- Paperback: 240 pages
- Publisher: FT Press; 1 edition (December 11, 2008)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0137149964
- ISBN-13: 978-0137149964
- Product Dimensions: 5.3 x 0.5 x 8.5 inches
- Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 24 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,447,590 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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"Refreshingly free of psychobabble" The Sunday Tribune 11 Jan 09--This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.
From the Back Cover
Some people know how to find it...Share it...Make it last.
Were they born that way? No. They’ve learned the rules.
Rules you can learn, too.
The Rules of Love.
Here they are:
100 simple rules to live and love by...
Rules for finding a partner you can love for a lifetime...
and keeping your partner just as happy...
for keeping your relationship fresh, intimate, and wonderfully surprising...
for getting past game playing, jealousy, arguments, and history...
for actually, really communicating...
for knowing what matters, and what doesn’t...
for building better relationships with your entire family
(including your kids...maybe even your in-laws)
The most important rules you will ever follow
Follow them to joy,
to lifelong love
Top customer reviews
From the start this book makes perfect sense. Richard Templar explains how we should be genuine, go the extra mile and look at situations from a variety of perspectives. While this book has a casual tone the advice is professional.
A lot of the information presented is about how you can change yourself into a better person. Changing other people is not advised and rarely works. Like there is a chapter on how not to nag and there are warnings about what types of relationships you should avoid from the start. It is true that opposites usually attract and this book deals a bit with this topic.
The rules in this book deal with your relationship to your partner, family and friends. Most of it is good. I liked the discussions about the division of labor, romance, kids and finances. There are even some funny things that will get a laugh out of you.
I did think the advice about leaving a relationship if you are not always happy may not be good advice especially if you are married. Marriage is a journey with rough spots and bliss all mixed together. So you may be happy one day, miserable the next and elated again sometime in the future. If you don't stick it out you may never know the bliss of being in a long-term relationship.
Also the author states that you should give yourself a year before making any long-term commitments. He basically gives the reader permission to move in with someone after a year. What this author is not telling you is that if you live together before getting married you are more likely to get a divorce. So think twice is all I advise.
Overall the advice is great and I look forward to reading another book by this author.
~The Rebecca Review
There are 100 rules the author lays out. He's experienced enough to understand that some are so simple that anyone with one iota of common sense can and does adhere without thinking about it, but then there are those little tricks that require time, patience and ultimately experience, sometimes in the form of suffering for us to understand and use the rules pragmatically. These rules are based on the authors observations of happily committed couples and run the gauntlet from first love to how to keep the relationship from stagnating and what to do in the event that the whole thing crumbles and becomes unsalvageable.
As stated, very practical but occasionally difficult to put into practice. It is simply stated: the means to practice utmost patience to love your partner as an individual while fulfilling the role of a great partner and maintaining the 'moral high-ground'.
Not necessarily informative (unless you're a teen, I suppose) but it has the potential to be incredibly useful and good for some reference / a reminder if you find yourself skidding into a jam.
One aspect that can be difficult for readers is that this book is founded upon anecdotal evidence. In writing it, Templar stated, "It's about what works." This is what has worked for the author, and for those many people which he has observed. You won't find many statistics or outside sources used in The Rules of Love. Having said that, I still feel that the advice given is true and valuable for all. Everything is logical, but also seems to simply ring true. In the book you'll find 100 specific and well elaborated principles for success. Templar has provided a well made toolbox of hints and it is up to each of us which ones we will implement into our relationships, yielding the much desired fruits of love. If you are even considering it, I would suggest that this one is too good to miss!