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The Secret Lives of Wives: Women Share What It Really Takes to Stay Married Hardcover – September 29, 2011
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"At first this book terrified me: another submission and sacrifice marriage manual for wives? Instead Iris Krasnow delivers astonishing candor, realistic compassion, and invaluable wisdom when it comes to how paradoxically infuriating and rewarding long-term marriages can be. The best book on marriage ever." — Leslie Morgan Steiner
“In this breathtaking book The Secret Lives of Wives, Iris Krasnow opens a window into the inner world of women whose unique courage and vision has enabled them to find relationship happiness over the long term. With wit and wisdom, she thoughtfully tells their stories and then fills the reader with brilliant ideas and concepts to apply to their own lives. This is as much of a men’s book as it was written by and for women.” — Dr. Bill Cloke
“Iris Krasnow has managed to demystify the workings of long-term marriages by confirming the mysterious uniqueness of each one. The secret, she finds, lies in the way two people negotiate their own personal amalgam of companionship and sex, compromise and disappointment, lust and tenderness, trust and lies. The challenge for the rest of us is to do the same.” — Suzanne Braun Levine
“She whips up a spirited, enlightening cocktail of comfort, support and grace. Fulfilling and well-structured.” — Kirkus Reviews
“One of Ten Titles to Pick Up Now. ‘Boyfriends with boundaries,’ separate summers, and other therapeutic strategies for maintaining wedded bliss over the long haul.” — O, The Oprah Magazine
About the Author
Iris Krasnow is the author of New York Times bestseller Surrendering to Marriage, as well as Surrendering to Motherhood, Surrendering to Yourself, and I Am My Mother’s Daughter. A longtime journalism professor at American University, she has appeared on numerous national shows, ranging from Oprah and Good Morning America to Today and All Things Considered. She lives in Maryland with her husband and four sons.
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What is their secret? Having their own lives/identities, mostly through spending summers apart. First part, sounds great, makes sense. Second part is obviously a trick that only a few are able to use given their means. So, with that great advice, is the government heading toward an incentive program that helps funds these happy marriages for those unable to afford those lovely husbandless getaways? No? Didn't think so.
Here are a few of the gems I did pull out of this book:
"You don't get it all from one person in one place." I am a firm believer in the saying "it takes a village" throughout all of one's life. You can't expect one person to meet your every needs as you wouldn't want them to expect you to also be their everything. Getting married so young this was one it took me time to come to terms with.
"I actually believe that aloneness can enhance true intimacy with another because you get to know yourself better. Self- exploration leads to growth for you, and that renewal fuels your marriage." You never stop growing in this life. I think this is a key thing that most people forget.
Opposite sex friendships don't always lead to sex. It can be very valuable to have these types of relationships there just needs to be full disclosure and honesty about it with your spouse.
"...you must have love, you must have respect, and you must have a sense of self." This came from a woman married 70 years. Seems small, but I think if more people thought of that they would work on themselves first before committing to another.
In sum, don't pick up this book. Read an internet article on marriage and you'll get the same out of it.
There were a few good points in this book, but it was not what I expected and a big downer for me.