block towards emotional intimacy, empathy and compassion because she carries so much unresolved baggage.
This book explains in great detail the reasons for this self-sabotaging behavior, most often directly tied to childhood abuse and neglect. It provides many case studies on relationships showing how subtle, insidious and destructive the behavior pattern of refusing to receive love is.
Most importantly, the book gives a very thoughtful, positive and counter-intuitive strategy to allow oneself to begin receiving love.
I am so sad for what has been lost in my life, but this book provides hope for the future.
Years later, a good friend who is a therapist, recommended Receiving Love. I felt quite resistant, based on my limited experience, however, since I know many couples who have benefitted from Harville's work, I decided my resistance must mean there is something for me to learn.
I am learning and opening my heart to issues I thought were healed. Maybe some stuff is never complete... at least for me, I sometimes need more fine tuning, to rehash areas of my childhood that may be lingering quietly in the dark recesses.
The book is a valuable guide (even for those not in relationship right now, like me) to clarify why things are not working in the "sample" couples. In fact, I think the sampling covers just about any potential issue, except perhaps extreme abuse.
The exercises are very challenging, I've only done the easy ones so far. The material is deeply thought-provoking, solidly researched and presented with compassion and intellect.
I appreciate the Hendrixes work, style and dedication to helping people discover themselves. This material offers the endless opportunity to heal yourself and help your mate heal their childhood wounds. Isn't that what we all want?
Give yourself and your partner a huge gift... read this book, then do the exercises. And talk and keep talking...
Pie Dumas - Author & Life Coach
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This is well written and so easy to get though. It reminds us of the little things that are important and how easy it is to assume.Published 3 months ago by Wyoming Girl
I read this before "Getting the Love You Want," and the combination, while some bits crossover, is truly a revelation. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Nicole Potter
This book is one of the by relationship books ever. Instead of just labeling behavior it offers real ways to heal.Published 9 months ago by Peta Lynne
Absolutely love this book & audiobook! Now engaged in the workbook!!!Published 11 months ago by J. Sauer
I can't be more thankful!! Your books have helped me to grow into a better person. But what's more important, they helped me to love and appreciate myself way more. Read morePublished 11 months ago by Cynthia Gonzalez
Loved this book. Such incredible insight. Eye opening and inspiring...and functional, with exercises to put into practice too. Highly recommend!Published 13 months ago by Rei