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The Silence of Adam: Becoming Men of Courage in a World of Chaos Paperback – March 10, 1998

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Crabb and his coauthors are biblical counselors and here apply their specialty to answering the generally secular-cum-pagan men's movement's concern with the male emotional paralysis that so often blights marriages, father-son relationships, and even male friendships. They trace the problem with men to the silence with which Adam became complicit in the first fall from God's grace. Adam failed to trust in God's word and example, and modern men do the same when, instead of following God's example in dealing with uncertainties, they retreat into self-righteousness and toughness that mask anger and fear. Crabb and his colleagues make an analysis of men's silence that is spiritually convincing; moreover, they bolster their argument's veracity by submitting their own weaknesses and struggles as supporting evidence. Some Christian men may think the authors overread Scripture, but few will fail to be taught and moved by their resolute faith in remembering and trusting God's redemptive creativity in times of trial, to be stirred by their vision of a greater Christian future filled with godly father-mentors and brother-friends. Ray Olson --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Men today have locked horns with their toughest issue: reclaiming the masculinity God created them for. But what defines manhood? In answer, Dr. Larry Crabb and colleagues Don Hudson and Al Andrews offer a clearer vision of who men are, what's gone wrong, and what men can become. Drawn from neglected biblical data and from the authors' professional experience, here is a compelling, fresh perspective on manhood: the calling, the struggle, the journey, the failure, and the power. Now in softcover.

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 192 pages
  • Publisher: Zondervan (March 1, 1998)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0310219396
  • ISBN-13: 978-0310219392
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.5 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 4.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (41 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #264,569 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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I read this book at a critical point in my life, and it has had a profound effect on how I view myself and my role as a husband. I recommend this for any man about to be married or enter another phase of their life. The authors describe how men have fallen, and throw a new (for me) twist into the old Adam and Eve story. Instead of depicting Eve as being deceived and then subsequently deceiving Adam, the book describes that Adam was there the whole time, yet said and did nothing. (Hence the book title: Silence of Adam.) The book goes on to describe many different ways men compensate for their weaknesses and inability to have all the answers by often acting in ways which harm themselves and others. What struck a deep chord with me is the way the book describes how to react or act in those times when there are no answers. The chapter "Men Who Fight Darkness" was especially powerful in that it depicts the harm in trying to fix something, or act, when the only way out is to trust and be still. Typically, my response to situations which I cannot resolve is to try something, anything. I resist being patient and waiting for situations I cannot control to unfold naturally. The book illustrates some excellent examples of the damage this causes, and the healing and success a different approach may bring. I liked the way he described how "We begin to face the loneliness of choice, the terror of trust". In the chapter titled "Recipe Theology" the author describes common responses like being a recovery addict ("How can I FEEL better"?) or a grim legalist ("How can I DO better"?), and how we "either become pre-occupied with feeling good or we feel pressured to do good.Read more ›
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I've enjoyed a couple of Dr. Crabb's books, so I looked forward to his take on manhood in "The Silence of Adam." As expected, I was challenged and encouraged by his insights. However, I also felt frustrated by some of his perspectives (there are two coauthors who contribute their own personal stories of dealing with Adam's silence, but for simplicity's sake I'll cite Dr. Crabb as the author).

The theme of this book takes off from Adam's part in the Fall. Dr. Crabb claims that Adam's silence during Eve's temptation has haunted men down through the ages. Silence represents our fearful retreat from Biblical manhood into one of two extremes: neediness (a corruption of sensitivity) or toughness (a corruption of strength). Neediness equates to withdrawal and passivity, while toughness is exemplified by control and dominance. The ideal, as lived out by Christ, is a balance between sensitivity and strength. How is this balance achieved? I found some help with that, but experienced some misgivings as well.

On the one hand, I appreciated Dr. Crabb's call for a return to the Biblical basics of a God-centered life. I echo his frustration with bullet-point healing methodologies and self-help gurus with pat answers and principles to make life work our way. He calls this controlling and ultimately futile approach "Recipe Theology." Instead, Christian men should embrace "Transcendent Theology" that acknowledges the uncertainty of life and advocates a constant seeking of God. Dr. Crabb sums it up like this: "We don't believe the Bible provides a plan for making life work as we think it should. We think it offers a reason to keep on going even when life doesn't work that way (p. 13)." Amen.
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While I have tremendous respect for Dr. Larry Crabb and his work, I was disappointed by this book. It does highlight important issues related to men, but I believe it goes too far in making the Creation account fit into the male-female relationship model for the book. Although effort is given to demonstrate Crabb's point by appealing to the original biblical languages, the overall tone is more isogetical than I am comfortable with. The fall of man is not about the failure of man to speak order into chaos. It is about the first Adam breaking the covenant of works God establshed and setting the stage for the coming of the second Adam, Christ, who establshed the covenant of grace. What Crabb describes is one among a number of symptoms of the Fall. Having said that, the book accurately describes the problems men often endure because of their failure to communicate, to speak out, and to establish biiblical order in themselves and their world. I just think the point could have been made equally well without forcing Scripture into a model that doesn't appear to match its original intent. Having been so warned, it has valuable points to make.
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Great book that addresses the problem that men face everyday. Final conclusion is that we must be men who above everything else pursue a passionate relationship with our creator. No God doesn't usually give specific directions for a problem but when we pursue Him we are being conformed to the image of Christ. Having that relationship with our savior allows us to make godly decisions at all times. This book is a must read.
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