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Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid: A Survival Guide for Ordinary Parents of Special Children Paperback – August 3, 2010
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—Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., author of The Explosive Child and Lost at School
“Know, work with, or love a child with special needs? If so, Gina Gallagher and Patricia Konjoian’s Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid is the latest ‘must-read’ book on the subject. The sisters, whose wit and delivery could have landed them a gig on the stand-up circuit, share facts and funny stories about raising kids with disabilities while providing practical advice and identifying helpful resources. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll learn a lot about living well with challenge. Buy a copy for yourself . . . and two or three more for your friends with perfect kids!”
—KATE McLAUGHLIN, author of Mommy I’m Still in Here: One Family’s Journey with Bipolar Disease
“With truly masterful use of humor as a coping strategy, Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid authors Gina Gallagher and Patricia Konjoian address the challenges, the heartbreak, and the touching victories of parenting children with disabilities today. The book is a valuable and insightful resource for any family member or friend of a child with special needs. It conveys a wealth of practical information with a warmth and compassion that helps parents realize they are not alone.”
—DEIRDRE E. LOGAN, PhD, psychologist, Children’s Hospital Boston, and assistant professor of psychology, Harvard Medical School
“Anyone who has ever laughed while raising a child will love this book! Gina and Patricia really find the humor in special needs parenting—and they validate us all.” —SUSAN SENATOR, author of Making Peace with Autism and The Autism Mom’s Survival Guide
“Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid is the perfect antidote to a society obsessed with perfection. It was written by two sisters who both have children with unique challenges. Gina Gallagher and Patricia Konjoian have created an honest, humorous, and touching book that will make you laugh and cry, but most of all it will make you reevaluate how you look at other people in this world. Their journey is similar to that of many parents who have been filled with conflicting feelings about their children. But at the end of the day, instead of seeing their children’s differences, they see their determination and spirit. It’s that determination and spirit that has changed their lives in every way. It’s also what they would like the rest of the world to embrace. This book is a breath of fresh air to parents of kids with all sorts of abilities.”
—TRACY ANGLADA, executive director of BPChildren and author of Intense Minds: Through the Eyes of Young People with Bipolar Disorder
“This survival guide is a must-read for families of children with emerging and existing mental health conditions. Not only does this book provide highly practical advice, but it infuses that advice with real-life stories of families who have faced unthinkable challenges and come out on top. It offers hope to every family who has faced the dark side of stigma and the struggle of securing effective services and supports for their child. Families who read this book will truly understand that they are not alone. The road can be long and hard, but this book reminds us that on our journey, humor provides a powerful role in the struggle. Ordinary families will find themselves reading and rereading this guide as they come to appreciate the beauty of their unique and special child.”
—DARCY GRUTTADARO, director of the NAMI National Child and Adolescent Action Center
“Thank you, Gina and Patty, for reminding the world that our most cherished human qualities, courage and resilience among them, can never be captured by a test score or grade on a report card. Your book, your message, and your ‘Movement of Imperfection’ could not have arrived at a better time. Thanks to you, countless numbers of people, children and adults alike, will come to see their differences in a hopeful new light.”
—MARK KATZ, PhD, clinical and consulting psychologist, San Diego, California, and author of On Playing a Poor Hand Well
From the Back Cover
Medication: "We've met parents who feel guilty for putting their kids on meds...for not putting their kids on meds...even for taking their kids' meds."
Food: "Yes, my daughter would like a Happy Meal. Please hold the meal and she'll be happy."
Marriage: "You can remember the name of Beaver Cleaver's first-grade teacher, but you can't remember to put your son on the bus?"
Sports: "Do we have to follow the ball Mom? It's more fun following a bee."
Everyday life: "Sorry, I missed the bus, Mom. I was practicing my funny faces in the mirror." --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Top Customer Reviews
This book made me laugh and it made me cry, but most of all it made me realize how truly lucky I am to be blessed with the family and the support system I have. Bravo to the sisters for embracing their imperfection!
The book goes through their different reactions to their daughter's diagnoses and follows along through the good and the bad. Walk with Gina and Patty as they go thorugh IEPs, team meetings, appointments with psychologists and psychiatrists. Cry and laugh as they describe their daughters going to school, inclusion classroom, private school and life in general.
While their daughters have Asperger's, Bipolar disorder and NVLD you will enjoy reading no matter what your child's disability may be.
Join them and their many fans on Facebook as well "Shut-Up About Your Perfect Kid". Learn that while others brag about the honor roll or star athlete, your child has qualities worth bragging about as well.
The book really recounts their own experiences raising kids with special needs, but along the way, nuggets of professional insight are provided. You will definitely cry while reading this book, but you'll also laugh out loud and be racing to share the excerpts with friends. You will finish the book feeling hopeful and more appreciative of all the imperfections around you - including your own. This may be the best part of the book - being reminded that imperfection really is just perfect.
Don't be deceived by the title! Although the title might imply that the Shut Up Sisters would like to tell off the parents of every child who is seemingly "perfect," nothing could be farther from the point. It's really about embracing all the wonderful qualities of your imperfect child and educating others so that you and your child will not have to live on the fringes of the "perfect" kids.
Many thanks and kudos to the Shut Up Sisters for opening their lives and the lives of their children to help other parents of special needs children feel comfortable, too. These are girls you would want to hang out with - not just Gina & Patty, but their daughters, too.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I love this book...it really makes me as a parent seen ordinary in the quirky world I live in. I have suggested many of my friends as well as my sons school counselor to read this... Read morePublished 5 months ago by Kerri E. Bonvie
This book is a perfect way to understand how it feel when the shoe is on the other foot. Both authors ( sisters) are mothers of special needs children. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Silly Mimi
Well written. Good information and incite to the family lives of people with disabilities.Published 18 months ago by Julie
An interesting read about the authors lives with their children. I got about halfway through and feel like I got the message, so maybe it could have been shorter. Read morePublished 19 months ago by Emily
Wasn't bad but wasn't what I wad hoping for either, I wouldn't go out of my way yo recommend itPublished 20 months ago by Julie