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Daleen Berry thought she was happy--until Eddie. Berry doesn't present herself as a saint, nor Eddie as a complete monster. A former FBI agent sets the theme: Acquaintance or marital rape is still rape. Berry is an engaging writer, her style fluid, with welcome touches of humor and sustained tension throughout. A seldom-seen perspective. --Kirkus

Writing Sister of Silence could not have been easy for award-winning journalist Daleen Berry. Berry reveals her dark secret with clarity and frankness in hopes of saving others from making her mistakes. Berry's story is not an easy read, though her prose is strong and her memory acute. --ForeWord Clarion Review--5 Stars, by Barbara Bamberger Scott

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It took me twenty years to write this memoir, but it wasn't until 2007, when I interviewed Jeannette Walls (The Glass Castle) and she told me I was writing too objectively (like the reporter I am)--and that my writing didn't go deeply enough into the emotions I was feeling--that I really got to the heart of this story. 

The reason it took me twenty years to write is because for much of that time, I was a single parent and I was rearing my four children. I lost the computer files my early manuscript was saved on at least three times--forcing me to stop writing just so I could retype the manuscript from the paper copies I had saved. (A word to the wise: NEVER rely solely on electronic files. Always have a back up!) 
After I completed Sister of Silence, I still waited to publish it, because I wanted to ensure my children were well on their way to adulthood when that happened. And I wanted their blessing, any input about changing their names, and so on. Happily, they gave me all of that and more in 2006, when we convened a family meeting about "The Book." 
I didn't write this memoir as a sordid "tell-all." I wrote it instead to help people understand the dynamics involved in inappropriate and psychologically damaging adult-child sexual relationships. I also wanted to show how alcoholism and absent parents lead to "at-risk" children and domestic violence. Finally, I hoped other people will see how powerful these forces are--because I don't think society understands them even one-tenth of what it should, when it comes to the dynamics involved. 
But more than that, I wrote Sister of Silence to help parents understand they are doing their children no favors when they themselves are too squeamish to discuss sex. If anything, children today are as susceptible to the charms of a child molester as they ever were--because parents refuse to accept that these dangerous adults look and act just like we do. In fact, if anything, what is often said after someone is charged with harming a child sexually, is that "he was the nicest guy. I'd never have known he'd do anything like that." (Ironically, they say the same thing about men who beat their wives and children.) 
Most important, I hope I've taught you that not only can you escape abuse and survive terrible violence, but you can thrive after the fact, too!
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Product Details

  • Series: Appalachian Families
  • Paperback: 342 pages
  • Publisher: Nellie Bly Books (February 18, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0615388604
  • ISBN-13: 978-0615388601
  • Product Dimensions: 5.2 x 0.9 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (203 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,524,351 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Even though I myself am an 18 year old young man, I have been exposed to abuse and found this book unable to put down until I read it all the way through. Read this book whatever your circumstances are; read it if you are a man, woman, older, younger, abused or not abused. This book definitely opens eyes to the deadly circle of abuse and the ways to fight against it.
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Based on real-life happenings, this book and it's author have shown just how 'trapped' a victim of abuse can feel. The author shows how the abuser can turn events around to make the victim feel that she is the guilty party and the abuse is her fault. Child sexual abuse is NEVER the victim's fault and it took the author years to discover that fact.
I urge any victim to read this book and maybe they will see even a small part of themselves in the author's story and will find the strength needed to get the help that is available to them.
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WOW... This is not an easy book to read. At times it felt like my own story. I hated Eddie from the beginning and I wanted to knock some sense into Daleen for being so..... I don’t know. For a person to go through this and still feel to blame is sad and heart breaking.
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Let's call this what it is. Child molestation. This is the story of how a family friend groomed a 13yr. old child to be his future wife. After 4 children and years of rape and abuse Daleen realized that she was not helpless.
This goes to show how we really don't know our friends and neighbors as well as we think. It seems that nobody suspected that Daleen wasn't a willing participant in having 4 children in 5 years. At the age of 22 with 4 small children Daleen realized she had to take control of her reproduction by having her tubes tied or know that she would in a short time be pregnant again. The toll this was taking on Daleen's mind was scaring her as awful thoughts entered her mind.
Maybe this book will help some other woman realize that rape is not OK, just because her rapist is her husband. After years of her husband making her feel like everything was her fault, she found the courage to stand up to him for the sake of herself and well as her children. Daleen should be congratulated for showing her children that violence is not OK, and that it is OK to walk away.
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The saddest thing about this sad tale is that it's so poorly written that the reader--this reader anyway--comes away with very little sympathy for an author whose tone is self-righteous, preachy, and unfortunately vengeful. It is a confused, disjointed story lacking detail where it should be, and repetitious specificity where it has no purpose. And there's too much (repetitious) self-congratulation, especially and ironically in regard to what a "good writer" she is.
This barely proofed, unedited, and inconsistent narrative is rife with incorrect word usage, grammatical and punctuation errors, and a plethora of vagaries, contradictions, and textbook generalities. The five w's might be the reporter's creed, but lots of "showing" and much less "telling" is the hallmark of a decent writer. Despite what she says, I never get a sense of what is really going on in that household.
Domestic violence is passed down through generations, the author says. "I know I'm good because God doesn't make junk," she quotes. Praying and Bible study (all Old Testament references) are ever-present throughout the book. And yet--this author makes no attempt to forgive or show compassion toward Eddie, himself an obvious product of a culture of domestic violence. She dismisses him as--junk.
Ms. Berry has a good story but, despite the hype, entirely misses the mark in this slapdash, amateurish account of what might have been a poignant and compelling look at one case of domestic violence.
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I prefer to read non-fiction/memoirs rather than fiction because real-life stories are simply so incredible. Berry shares the amazing story of her life of sexual abuse and eventual healing. I read it in a day and a half (317 pgs). I plan to share it widely. Every library should purchase a copy. Many of us have no idea how much pain some people live with all the time. Just as Berry was empowered when another woman shared her story, I'm sure Berry will help countless women (and men) through this revealing memoir.

A note to Nellie Bly books: This book needs to undergo another edit. Queen Noor of Jordan was formerly known as Lisa Halaby, not Carla Halaby. There are too many grammatical/spelling errors: (chocked up instead of chalked up; to not overdue it instead of not to overdo it; sat my satchel down instead of set my satchel down, etc. etc.). Apart from the 15-20 grammatical errors, I believe parts of the book can be pared down. Some parts are excessively wordy or unnecessary (I told the kids to tell the babysitter I was in the bathroom getting ready...).

The only reason I mention the editing is because I really believe in this book--it just needs to be cleaned up a bit.
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Daleen Berry explains "It took me twenty years to write this memoir" and I must admit that it took me a long time to read it. I set the book aside at least a dozen times because it opened up a lot of old wounds that were still oozing emotions into my life at 68. Believe me, time does not heal all wounds but they do get better, yes, little by little they get better.

Daleen is an excellent writer and manages to tell this story that started with sexual abuse at the age of 13 through her marriage to her abuser with heart and soul. Being forced to enter the adult world so young never gave her a chance to mature properly; with teenage angst and loves and breakups. She never developed the tools needed to tell this narcissistic jerk to take a hike. It's easy to ask the questions that so many readers must: "Why didn't you just "tell somebody?!!" but Daleen just wanted to have a little family and be happy so she tried, and tried, and tried some more. Anyone who has ever watched an episode of Dr. Phil will shake their heads wondering why women stay in these circumstances. Again, it's probably because they never got a chance to mature properly.

Daleen, to the chagrin of some reviewers, remains uncritical of her alcoholic and non-connected mother. I simply can't believe that mom was unaware of the troubled life this young girl was living; possibly because she was getting a payoff from the abuser. I think that mom turned off that part of her brain. Maybe I'm just reading my own story into Daleen's but that is what will happen to many readers. This is the kind of story that we tend to insert ourselves into - maybe not in totality but into bits and pieces.
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