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So Not Okay: An Honest Look at Bullying from the Bystander (Mean Girl Makeover Book 1) Kindle Edition
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About the Author
Nancy Rue has written over 100 books for girls, is the editor of the Faithgirlz Bible, and is a popular speaker and radio guest with her expertise in tween and teen issues. She and husband, Jim, have raised a daughter of their own and now live in Tennessee.--This text refers to the paperback edition.
- Publication Date : May 20, 2014
- File Size : 2176 KB
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Print Length : 290 pages
- Publisher : Thomas Nelson (May 20, 2014)
- Language: : English
- ASIN : B00IYVKA20
- X-Ray : Not Enabled
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Simultaneous Device Usage : Up to 5 simultaneous devices, per publisher limits
- Enhanced Typesetting : Enabled
- Lending : Not Enabled
- Best Sellers Rank: #1,452,137 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
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Kylie and her friends- the Pack, as Tori calls them - are the girls in sixth grade who decide what's cool. And apparently the new girl Ginger is not. Will it just "go away", as some people say, or should Tori do something? And if she will - what will it cost her?
Bullying isn't a joke. It's real and it's out there. So Not Okay deals more with the word-bullying than the hit-and-punch bullying. The type of bullying that leaves you feeling like a looser and a nerd. The type that calls a girl "gingerbread" of doesn't let her go to her locker or laughs when she reads her essay. The type that's hard to pin point and that's easy to miss for the adults. But is still there.
So Not Okay is Nancy Rue's first book in the anti-bullying series. It is told from the bystander's point of view. Tori learns that there is no such thing as "neutral" and that something can-and should- be done. There is also discussion on WHAT can be done.
If you want some great fiction with an even greater message, you just might enjoy this book. The second one -You Can't Sit With Us- is told from the bullied girl's point of view and the last one from the bully's point-of-view.
For a few years now, Tori and her group of friends have been the main target of popular girl Kylie and her clique. When new girl Ginger (real name Virginia Eve) transfers to Tori's school, at first Tori and her friends feel relief. Ginger proves to be so socially inept that it takes the heat off of Tori and her friends for a time. Ginger (and of course Rue makes the girl a redhead!) doesn't have the cool clothes, she eats pickle and PB sandwiches at lunch, she struggles to control her body odor and she tends to yell things as she's talking even when she doesn't mean to -- but the thing about Ginger is she still tries to make friends, she tries to put herself out there, even if she's bound to get shot down and have her heart broken.
Tori witnesses Ginger suffering bullying at the hands of Kylie and Co., thinks maybe she should help Ginger out. Tori's friends say "heck no! that'd just put the heat back on us!" so Tori goes along with what her friends want until she just can't stand the feelings of guilt anymore. Though it does put her and her friends back on Kylie's radar, Tori invites Ginger to join their circle, convinced she is doing what is right. Tori and the girls then learn how to combat bullying via Lydia, the assistant of Tori's father. Lydia has battled bullying all of her life because of her dwarfism, so she has a tip or two to teach them -- one rule being to become a "tribelet", finding strength in numbers and being able to divide and conquer the bullies when they aren't in a grouping of their own.
Along with the tribelet lesson, there are many more that young readers can take away from this book to put into effect into their own school situations. Another element I really appreciated about this story was the fact that it addressed the reality that bullying can come from numerous different sources, sometimes that source being our closest friends. We don't want to think it's bullying when it's someone so close to us but it can happen. This story helps identify what different kinds of bullying can look like. I also liked that it got into pointing out how oblivious to the situation parents and teachers can be; how teachers can side with the popular kids just because the teachers too find the bullied kids "weird" and somehow justify their inaction with "the kid brought it on himself / herself by being weird"; how adults can still experience bullying in the workplace (case in point, Tori's dad's fears that he could lose a big contract -- which means a loss of much needed household income -- at work if he doesn't "play by the rules") and how even teachers themselves can be the bullies.
While I didn't find the plot in this first book particularly riveting, I do think it brings up a lot of good starter points for discussion. I've already read the second book and can tell you that it's worth it to try out this trilogy. As an adult, I found reading the second book, which is told from Ginger's POV, really brought to light a lot of commonalities between Ginger's story and my own school experiences, making it more impactful (at least to me) than the first book.
Rue definitely brings up a lot of important points to shed light on within the topic of bullying, so I highly recommend this trilogy as a strong starting point with your child.
But I called him back in and told him the subject matter was bullying and it was so well written, so well thought out, and so real that it took me back to middle school and high school and broke my heart all over again.
Nancy Rue, I believe, has written THE book series ("So Not Okay" is the first of three) on the topic of bullying. She writes from the point of view of the bully, the pack mentality, the bullied, and the bystander, as well as the administration's response to the issue.
I fell in love with this tribelet (you'll have to read the book) as they gathered information on why people can be so mean, and then what to do about it. I ached for Tori as she was torn between a long time friendship and doing what she believed was right. And Ginger....oh, my...I WAS Ginger! But I wished I was Mitch, or even Winnie instead.
And then there was Lydia...what a precious mentor! And Mr. V. and....well, the cast of characters is amazing. You seriously do not want to miss this book, because that would be "So Not Okay" to do! Read it with your kids, talk about it, have them share the book with friends. Better yet, buy copies for their friends!
Buying my copy was the best investment I've made in reading material, and I can hardly wait for Nancy's next book in "The Mean Girl Makeover" series! Now is the time to get "So Not Okay" and read it. So, go! Get it! Read it!
Top reviews from other countries
Can't wait for the last book, and of course the second. But the last is about Kylie, wanna know what happens then :)