Sibling relationships are often fraught with rivalry, jealousy, bitterness, and violence, and the older kids get, the worse the problems seem to get. Sibling strife can be agony for the parents, and few are prepared for the intensity of the battles and emotions that their kids have with each other. The title, Siblings Without Rivalry
promises a lot, and Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish (coauthors of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk
) deliver the goods: a positive approach and specific techniques to help bring peace and cooperation into your home.
Siblings Without Rivalry is organized by sections: the importance of expressing hostile feelings, the perils of comparisons, teaching kids to work out conflicts on their own, and what to do when they fight. The "Reminder" pages, humorous examples that ring true, and great cartoons by Kimberly Ann Coe all make this book an easily accessible resource. Faber and Mazlish will help you understand sibling rivalry from the inside out, and you'll gain insight on your relationships with your own siblings, as well.
From Library Journal
Disciples of the late Haim Ginott, a child psychologist, Faber and Mazlish have conducted workshops on family relationships and co-authored Liberated Parents, Liberated Children (Avon, 1975) and How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (Rawson Wade, 1980). The present book states that sibling rivalry stems from jealousy similar to that a spouse might feel if asked to welcome another husband or wife into the household. It outlines ways to defuse such explosive situations as comparing, assigning roles, or taking sides and suggests specific remedies to avoid conflict. Cartoon-like illustrations and "quick reminders" help reinforce new behavior. A welcome assist over the rough times that too often leave lifetime scars. Suzanne Druehl, Little Rock Public Library, Ark.
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