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Rule #2: Don't Be an Asshat: An Official Handbook for Raising Parents and Children Paperback – June 10, 2016
Bruce Reyes-Chow (Author) Find all the books, read about the author, and more. See search results for this author |
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- Print length200 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- Publication dateJune 10, 2016
- Dimensions5.5 x 0.46 x 8.5 inches
- ISBN-10098949814X
- ISBN-13978-0989498142
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- Publisher : Bacosa Books (June 10, 2016)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 200 pages
- ISBN-10 : 098949814X
- ISBN-13 : 978-0989498142
- Item Weight : 8.5 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.5 x 0.46 x 8.5 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #2,539,835 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #28,827 in Parenting (Books)
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About the author

Bruce is a pastor, author, consultant, and coach. A 3rd Generation Chinese/Filipino, armchair sociologist, and technology enthusiast Bruce speaks and teaches on faith, race, parenting, and technology in a variety of contexts from seminaries to conferences to congregations to pre-schools. While he speaks to both religious and secular audiences and is committed to living and expressing a Christian faith that is beautifully complex, unimaginably just, and excruciatingly gracious.
Bruce has been a Presbyterian pastor for over 23 years and served as the founding pastor of Mission Bay Community Church in San Francisco from 2000-2012, a church of young, multicultural and progressive Presbyterians. He has served congregations that have been diverse in size, socio-economics, and ages in Portola Valley, Daly City, and San Francisco. In 2008 he was the youngest person ever elected as Moderator of the General Assembly of the Presbyterian Church (USA), the highest elected office of the then 1.8 million-member denomination.
Bruce’s main work with organizations has dealt with organizational systems, institutional change, and long-term visioning. With individuals he often addresses understanding authentic leadership styles, maintaining work-life balance, and helping people move from passion to implementation. He has experience working with the Myers-Briggs Personality Type Inventory, The Enneagram, as well as being a Gallup-Certified CliftonStrengths and trained in Organizational Transition Leadership and Pastoral Care and Counseling.
Bruce was born, May 3, 1969 in Stockton, CA and his home church is Trinity Presbyterian Church, a church formed to support Filipino immigrants and farmworkers. After growing up in both Sacramento and Stockton, Bruce received his BA in Asian American Studies, Philosophy and Sociology from San Francisco State University (1991), MA from San Francisco Theological Seminary (1995) and an honorary Doctor of Divinity from Austin College (2010). He was the recipient of the Distinguished Alumni Award from San Francisco Theological Seminary in 2009.
He is currently the Pastor of First Presbyterian Church of Palo Alto, Senior Consultant with the Center for Progressive Renewal, and a Gallup-Certified Strengths Coach. He extremely active on social media and can be found via @breyeschow on most social networks.
Bruce and his wife, Robin Pugh, have raised three children along with multiple canines, rats, fish, and the occasional crawdad. He is an avid soccer fan, follows the Oakland Athletics Baseball Club, and photography feeds his soul. You can connect with Bruce via @breyeschow on most social networks visit his blog, www.reyes-chow.com, and/or see what others say about him on wikipedia.
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The first 20% (if you’re on a Kindle) is dedicated to defending the notion that the authors are not child psychologists and that all material comes from an inner sense that they’ve done a decent job at parenting. The middle 60% is the 101 lessons the Reyes-Chows offer to their three daughters. The last 20% is a basic restatement of the first 80% performed through letters to themselves and suggestions to new parents, along with a reminder that the Reyes-Chows are not child psychologists.
Although I put the layout in such simple terms, the book is overall written relatively well. The lessons, denoted as written by either “Mom” or “Dad”, are warm, charming, and funny, albeit cliché (e.g. “Rule #31: Cherish Your Siblings”; “Rule #29: Do Things Without Being Asked; “Rule #32: Trust Your Gut”). There were, however, some gems, including riding the city bus which encourages experiencing a community before having a drivers license, as well as a lesson on attending funerals which can be so scary for children yet so integral to the human experience.
Overall, I found myself wishing the Reyes-Chows had put out a call to their social media followers asking, “What lessons do you wish you knew as new parents that are NOT obvious to new parents, and how did you come to learn these lessons?” In this sense, if you’re looking for an earth-shattering guide that would prompt you to think, “I’d never considered teaching that to my child before,” I would generally look elsewhere. If you’re looking for gentle, well-written reminders for how people should treat themselves and each other, it’s very much worth the quick read.
I will be sharing this book not only with parents, but also, with graduates.