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Self Matters: Creating Your Life from the Inside Out Paperback – May 6, 2003
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The well-known "life strategist" and TV personality Dr. Phil begins this upbeat self-help book by recalling one of the most unpleasant phone calls he ever had to make. In 1989, ten years into a flourishing career, McGraw called his father to say that, despite the outward trappings of success, he was miserable. His new plan was to move away and start a new career and a new life. According to McGraw, many people are currently in a similar situation-trapped in unsatisfying lives or jobs that they loathe. Too many people, says McGraw, are "so busy being busy, that they have let the colors fade from their lives." They're worried about superficial matters rather than what's important: "I'll bet 90-plus percent of them spent months, or even years, planning their wedding and almost no time planning their marriage!" To change their lives, McGraw's readers must first complete two questionnaires he designed to assess their "authentic self" and their "congruency" (how someone's current life compares with a vision of an ideal life). With the scores from these tests, readers can then embark upon a specific plan for changing their lives-and for determining which external and internal forces they will, or won't, allow to control their futures. Readers familiar with McGraw's aggressive TV personality may be surprised by this book's thoughtful and serious tone. McGraw's notion of making change is not a simple one-it requires readers to examine every aspect of their daily lives-and it's likely that some readers may not be able to make all the changes he advocates. But his book offers a thorough, realistic resource for those who are committed to turning their lives around to get what they really want and need.
Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information, Inc.
About the Author
Dr. Phil Mcgraw is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Ultimate Weight Solution, Self Matters, Life Strategies, and Relationship Rescue. He is the host of the nationally syndicated, daily one-hour series Dr. Phil. One of the world's foremost experts in the field of human functioning, Dr. McGraw is the cofounder of Courtroom Sciences, Inc., the world's leading litigation consulting firm. Dr. McGraw currently lives in Los Angeles, California, with his wife and two sons.
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The physical mirrors we look into can actually become walls that obstruct us. Our true self is not what we see but our thoughts, motivations, and fears we have in our heads as we go through life in relationships, career, family, making decisions etc. Our past experiences do make a major portion of who we are today, and how we perceive life and relate to the people in our lives. This is not a psycho-babble, new-age, inner-self "soup" book in any way. It is an aid to help us be more introspective in our lives.
Today, most of us are so busy that we don't have the time, or the awareness to look at the many experiences and people that have shaped our lives and outlooks, both past and present. It is simply too easy today to get distracted by our daily routines. For the many of us that are living unauthentic lives, our time is inadvertently consumed by commutes, long hours at work, television, booze, Prozac, and the one week vacation at the resort a couple of months down the road. If we are more aware of ourselves, then we can focus on how it makes us who we are, and how we can deal with it, grow with it, and turn our knowledge of our true self into wisdom, and make better decisions in our life. It is a very helpful book.
Concept to me. This books concepts hit the nail right on the head of what I need to do. Now it's just a matter of practice and
Allowing the perspective to guide me back to my authentic self.
The exercises for each chapter make this quick-read pretty time consuming when you put forth the effort to complete them, but they are surprisingly effective. Particularly interesting ideas are the internal dialog chapter, the minimal effective response plan, the now famous ten defining moments, seven critical choices and five pivotal people theories and the sabotage strategies of toxic individuals. This unique and empowering book will benefit everyone who reads it.
This can change, if people become interested in freeing their resident true Self (capital "S") to harmonize their other subselves. Hundreds of practicing clinicians around the country help people do this via "Internal Family Systems" therapy.
McGraw's ideas sound practical and useful, build hope, and DO promote healthy self-awareness. However, I suspect that most people will be unable to benefit significantly from his suggestions because they're unaware that their lives are often ruled by false selves. This is one explanation for vexing compulsions, why most diets don't work, widespread trouble keeping New Year's resolutions, and often doing self-harmful things "anyway." ...
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