Rejection Proof is Jia Jiang's entertaining and inspiring account of conquering his fear of rejection, offering a completely new perspective on how to turn a no into a yes.

Jia Jiang came to the United States with the dream of being the next Bill Gates. Despite early success in the corporate world, his first attempt to pursue his entrepreneurial dream ended in rejection. Jia was crushed and spiraled into a period of deep self-doubt. But he realized that his fear of rejection was a bigger obstacle than any single rejection would ever be, and he needed to find a way to cope with being told no without letting it destroy him. Thus was born his "100 days of rejection" experiment, during which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis - from requesting a lesson in sales from a car salesman (no) to asking a flight attendant if he could make an announcement on the loudspeaker (yes) to his famous request to get Krispy Kreme doughnuts in the shape of Olympic rings (yes, with a viral video to prove it).

Jia learned that even the most preposterous wish may be granted if you ask in the right way, and here he shares the secret of successful asking, how to pick targets, and how to tell when an initial no can be converted into something positive. But more important, he learned techniques for steeling himself against rejection and ways to develop his own confidence - a plan that can't be derailed by a single setback.

Filled with great stories and valuable insight, Rejection Proof is a fun and thoughtful examination of how to overcome fear and dare to live more boldly.

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Listening Length	6 hours and 28 minutes
Author	Jia Jiang
Narrator	Mike Chamberlain
Whispersync for Voice	Ready
Audible.com Release Date	May 08, 2015
Publisher	Blackstone Audio, Inc.
Program Type	Audiobook
Version	Unabridged
Language	English
ASIN	B00XDUKVJY
Best Sellers Rank	#7,390 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals) #56 in Self-Esteem (Audible Books & Originals) #116 in Emotional Mental Health #116 in Business Motivation & Self-Improvement (Audible Books & Originals)

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Skip Freeman

Jia's journey is for everyone who deals with other human beings

Reviewed in the United States on April 29, 2017

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Every encounter with another human being creates the opportunity for rejection. The fear of rejection is a barrier and violently limits us. Even for someone like me who has been in sales for 40-years. What I learned or what was validated is summarized below.

Suggestion - get the audible version. The person who speaks the book draws you in. Jia's stories are fun. You feel the moment, the stress, the fear, the tension, the release, the laughter, and ultimately how he learned (and we can too) to enjoy the journey. Don't miss his story and how it can impact your life if you have any dealings with other humans at all. If you are a recluse on a deserted island, you can pass.

1. Rejection is human - a human interaction with 2 sides. Rejection says more about the rejector than the rejectee. Should never be used as the universal truth or sole judgment of merit.
2. Taking a no - ask why before goodbye. Sustain the conversation after rejection by asking "why."
3. Retreat, don't run - don't give up after a rejection. Retreat to a "lesser yes."
4. Collaborate, don't contend - never argue with a rejector. Instead, try to collaborate with the rejector to make the request happen.
5. Switch up, don't give up - before deciding to quit, step back and make the request to a different person in a different environment or under a different circumstance.
6. Positioning for yes - give my why. By explaining the reasoning behind the request, it is more likely to be accepted
7. Start with I - starting with "I" can give the requestor more authentic control of the request. Never pretend to think in the other person's interests without genuinely knowing them.
8. Acknowledge doubts - by admitting obvious and possible objections with the other person, one can increase the level of trust between the 2 parties.
9. Target the audience - by choosing a more appropriate audience, one increases the chances of being accepted
10. Giving a no - patience and respect. Rejection is hard to deliver so deliver it without ever belittling the rejectee. Be direct. Avoid convoluted set-up and reasoning.
11. Offer alternatives - by offering alternatives to get a yes or concessions, you can make the other person a fan, even in rejection
12. Finding upside - motivation. Rejection can be motivations to fuel your fire for achievement. By taking emotion out of rejection, you can improve your idea or product.
13. Worthiness - sometimes it is good to be rejected, especially if the idea is influenced by group-think or radically creative.
14. Character building - by seeking rejection in tough environments, one can build up the mental toughness to go after greater goals
15. Finding meaning - find empathy. All rejections are shared by many people in the world. You can obtain empathy and understanding of other people who have faced similar rejection.
16. Find value - repeated rejections can serve as the measuring stick for one's values and beliefs
17. Find mission - sometimes the most brutal rejections in life signal a new beginning and mission for the rejectee
18. Finding freedom - freedom to ask, freedom to accept ourselves
19. Finding power - detachment from results. Focus on controllable factors, not on acceptance or rejection

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Puppycaio

Very Inspirational

Reviewed in the United States on October 14, 2018

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I'm addicted to TED Talks. The more inspirational, the better. While stumbling through the search bar, I was fortunate enough to land on What I learned from 100 days of rejection by Jai Jaing. I loved it, but I wanted more. I googled the speaker and found out he had a blog, and wrote a book. I immediately ordered the book and impatiently waited for it to arrive (it wasn't available through Amazon Prime, sadly).

I read this book in about 3 days, which for my busy schedule is pretty good.

At first, I assumed it would catalog his 100 days of rejections he orchestrated and the results, but I was mistaken. While there are more than a few examples of the types of rejection challenges he gave himself, the book is more about why he embarked on this adventure in the first place, how his entire perception changed during the course of his experiment, and what he learned that he felt might help others who also let fear keep them from their potential.

I even logged onto his app for about a week and did a few of the challenges myself. One of which entailed me getting a local pizza place to make me an individual pizza on wheat crust in the shape of a heart. I had a LOT of fun with that one, and the pizza was even more delicious than normal. It really is amazing what people will do if you only ask. Not to mention, it tends to brighten their day and make them feel good as well. Win-win.

I found the book, Rejection Proof to be insightful, funny, and endearing. I definitely related to many of the ideas he had us ponder. I'm still working my way through reading all 100 challenges on his blog, but the book is definitely worth reading!

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Dea Dietrick

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Reviewed in the United States on January 12, 2017

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Jia Jiang's book "Rejection Proof" was the key that unlocked the loss of years held captive by fear. Tried as I might I never believed in myself; the probable result of an unloving parent at an early age that continues today (with lessneed pain). Rather than hold my parent accountable or hold in blame, I've worked hard to be a strong, confident woman. But being 64, possessing haunting regrets of which I intellectually know are unredeemable and am weary of the emotional wrestling, I clearly saw the thread that linked the "why" for most of my choices; the recurring hurts by others; and my "deep pit" reaction to snarkiness. The pain of REJECTION that has held me captive.
With tears of gratitude, thank you, Jia Jiang. I'm am finally free to rise to my potential and use God's gift that resides inside of me to help others dispel their haunting ghosts through hearing my story.

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Brad Revell

Fear rejection, worth reading this....

Reviewed in the United States on January 21, 2017

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We all fear rejection in some way shape or form and at some point in our lives. Unfortunately most of us do not conquer this fear of rejection and it manifests in our behaviours and dealings with others. Jia Jiang proposes an alternate approach by taking rejection head on. Through a serious of experiments Jiang overcomes is fear of rejection and lives to tell his story.

What I enjoyed about the book was going through Jiang's various stories and examples and how he matched them to overcoming aspects of rejection. It all stems from our insecurity in feeling like everyone will reject us at some point. Jiang provides a simple solution in that being confident, friendly and open is the beginning. We need to couple this foundation with rethinking the outcome (the upside, the meaning, the freedom or the power or being rejected).

Suffice to say this book is jam packed with many stories and examples through Jiang's journey of becoming rejection proof! Worth checking out as I found it to be a good read.

Three key takeaways from the book:
1. Rejection happens, don't take it personally, be tough and move on. Amazing things happen when you have nothing to lose
2. Most likely the biggest reason people do not talk about rejection is because they find it easier to talk about failure
3. Within our brain, rejection pain equals physical pain. Hence why most people rank rejection so high as a fear

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Philip Atkinson

Groundbreaking and Innovative

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on October 12, 2019

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Rejection has to be the biggest self limiting factor in people failing to master their true potential. In the book the author takes you through his personal journey at the same time sketching out strategies for the reader to practise. I like to think i have learned more from my failures than my successes and this book has forced me to experiment more and attract rejection so I can deal with it as a friend rather than a foe. Well written and personable.

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Vanessa Cobb

Highly Motivating

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on October 5, 2015

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Really enjoyed the authenticity and simplicity that Jiang brought to his project and that comes to life in reading his book. For me, returning to self employment after five years in a cosy workplace feels like a huge uncomfortable challenge but this book has made the adventure feel more exciting than ever. The sum of lessons Jiang shares are crystal clear and refreshingly derived directly from experience, not simple re-hashed from the words of wisdom of others. Probably my best read this year.

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interesting book and a great concept. Although the rejections the author set up ...

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 23, 2018

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interesting book and a great concept. Although the rejections the author set up were clearly about overcoming his fear of rejection, they were difficult to relate to normal every day life which is where most of us encounter this problem. 'Influence' is amore informative and enlightening book but a much harder read.

Harriet Morris

Thought Provoking

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 29, 2016

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Initially I feel a bit dismayed that only a couple of chapters in this looked like some too good to be true reversal of fortune fairy tale. "How does this help those of us who didn't happen to shoot a video that went viral after about five days?" I thought - "I cannot relate to that and I have lost all interest" .... But I did pick it up the next day. Fortunately it had some useful meditations on the evolutionary reasons for rejection fear and how you can stand up to it, plus the idea that rejection has a number - try enough times and someone will probably say yes.

MR S S DADWAL

Good book, has the ability to make your whole ...

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on July 10, 2016

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Good book, has the ability to make your whole awareness of life change but i cant guarantee it, depends how far you want to take it, like the author. For me it was good, its extended my parameters in life, slightly.

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