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Best I have seen - but I did get "lost/confussed" a few times
on April 10, 2016
I feel this book taught me a great deal of how to approach protecting privates with my son (when he is old enough to address the issue). I especially like the idea of teaching the difference between a green and red flag person. I loved how the start of the book left room for the parent to engage in conversations and give the child the degree of information they felt was appropriate (in fact, I may have wanted more opportunities for discussion throughout the book). I also like that the book attempts to address what bribes and threats are... and that they are wrong.
My only reasons for giving the book 3 stars - is that around page 10 the book seems to change a bit - Up to that point, I LOVED the book, but afterwards it was just ok. Now yes, from then onward the book takes on the red flag side of things which is more uncomfortable to deal with... but I also feel there is just a pacing, organizational, wording issue of some kind. For example, pages 10-11 gave examples that were repetitive and far too similar - i actually thought I missed something and re-read it three times. Then there was the absence of parent-child questions/discussion until page 18 - I kinda want that to be at regular intervals. Plus, the story of what the boy experienced in real life is a very good one and absolutely needs to be told, but I felt the transition to that story confusing - maybe it should have a title for a new section... or make the first line even more clear that we are transitioning to a real life story. This first time I read it, I did not realize it was a real story until it was done. To be honest, it also took me 3-4 times flipping through the book to find the start of the story again just to write this review. Lastly, the ending was awkward because it had to address that a green flag person (like a caregiver, parent etc.) can sometimes earn a red flag if they ask to see or touch your privates.... I am pretty sure that is a VERY difficult topic to approach... especially after spending so much time at the start of the book establishing who are green flags and why they are safe and trustworthy. So the green and red flag system kind breaks down a bit because of that ending.
Overall, this is the BEST attempt I have seen to address the difficult issue of molestation etc. I just found the book to not be as kid friendly or easily divided into small sections for piece-meal study... as I would have hoped it to be. But I learned A TON... about ways to approach this issue. Ultimately, no book can prevent a predator from accessing my son, but I hope that this book just might help my son say no in the moment or at least tell someone what happened afterward so we can make it stop right away.
To be honest this book addresses my greatest fear for my son because... I have known seven people who were sexually abused as children and teenagers... plus, two of the schools I attended / worked at had teachers arrested and convicted for molestation and/or child pornography. Only 2 of those cases were reported... so that tells me - its more prevalent than the published numbers.