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About Sherrie Eldridge
For well over two decades, Sherrie Eldridge has offered her unique voice within the adoption community, as an established author and international speaker. From speaking to Bejing orphanage workers, government officials, and police officers, to educating parents and orphanage workers in Thailand,to traveling throughout the U.S. and Canada to speak, Sherrie has been amazed at the opportunities she’s been given to share her adoptee heart. A parent from Puerto Rico said, “Sherrie has a beautiful heart because she’s willing to tell me what my daughter may experience while growing up adopted.” In addition, Sherrie’s identity is strong. She knows who she is and Whom she belongs to. An adoptee herself, Eldridge is akin to an adoptee whisperer, coaching adoptive and foster parents how to gently approach their traumatized children and develop intimacy. Sherrie’s skill and insights didn’t come from books, but from the anvil of her own adoptee heart. From adoption at ten days of age, she spent time with orphans from the Children’s Home that her adoptive grandmother managed. It was there that she interacted with homeless kids of all colors, shapes, and backgrounds. To this day, she’s in contact with several. Sales for her best-seller, TWENTY THINGS ADOPTED KIDS WISH THEIR ADOPTIVE PARENTS KNEW, currently exceeds 220,000 copies and has been translated into French, Spanish, and Japanese. Sherrie has run the gamut of experiences as an adopted person–traumatic relinquishment, only child, RAD, successful and unsuccessful birth family reunions, strained relationship with her adoptive mom. In spite of the painful parts, she wouldn’t change a thing. Why? Because song birds learn to sing in the night. Sherrie’s approach to writing and speaking is positive, yet she states that losing one’s first family produces the deepest of suffering for both birth mothers and their children. In her thinking, physical adoption is society’s way of caring for orphaned children. Spiritual adoption is not the same and many Christians have wounded adoptees by equating the two. Therefore, Sherrie is “pro-adoption,” for it is the only system we have currently for unwed mothers and children, even though archaic and broken. She maintains that all parts of the adoption triad–adoptees, birth mothers, adoptive mothers– must offer mutual respect and honor. If wounding one another occurs instead, it’s an indicator that healing is needed for both mothers and adoptees. Currently, she is working on another book-another 20 THINGS, which focuses on the mother/child relationship in adoptive families. Moms will learn why instilling love in their children’s brains is not dependent on the child’s level of receptivity. She will share her own story of recovery from her painful past and the steps others can take to discover the same healing.
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- Why adoptees resist talking about adoption with parents
- How to Gain Entrance into the child's world/not gain entrance
Filled with powerful insights from children, parents, and experts in the field, plus practical strategies and case histories that will ring true for every adoptive family, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew is an invaluable guide to the complex emotions that take up residence within the heart of the adopted child--and within the adoptive home.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
Sherrie Eldridge is an adoptee and adoption expert, and in this book she draws on her personal experiences and feelings relating to adoption as well as interviews with over 70 adoptees. Sherrie reveals how you can discover your own unique life purpose and worth, and sets out 20 life-transforming choices which you have the power to make. The choices will help you discover answers about issues such as: Why do I feel guilty when I think about my birth parents? Why can't I talk about the painful aspects of adoption? Where can I gain an unshakable sense of self-esteem? Sherrie also addresses the problem of depression among adoptees and common dilemmas such as if, when and how to contact a birth mother or father.
This fully updated second edition includes new material on finding support online, contacting family through social media, and features three new chapters, including Sherrie's story of reuniting with her birth brother, Jon, in adulthood.
Does my child consider me a successful parent?
Will I ever hear my rebellious teen say, “I love you”?
What tools do I need to succeed?
In her groundbreaking first book, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew, Sherrie Eldridge gave voice to the very real concerns of adopted children, whose unique perspectives offered unprecedented insight. In this all-new companion volume, Eldridge goes beyond those insights and shifts her focus to parents, offering them much-needed encouragement and hope.
Speaking from her own experience as an adoptee and an expert in the field of adoption, Eldridge shares proven strategies and the moving narratives of nearly one hundred adoptive families, helping parents gain a deeper understanding of what is normal, both for their children and themselves. By first strengthening yourself as a parent, you’ll be able to truly listen to your child, and to connect with him on every level, by opening the channels of communication and keeping them open forever. Then you and your child can grow closer through the practical exercises at the end of every chapter.
Discover how to
• be confident that your role in your child’s life is vital and irreplaceable
• pass on the legacy of healthy self-care by assessing and regulating your stress
• communicate unconditional love to your child
• talk candidly with your child about her adoption and her birth family
• teach your family how to respond positively to insensitive remarks about adoption
• connect with other adoptive families–and build a support network
• plus learn to become a “warrior” parent…settle the “real parent” question…cope with emotional triggers–what to do when you “lose it” . . . celebrate the miracle of your family…and much more