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Scared To Leave, Afraid To Stay: Paths From Family Violence To Safety Hardcover – January 1, 2010

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What is it like for a woman to leave the man who is abusing her? This book presents the stories of ten women as they fought the courts and their abusers to gain safety for themselves and their children. The author demonstrates how courts handle divorce, custody, visitation, support, child abuse, marital property, orders of protection and crimes when domestic violence erupts. He also discusses the common tactics abusers use to maintain control over their partners. The average abused wife makes seven attempts to leave her abuser. Each time she learns more about the resources available. By providing information about how to leave someone who is abusing you, this book makes it easier for women to escape. The brave women described in Scared To Leave, Afraid to Stay all faced serious hardships and threats, but they found there can be a better life. None of them ever chose to go back to a life of violence.

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222 pages
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English
Publisher

Robert Reed Publishers
Publication date

January 1, 2010
Dimensions

6.24 x 0.9 x 9.38 inches
ISBN-10

1931741085
ISBN-13

978-1931741088
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Barry Goldstein has practiced law in New York since 1978. He served on the Board of Directors of My Sisters' Place, one of the leading domestic violence agencies in the country for 14 years, including four years as Chairperson. As a result, many domestic violence agencies have referred clients to Mr. Goldstein because he is one of the few lawyers with expertise in domestic violence and because of his willingness to take cases on a pro bono or reduced fee basis. Mr. Goldstein has also worked with the Community Change Project of the Volunteer Counseling Service in Rockland County, New York since January of 1999 teaching domestic violence classes for men who have been convicted of domestic violence crimes.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Robert Reed Publishers; First edition (January 1, 2010)
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Hardcover ‏ : ‎ 222 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1931741085
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1931741088
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 1.1 pounds
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6.24 x 0.9 x 9.38 inches

Best Sellers Rank: #2,662,502 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #1,825 in Domestic Partner Abuse (Books)
- #3,626 in Abuse Self-Help
- #4,276 in Violence in Society (Books)

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Worth the read

Reviewed in the United States on June 8, 2019

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Great read lots of helpful information

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Momsare Forkids

This is an amazing suprise as a fun

Reviewed in the United States on December 11, 2015

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This is an amazing suprise as a fun, educational, and anecdotal read with a very desperate message. Mothers and children are being abused by a system that will stop at nothing to continue the systematic, intended, and epidemic destruction of the American family, and the Constitution. Family Division has a long history of pathetic and unscrupulous behavior. Our children deserve a higher standard. Thank you Barry, for all you do to support a victimized and underrepresented demographic.

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Talia Carner

From utter darkness to light and hope...

Reviewed in the United States on August 28, 2002

From the dungeon of misery in abusive relationships, ten women and their children broke their way to the surface and found light.

The process was not easy, as Barry Goldstein, an attorney specializing in helping battered women find hope, demonstrates in this straight-talk book.

But in "Scared To Leave, Afraid To Stay" Goldstein also reveals in user-friendly legalese that behind the mountains of paperwork and lengthy court appearances, callous judges and biased experts, there are people like him who care. Mostly, in the follow-up to each case Goldstein tells how these women were able to rebuild their lives and the lives of their children. They found happiness, they found meaning, they found themselves. They found hope.

They gave their children the future that their fathers were intent on robbing.

The book also contains practical information and resources.

I recommend SCARED TO STAY, AFRAID TO LEAVE to anyone who is living the hell of abusive relationship or has a loved one that is scared to leave. I recommend the book to all others who should learn to understand the secretive dark side of love gone awry--and our society's failure to respond and treat it.

Talia Carner, author,
Puppet Child and China Doll

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Scott D. Wasserman

Amazing cases

Reviewed in the United States on July 14, 2002

If you think you know about marital abuse the true life stories in this book will shock you. It gives the inside story of judicial crimes against abused women from an attorney with years of experience in the field, as well as sensible recommendations for reform.

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ConcernedCitizen

Is Mr. Goldstein telling the truth?

Reviewed in the United States on January 6, 2009

Mr. Goldstein has been barred by NY Appellate court for deceit, fraud and misrepresentation.

Here are the excerpts from the court case:

Charge 15 alleges that the respondent engaged in conduct involving dishonesty, fraud, deceit, or misrepresentation, in violation of Code of Professional Responsibility DR 1-102(a)(4) (22 NYCRR 1200.3[a][4]).

Court found that Charge 15 was accurate - "Based on the respondent's admissions and the evidence adduced at the hearing, we find that all charges are sustained, with the exception of Charge 10 (Statement No. vii), Charge 11 (Statement No. vii), and Charge 23."

And ordered that Mr. Goldstein be suspended for 5 years !

ORDERED that the respondent Barry L. Goldstein, is suspended from the practice of law for a period of five years, commencing January 30, 2009, and continuing until further order of this Court, with leave to the respondent to apply for reinstatement no sooner than six months prior to the expiration of the said period of five years

With this kind of background, the material presented by Mr. Goldstein is very suspect. Throw it in the gutter.

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