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Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man Paperback – December 26, 2006
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Top Customer Reviews
In her guise as "Ned", the author explores such bastions of manhood as strip-clubs, the world of dating women, a monastery and a men's support group. Her experiences are intriguing as well as entertaining and will make most people think about how men and women are perceived by each other.
I think this book should be required reading for any woman who is currently married, engaged to or in a relationship with a man. It made me seriously examine my attitudes towards men and my perceptions of their behavior. It underscores so sublimely the need for men and women to HONESTLY communicate with each other...on ALL levels.
The most telling point for me was when the author was at the men's support group retreat, when the members drew their heros & some drew Atlas holding up the world.
Read this book with an open mind, whether you are male or female and you will see there is more to it than just a cool stunt just for its own sake. I hope people will pick it up and give it a chance.
The only thing that I didn't like about the book is that it left me wanting more information on some of the friends she met as Ned. Her writing made me as fond of her cohorts as she seemed to become herself.
Highly recommended reading that folks will clearly be talking about more and more.
Norah Vincent disguised herself as a man, took the name "Ned," and then infiltrated a number of male-dominated venues (a blue-collar bowling league, a monastery, men's movement meetings, etc.). Like anyone venturing into a new culture, she went into our world with a number of preconceived notions. However, she was constantly surprised by her findings, and ultimately came to respect the male gender.
Although the entire book was fascinating, a couple of chapters were more applicable to my quest. For example, her take on the dating scene in Chapter Four was spot-on. As men, we have to endure a ton of tactless rejections. Women consider us losers and/or predators until we prove otherwise. Perhaps that explains my current ex's statement that, "a man views a woman as an accessory to add to his life, like a big-screen TV. However, a woman has to take on the man's life, have his kids, and so on. Therefore, she has a lot more to lose, and has to be much more discerning." While that's a somewhat cynical take on the situation, she has a point. But I'm dismayed that she confirmed the author's findings about the adversarial nature of modern thirty-something dating. It makes me lean even more towards lifelong celibacy.Read more ›
A thoughtful, honest, fascinating book that will make you laugh and make you think. Brava, Ms. Vincent!
Bam! Norah Vincent dispels all of those and more in this can't-put-down book. A woman posing as a man. Sensational? Perhaps. However, Ms. Vincent has managed to write an unbiased, often touching and frequently very funny book about the lives men lead.
A lasting moment from the book, in my mind: Vincent's description of a male handshake with another man, warm and welcoming, v. a woman-to-woman hug and air-kiss, superficial and fleeting.
Certainly a landmark book, especially for those of us women who truly want to appreciate men and empathize with them.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
This is now an old book, so I don't think I learned much I didn't already know. It was nonetheless a fascinating read with her encounters and reflections about men and gender... Read morePublished 6 days ago by Line
i read this book due to a book club choice. I did not like it at all. The choice of male groups the author joined was odd. The chapter on visiting strip clubs was disgusting. Read morePublished 8 days ago by Picasso
This book is brutally honest - about men, women, feminists and social situations.
Norah was raised as a Feminist. She had their beliefs. She saw Misogyny everywhere. Read more
"They tended to see a wolf in every man they met, and so they made every man they met into a wolf— even when that man was a woman."
After that line, I'm done. Read more
Turns out it's still a man-bashing book. She just manages to do it in a more thoughtful way.
Here's the result. Read more
In Self-Made Man Norah Vincent a lesbian woman creates a male alternate identity as "Ned" and lives and infiltrates various male groups. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Pat B
I really like this book - as a woman I'm very interested in the world of men that we don't get to see. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Michelle
Reading Self-Made Man was an unexpected pleasure, although perhaps not always for the reasons I expected. Read morePublished 6 months ago by Peter Mathews
Brilliant research that taught me more than I've ever known about why men do what they doPublished 6 months ago by L. Wells