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Reforming Marriage Paperback – February 1, 1995
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Wilson covers topics well, dealing with the divine purpose for marriage (chapter 1), headship and authority (chapter 2), husband and wife roles (chapter 3), courtesy and romance (chapter 4), conflict resolution (chapter 5 - excellent!), temptations (chapter 6), sex (chapter 7), children (chapter 8), and divorce/remarriage (chapter 9).
There were several insights in this book that were especially helpful to me: particularly on the headship of husbands and the God-given (though different) orientations of men and women. Wilson wisely says: "The fundamental orientation of an obedient man is to his calling or vocation under God. Under normal circumstances, he cannot fulfill his calling alone - he needs help. The fundatmental orientation of an obedient woman is to give that help. Another way of saying this is that the man's orientation is to do the job with her help, while the woman's orientation is to help him do the job. He is oriented to the task, and she is oriented to him." (p. 65). That is excellent! If more couples understood that, a lot of needless misunderstanding would be avoided.
As a pastor, I have started using this book in premarital counseling. I think every Christian couple should read this book and do some hard thinking about marriage from a Biblical perspective.
Wilson's deep understanding of the practical outworking of covenants shines through every (often-humorous) paragraph, and his solidly-rooted theology keeps everything completely Christ-centered.
Yet while every theologian should read Reforming Marriage, this is not a book written for theologians: it is a book for every Christian. Your systematic theology prof and your seemingly-retarded teenager will draw equally well from its wisdom. That's quite a feat; and an accomplishment carried out by few so well or as consistently as by Wilson. Praise God that he carries it out with this particularly vital topic.
I have read other Wilson books, but I wasn't too thrilled about the style he used within this book. Doctrinally, it is sound and there are no problems, but, the undertones are not quite appropriate in my opinion.
I am very reformed (and I'm always reforming), but when you have someone who does not come from a reformed background, and they somehow fall upon such a book and begin reading it, they may turn away from reformed doctrine entirely. All due to the style a writer presents reformed doctrines or the reformed faith. Doug (though a great writer) writes with sarcasm, and at first glance, may cause some folk to 'knee jerk'. And yes, sarcasm may indeed have a proper place in the world of writing, but should not be over done. And I do understand that some people do not mind such sarcasm, and find it simply encouraging that there are other people in this world who find modern society's ways offensive, chaotic, and/or destructive. And in turn, find peace of mind that they are not alone (which is good for them), and may be the full intentions of the writer all along. But again, the newbie may turn away, when they should instead be nurtured... Anyway, if reformed doctrine or the reformed faith is new to you, and, if and when you read this book, take into consideration the context in which he is writing, and do not read more into what he says, when he spouts out a sarcastic remark here or there. Keep it at face value and will you will find this book a bit more beneficial to you and/or your spouse.
As far as my pre-marital counseling and this book are concerned, it was very helpful.Read more ›
If you want your marriage to flow from and be patterned after the completely true and unchanging Word of God, buy and read this book.
Not surprisingly, what is true is also what is most practical in the purest sense of the term. If you don't give two hoots about Christianity or the Bible, incorporating what this book teaches will revolutionize your marriage and your family. Call me if it doesn;t. ;>)
Most Recent Customer Reviews
This is classic Wilson! He is interesting, more careful than his critics would lead you to expect, and funny. Worth the read!Published 2 months ago by W V S
What a refreshing perspective. No steps, no languages, just biblical truth.Published 5 months ago by Amazon Customer
Best marriage book I've ever read. Concise, simple, counsel from the Word of God. Wilson's writing style is straight-forward and enjoyable. Read morePublished 6 months ago by PHMcLaughlin
I didn't like the angry tone of the author. My fiance and I stopped reading it.Published 9 months ago by Chicago teacher
A very practical and biblical look at Marriage, very eye-opening and very helpful to me personally. Wilson gives a lot of practical advice with simulated situations and his writing... Read morePublished 9 months ago by Greg Bahnsen Burner
This book was written when I was one. I am now married, and have read a couple books on marriage. They have all been longer, but none have been better (in my opinion) in discussing... Read morePublished 15 months ago by Eduardo Mercado