- CD-ROM: 542 pages
- Publisher: Weston Productions (November 20, 1998)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0966884000
- ISBN-13: 978-0966884005
- Package Dimensions: 5.3 x 4.8 x 0.2 inches
- Shipping Weight: 2.4 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 15 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #7,979,565 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Russian Women & Marriage : Love Letters... From Russia Multimedia CD – November 20, 1998
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From the Author
Subsequent to the fall of the Berlin wall in 1989, thousands of American men have gone through the painstaking process of bringing Russian women to America for marriage. Why are these American men opening their hearts to marry Russian women, who frequently speak little English? Are these marriages simply based on a desire to marry submissive Russian women who will do anything to escape the economic turmoil consuming their country? Or is there some logical underlying reason why men are increasingly turning to Russia for love? The book Love Letter From Russia book provides insight into these interesting questions via a journal of the events leading to my marriage and subsequent divorce to a Russian woman, through correspondence, married life and tragic divorce.
The book Love Letters From Russia provides a personal view of my pursuit of marriage with a Russian woman, through many private letters from Russian women and a journal documenting my feelings and those of my wife. The letters provide a unique insight into the Russian culture from the viewpoint of a Russian. The book documents the emotions of Russian women willing to leave their homeland to marry an American man.
About the Author
A few words about myself and why I decided to write this book. For a variety of reasons, I made a personal commitment that I was going to be married. I had been actively looking to marry an American woman for several years, but to no avail. My average looks could not compete in the superficial world of dating; few women ever came to know the man behind the face. I felt that there had to be a better way -- a more logically structured approach -- for meeting my future spouse than relying on chance meetings with people.
One day I came across a news item on the subject of Russian women who wanted to marry American men in order to escape the economic depression of their country. Nationality made no difference to me, and I was intrigued by the possibilities, so I started my quest to marry a Russian woman. After three months of corresponding with Russian women, I decided to expose my emotions and obtain my friends' reactions to my quest. The typical reaction was, "Why in the world do you want to marry a Russian woman?" The first few times I was asked this question, I willingly expressed my feelings in great length. However, I eventually decided there had to be a better way. This is it Love Letters From Russia.
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I enjoyed reading this book in general, but had to hard copy it to make it easier to read.
While the reviewer from Lansing presents an excellent summary, I'd like to emphasize some key points in the book:
1. Anything that can take long, will take longer. This includes letter writing (E-Mail has shortened this somewhat), the fiancee visa process, and getting her back here.
2. Take the time to get to know the women. Going over to Russia planning to come back engaged in one month is for dreamers and masochists. You deserve what you get.
3. Don't expect this to be easier than dating American women. There are pros and cons that need to be balanced, before you jump into this. Don't fool yourself in thinking this is a cake walk. There are gold diggers and fruitcakes in any culture.
4. Establish reliable points of contact in the country to assist you in meeting the right woman. The drivers and translators are priceless. Some agencies are just presenting you an opportunity to buy addresses. This will not be enough.
5. Learn the language and the culture. It would help you get around a little better and would be appreciated more that you realize. You also wouldn't be suprised by the occasional bribe and deviations from the truth needed to get around.
5. Research, Research, Research. The web is filled with resources that can help you along the way. There are countless agencies with listings that literally make you go blind after a while, but some of these have great advise. Beware that while some agencies are highly ethical and have your interests and the lady interests in mind, others are rumored to have Russian mafia connections. Talk to people, Russians especially. Don't assume anything. If it's too good to be true, it probably is.
This is an excellent source. Read it. The best mistakes to learn from are those made by others. Preston made his share and had the courage to pass them on to us.
Leaving the US on a one or two-week vacation to find a wife doesn't work out any better than an arranged marriage in the US between two people who really know nothing about each other (my younger sister married a LTC seeking to curry favor with his boss (my older sister's hubby) and enhance his chances of being promoted. The gent never made Colonel and that marriage didn't last either.
Per cooldad, US men do not understand that FSU brides ARE NOT a weak female who wishes to stay at home and have babies. Forget about being in charge. FSU women grow up expecting to be "strong" and not pushovers.
Gents looking for "eye candy" to hang on their arm are simply in for a world of grief. Your odds of success are markedly improved if you have an advanced education, considerable living experience outside the US, and heaven forbid, speak some Russian.
After all the time he has spent there, he still has not learned these important facts:
1) She is NOT looking for someone her father's age to marry. An honest Russian woman will accept a small to moderate age difference, but if you are looking for someone with a 15 or 20 year difference then you need to have your head examined. Russian girls do NOT marry older Russian men, no matter what you've read on the websites who sell you their addresses. A 5 year difference is best, and a 6 to 10 year difference is workable but only in the very best of circumstances. When you are 70 and she is still looking great at 43, do you really think she will enjoy adjusting your oxygen machine and changing your adult diapers? Use your brain for goodness sake!
2) The biggest mistake American men make in looking for a Russian soulmate is they don't understand that she is NOT a weak female who wishes to stay at home and have babies. The old Soviet Union gave them equality long before American "women's lib" came along. Yes, they love to dress up and be feminine. Yes, she does want to be a lady and expects you to be a gentleman. But do not allow this to delude you into thinking that she is not strong and tough as nails. She can chew up and spit out an American feminist in just seconds, all the while looking dainty and feminine in her skirt and heels.
Forget about controlling her. Russian women are strong-willed and not about to be your pushover. Yes, her profile reads that she wants you to be the man in the marriage--which is her way of saying that she expects you to provide for your wife and children, but not boss her around. Given the condition of society, the economy, and Russian men, she has learned how to be very tough.
3) Many of us think that she is counting her lucky stars for a chance to come to America. We are such blind fools in this regard. Her culture values family above all else and that includes the extended family and friends she left behind. She will be VERY homesick for a long time and often will come very close to saying goodbye to you and returning. America offers a comfortable lifestyle but there is no supermarket or shopping mall special enough to replace her love for homeland and her people. American popular culture is extremely shallow and empty--and she will discover this very quickly. If genuine love has not begun to grow in your marriage, she will go home at some point. If you are looking for "arm candy" to show off your beautiful wife, but are not willing to put a lot of effort into the relationship (such as learning her language and her culture) then you are headed for loads of heartache and trouble.
My Russian wife is a special gift from God. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I am the most lucky man in the world. She is 10 years younger, breathtakingly beautiful, a great mother to our children, and a woman of great character. She tells her girlfriends that I am her best friend. But we had to work thru the transition time and learn how to make a good marriage work. It takes a lot of effort but its worth it!
Roger's book is meaningless for such a worthwhile endeavor.