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The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love Paperback – May 29, 2007
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The 9 steps are more than enough to justify buying this book. It explains the Triune brain theory, our reptilian, mammalian, and higher brain function, which are responsible for attraction, bonding, and commitment. Relationships falter between there is lack of communication between partners on all three levels simultaneously, and this is how the 9 step process comes into play. If the entire 9 steps are not followed in sequence or steps are overlooked years can be wasted, and you can be left wondering where the relationship went wrong. For example, one important step in the attraction phase is make him compete to win you. As a man I understand why this is important. As a woman you may wonder, until you read this book.
There is however so much other gold in this book. As an experienced psychiatrist, with substantial case experience, he has developed models of how to deal with various issues both personally and in relationships. In particular, I liked his definition of self esteem, and his maps to deal with this, anger, sadness, anxiety and depression.
This book is far more complete than the title would suggest, offering many proven processes to fine tune your relationship. Perhaps the most important concept of all is the "Cool Eye" which as human beings we all have, but very few of us use it consciously as a tool to improve our lives. Quite simply though, you cannot evolve without it.
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The 9 steps are safety instructions. So you can live with your eyes open and make good choices. And when your story comes along you won't trap or win Mr. Right but you will be clear to make the best choices and join the story.
I'm married and I definitely see strong parallels in all 9 steps to the unfolding of our story. Read the book, live your life and keep an eye open for your story!
Diagrams throughout make the psychology lessons easy to understand and the idea of allowing natural stages of courtship to unfold makes complete sense. This book is mainly for women who want to secure a long-term relationship and are willing to thoughtfully analyze each step in the process.
What are the character traits that make men irresistible?
What are the three main stages to all romantic relationships?
How can you avoid breakups or divorce?
What makes men and women successful at relationships?
To bring about a full understanding of how we fall in love, Dr. Paul Dobransky explains how our brains function. This is truly brilliant because it gives a realistic viewpoint to an otherwise unexplainable phenomena. Falling in love is normally so mysterious and veiled and the information presented here explores the reptilian (brain stem), mammalian (midbrain) and higher brain (cortex) in detail.
During each stage of courtship a different part of the brain takes center stage. By understanding how the brain works while you are hopelessly falling in love gives you insight into what is actually occurring. This gives a woman much more control over her emotions and allows her to sidestep many of the dangers involved with only relying on the reptilian brain or physical attraction stages. There are detailed lists of what to look for if you suspect you may be with Mr. Wrong.
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I read the book from cover to cover in about 1-2 sittings. It was succinctly written and well outlined on the easy steps to follow to really find the relationship we are looking for. If you are looking for love or currently are in a relationship - FOLLOW THESE STEPS. THEY WORK. I am already checking all these steps in my new and strong relationship I entered into at the beginning of the year. So far, we are mapping very well to the guidelines. I am so excited.
Dr Paul : Thank you for doing the work on this. Your rewards from this are well deserved.
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LOVE THIS BOOK - it works. So, here's a crazy story. I was in LOVE with this guy who would not commit. I had been after him for almost a year, but he refused to make it official. Read morePublished 7 months ago by SallyReviews
So much information in this book about how men tick but also the spiritual slant on the role that serendipity plays in our lives, which certainly did in me finding my true love. Read morePublished 11 months ago by Marisa Bellami
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This book gave me a ton of great info. Some I knew but seeing it and reading it in clear precise ways helped me identify my own traps way easier. Read morePublished on June 20, 2014 by Yvonne Van Eijk
I am a self admitted hopeless romantic so this book appealed to the emotional side of me and I most enjoyed reading it.Published on February 28, 2014 by amazonbuyer
Very helpful analysis of falling in love
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You can spends years trying to understand courtship and personal development, only scratching the surface on your own. Read morePublished on February 7, 2013 by thebuyer