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So Sexy So Soon: The New Sexualized Childhood and What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Kids Hardcover – August 5, 2008
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The authors (Levin is a professor of education; Kilbourne, an authority on the effects of advertising) accuse the media of sexualizing children. Constantly, American children are exposed to a barrage of sexual images in television, movies, music and the Internet. They are taught young that buying certain clothes, consuming brand-name soft drinks and owning the right possessions will make them sexy and cool—and being sexy and cool is the most important thing. Young men and women are spoon-fed images that equate sex with violence, paint women as sexually subservient to men and encourage hooking up rather than meaningful connections. The result is that kids are having sex younger and with more partners than ever before. Eating disorders and body image issues are common as early as grade school. Levin and Kilbourne stress that there is nothing wrong with a young person's natural sexual awakening, but it is wrong to allow a young person's sexuality to be hijacked by corporations who want them as customers. The authors offer advice on how parents can limit children's exposure to commercialized sex, and how parents can engage kids in constructive, age-appropriate conversation about sex and the media. One need only read the authors' anecdotes to see why this book is relevant. (Sept.)
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Elementary-school children playing the rape game and young teens engaged in oral sex are only a fraction of the sexualized behavior young children are displaying, to the horror of their parents. Victoria’s Secret is selling thongs to girls as young as 8, and the Bratz doll is outselling Barbie, who is viewed as no stranger to sexualized images herself. Levin and Kilbourne, experts in childhood development, explore the troubling trends in ramped-up childhood sexuality; the implications for sexuality and relationships; and the potential for such trends to lead to pathological sexual behavior. The authors offer disturbing research on the pressure on young children, particularly girls, to dress and act in sexually provocative ways long before they are able to understand what they are doing. They also explore the marketing of sex to young children through television and the Internet. Intended for parents of children ranging in age from 4 to 12, this book offers helpful advice about what parents can do to protect their children from hypersexualized cultural influences. --Vanessa Bush
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An extremely disturbing trend is the counterfeit culture's sexualization of children. From early childhood through adolescence today's kids are bombarded with negative gender images and skewed messages about sexuality. Twenty years ago, for instance, when I was raising my children, it would have been unheard of, even unspeakable, for manufacturers to market thongs for seven year-old girls. Yet today, crazy as it is, that's what's happening. So Sexy So Soon provides many other equally distressing examples of how our innocents are now just cogs in the "sex sells" marketing wheel. The impact is profound. So Sexy So Soon demonstrates the critical urgency of the issue and beautifully articulates what can be done about it by parents and by all of us working together to stop this insidious form of child abuse. (The authors remind us that the thong is the stripper's clothing of choice, in case we have forgotten.)
Diane Levin ([...]) is professor of education at Wheelock College and has been involved in training early childhood professionals for more than twenty-five years. She has worked extensively in the field of media-related issues, and is an internationally recognized expert on the effects of violence, media, and commercial culture on children, and speaks often on these subjects. She is the author or co-author of seven books including Remote Control Childhood? and The War Play Dilemma. Jean Kilbourne ([...] a Senior Scholar at the Wellesley Centers for Women is internationally recognized for her pioneering work on the image of women in advertising. A popular lecturer, The New York Times Magazine named her one of the three most popular speakers on college campuses. She has produced award-winning films, including the Killing Us Softly series and is the author of Can't Buy My Love: How Advertising Changes the Way We Think and Feel.
Either one of these remarkable women could have alone written So Sexy So Soon. I'm glad they decided to team up, instead. The combined wealth of each of their backgrounds and expertise bring a rich tapestry of ideas, examples, and suggestions. The ultimate power of the book is their compelling united voice--not only as professionals pioneering this work, but also as mothers. By sharing parenting examples of their own fears, questions, and successes, (We even get treated to a piece on what parents of teens need to do by Jean's then twenty-year old daughter, Claudia) they give us hope. It's nice to know we are not alone in the trenches--even experts don't have all the answers. Yet, if we do a few things right--like keep connected to our kids and our love for them, lots can work out well. Even experts get lucky.
By admitting that this is a complex issue with no quick fixes and by giving practical "how tos" the authors provide both a thoughtful analysis of the problem as well as an effective action handbook. The comprehensive resources they've gathered are well- selected seminal books and organizations. There is something for everyone here. So Sexy So Soon will serve useful well beyond its copyright date because of the thorough research, practical activities, and fine resources.
Beginning with a discussion of what is normal and what is not normal, Levin and Kilbourne lay out the issue of sex, sexualized children and teens, along with the objectification this brings, linking the sexualization to consumerism clearly:
"But sex in commercial culture has far more to do with trivializing and objectifying sex than with promoting it, more to do with consuming than connecting. The problem is not that sex as portrayed in the media is sinful, but that it is synthetic and cynical. The exploitation of our children's sexuality is in many ways designed to promote consumerism, not just in childhood but throughout their lives." (p. 9)
Chapter 3 gives important guidelines about how young children are likely to think about sexual images based on their stage of development. This is an extremely helpful tool, especially since it is coupled with a discussion of the key concepts that parents need to effectively address the problem. "Children are learning lessons from today's sexualized environment that can undermine the very foundations they need in order to grow up to be capable of having caring relationships of any kind, including those relationships in which sex plays a role." (p. 71) Much useful information is given for teens, too. What happens when the sexualized child enters adolescence? Levin and Kilbourne let you know. Parents may be shocked by some of the information. I doubt, for instance, if many moms and dads realize just how accessible porn stars are to their kids through Internet marketing. "Lauren Phoenix, star of scores of porn films...sells tube socks to teens in American Apparel ads, and porn queen Jenna Jameson has launched her own fashion line." (p. 143)
The "clash of cultures" between what parents what for their children--the family culture--and what the commercial culture actually pushes to their children, forms a backdrop for So Sexy So Soon. The authors know that it is parents, as well as their children that suffer because of this. "In a 2002 survey of parents of five-to-seventeen year olds, almost half reported that their biggest challenge was trying to protect their children from the negative influences of the outside world." (p. 75)
Levin and Kilbourne give many examples of struggles to understand and mitigate the commercial culture's influences on children and teens--examples any modern-day parent or teacher can relate to. Several of the examples are given in detail. In these the reader has the opportunity to journey with the parent (or pull her hair out with the parent) as he or she struggles to figure out how to respond to a little girl crying because she "is too fat," for instance. In addition to providing parental dilemmas, the authors give explicit examples of how to talk to children about these issues; what to pay attention to while we are listening to our child talk about these issues; and important questions to ask and why.
Chapter 6 focuses on "the power of connecting deeply with children," and gives sentence-by-sentence dialogue with the mother and the little girl who thinks she is too fat, alongside a commentary by the authors with explanations for the suggestions given. If you don't have a lot of time, you could start the book here. There are other excellent examples given in Chapter 6 as well. These show the potential responsiveness of children when we relate to them and the elimination of parental fear when we understand how our children are thinking about potentially contentious issues. The book demonstrates that listening deeply, asking non-judgmental questions; keeping a clear head; and finding out all the facts--go a long way to supporting our children's healthy development while lessening possible negative impacts.
The authors conclude by calling us to get involved in "creating a new cultural environment" with twelve excellent and do-able choices. Obviously, we cannot let commercialized sexualization of children become normalized. Levin and Kilbourne quote Cordelia Anderson, who reminds us, "`once something becomes normalized, it becomes the wallpaper of our existence--we don't see it, we accept it as just the way it is and we are numbed to seeing any ill effects or taking action to change it,'" (p. 178) So Sexy So Soon motivates us to productive action on behalf of our children, de-numbing our society in the process.
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