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The Rules (TM): Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right Hardcover – February 14, 1995
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An unexpected bestseller, this self-help book for women who want to hook a man seems to have struck a chord with desperate American women. Fein and Schneider, whose main credentials seem to be that they are married, lay out the rules to be followed for successfully snagging a dream hunk. And these rules are hard as cast-iron--Rule Five: Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls. The idea is to return to pre-feminist mind games, exploiting the male hunting urge by playing hard to get. The result seems unliberating--Rule Seventeen: Let Him Take the Lead--but it seems to be capturing female minds. Rules Girls are eyeing the phone with steely resolve, and Rules seminars are springing up nationwide. Curious bachelors have been observed studying The Rules, some frowning, others with the supercilious smile of the hunter.
The Rules is not just a book; it's a movement. -- Time, Elizabeth Gleick
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On one hand, yes, it does make sense: many men now days need a challenge, need to be taught how to treat a woman with respect, and require training and will simply not perceive a woman as she deserves without it! It's an instinct game, you have gotta make him think that you are a freaking gem and they need to catch it, keep it and cherish it or they lose it - only then some of the men will stay in relationships.
On the other hand, all of this is so manipulative, unfair, and may be even wrong, I don't know. May be, one can build relationships on manipulation and an instincts game, but, man, they will have to play this game till they die, can we really handle it? I am not sure if I want to be with a man, to whom I will look precious only when I play "loosable at every moment"...
I am still about to determine it for me - what do I want - to finally be in a lasting relationship (I am single (divorced) at 41) but achieve it through unfair game of manipulation, or may be remain single and just know that at least I didn't do anything that goes across my understanding of integrity... That's quite a dilemma.
Shallow-minded readers may view this book as some sort of women vs. men game, but the take-away should be how you want to be treated vs. how you are treated. Some women will live their entire lives allowing themselves to be treated like doormats. Some men will live their entire lives treating women like doormats. Nobody wants their kids to be either of those.
First off, when you read a book you should take what you like and leave the rest. Think for yourself.
That said, this book does a great job at what it promises: providing direction for a more successful love life. A few women made the following comment: "If the book is so great, why are there still single people?" Aside from some of the obvious answers which render this question so absolutely STUPID, I think it's a good idea to remember that love and romance are very tricky, elusive subjects and we will never have them completely fleshed out. Times change, people change. But there are some concepts that really run deep (such as men, no matter how shy, being a "certain" way, which has produced a societal structure which we are finally attempting to fix but will probably take a long time to), and I think "The Rules" (as well as other fabulous books that I highly recommend, like Kara King's "Power of the Pussy" and Sherry Argov's "Why Men Love Bitches") really connects with this notion. Until men and women are truly equal in all aspects (not just "profession" while in their love lives men still treat woman in a weird conquest-y way), it is wise to accept that they're a different animal and beat them at their own game rather than naively try to play the game that's only in your own head.
I love that this book offers a simple, feminine (I say feminine because I do think that mystery and wonder, while accessible to every individual, are qualities that inherently have a sort of feminine energy) mindset. I love that it feels like I'm in a school all about the game of love. I love the idea that there are unspoken rules out there. When I have a million things on my mind and I'm trying to enjoy myself with my favorite guy, I like to have a comfortable position to fall into. I think The Rules encourages all the wonderful experiences that being in love and dating have to offer -- they just make the road much less bumpy.
If you read, learn; but enjoy yourself. That's what it's all about.