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Is it your lying, cheating ex-husband?
Your sadistic high school gym teacher?
Your boss who loves to humiliate people in meetings?
The colleague who stole your idea and passed it off as her own?
In the pages of The Sociopath Next Door, you will realize that your ex was not just misunderstood. He’s a sociopath. And your boss, teacher, and colleague? They may be sociopaths too.
We are accustomed to think of sociopaths as violent criminals, but in The Sociopath Next Door, Harvard psychologist Martha Stout reveals that a shocking 4 percent of ordinary people—one in twenty-five—has an often undetected mental disorder, the chief symptom of which is that that person possesses no conscience. He or she has no ability whatsoever to feel shame, guilt, or remorse. One in twenty-five everyday Americans, therefore, is secretly a sociopath. They could be your colleague, your neighbor, even family. And they can do literally anything at all and feel absolutely no guilt.
How do we recognize the remorseless? One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths more charming or interesting than the other people around them. They’re more spontaneous, more intense, more complex, or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced. Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love. Sociopaths learn early on to show sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others’ suffering. They live to dominate and thrill to win.
The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already. Part of the urgency in reading The Sociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know—someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for—is a sociopath. But what do we do with that knowledge? To arm us against the sociopath, Dr. Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play. Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game.
It is the ruthless versus the rest of us, and The Sociopath Next Door will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you know.
- Print length256 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherHarmony
- Publication dateMarch 14, 2006
- Dimensions5.16 x 0.55 x 7.96 inches
- ISBN-109780767915823
- ISBN-13978-0767915823
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Is it your lying, cheating ex-husband?
Your sadistic high school gym teacher?
Your boss who loves to humiliate people in meetings?
The colleague who stole your idea and passed it off as her own?
In the pages of "The Sociopath Next Door, you will realize that your ex was not just misunderstood. He's a sociopath. And your boss, teacher, and colleague? They may be sociopaths too.
We are accustomed to think of sociopaths as violent criminals, but in "The Sociopath Next Door, Harvard psychologist Martha Stout reveals that a shocking 4 percent of ordinary people--one in twenty-five--has an often undetected mental disorder, the chief symptom of which is that that person possesses no conscience. He or she has no ability whatsoever to feel shame, guilt, or remorse. One in twenty-five everyday Americans, therefore, is secretly a sociopath. They could be your colleague, your neighbor, even family. And they can do literally anything at all and feel absolutely no guilt."
How do we recognize the remorseless? One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths more charming or interesting than the other people around them. They're more spontaneous, more intense, more complex, or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced. Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love. Sociopaths learn early on to show sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others' suffering. They live to dominate and thrill to win.
The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already. Part of the urgency in reading "TheSociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know--someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for--is a sociopath. But what do we do with that knowledge? To arm us against the sociopath, Dr. Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play. Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game.
It is the ruthless versus the rest of us, and "The Sociopath Next Door will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you know.
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Minds differ still more than faces.
--Voltaire
Imagine--if you can--not having a conscience, none at all, no feelings of guilt or remorse no matter what you do, no limiting sense of concern for the well-being of strangers, friends, or even family members. Imagine no struggles with shame, not a single one in your whole life, no matter what kind of selfish, lazy, harmful, or immoral action you had taken. And pretend that the concept of responsibility is unknown to you, except as a burden others seem to accept without question, like gullible fools. Now add to this strange fantasy the ability to conceal from other people that your psychological makeup is radically different from theirs. Since everyone simply assumes that conscience is universal among human beings, hiding the fact that you are conscience-free is nearly effortless. You are not held back from any of your desires by guilt or shame, and you are never confronted by others for your cold-bloodedness. The ice water in your veins is so bizarre, so completely outside of their personal experience, that they seldom even guess at your condition.
In other words, you are completely free of internal restraints, and your unhampered liberty to do just as you please, with no pangs of conscience, is conveniently invisible to the world. You can do anything at all, and still your strange advantage over the majority of people, who are kept in line by their consciences, will most likely remain undiscovered.
How will you live your life? What will you do with your huge and secret advantage, and with the corresponding handicap of other people (conscience)? The answer will depend largely on just what your desires happen to be, because people are not all the same. Even the profoundly unscrupulous are not all the same. Some people-- whether they have a conscience or not-- favor the ease of inertia, while others are filled with dreams and wild ambitions. Some human beings are brilliant and talented, some are dull-witted, and most, conscience or not, are somewhere in between. There are violent people and nonviolent ones, individuals who are motivated by bloodlust and those who have no such appetites.
Maybe you are someone who craves money and power, and though you have no vestige of conscience, you do have a magnificent IQ. You have the driving nature and the intellectual capacity to pursue tremendous wealth and influence, and you are in no way moved by the nagging voice of conscience that prevents other people from doing everything and anything they have to do to succeed. You choose business, politics, the law, banking, international development, or any of a broad array of other power professions, and you pursue your career with a cold passion that tolerates none of the usual moral or legal incumbrances. When it is expedient, you doctor the accounting and shred the evidence, you stab your employees and your clients (or your constituency) in the back, marry for money, tell lethal premeditated lies to people who trust you, attempt to ruin colleagues who are powerful or eloquent, and simply steam-roll over groups who are dependent and voiceless. And all of this you do with the exquisite freedom that results from having no conscience whatsoever.
You become unimaginably, unassailably, and maybe even globally successful. Why not? With your big brain, and no conscience to rein in your schemes, you can do anything at all.
Or no--let us say you are not quite such a person. You are ambitious, yes, and in the name of success you are willing to do all manner of things that people with conscience would never consider, but you are not an intellectually gifted individual. Your intelligence is above average perhaps, and people think of you as smart, maybe even very smart. But you know in your heart of hearts that you do not have the cognitive wherewithal, or the creativity, to reach the careening heights of power you secretly dream about, and this makes you resentful of the world at large, and envious of the people around you.
As this sort of person, you ensconce yourself in a niche, or maybe a series of niches, in which you can have some amount of control over small numbers of people. These situations satisfy a little of your desire for power, although you are chronically aggravated at not having more. It chafes to be so free of the ridiculous inner voice that inhibits others from achieving great power, without having enough talent to pursue the ultimate successes yourself. Sometimes you fall into sulky, rageful moods caused by a frustration that no one but you understands.
But you do enjoy jobs that afford you a certain undersupervised control over a few individuals or small groups, preferably people and groups who are relatively helpless or in some way vulnerable. You are a teacher or a psychotherapist, a divorce lawyer or a high school coach. Or maybe you are a consultant of some kind, a broker or a gallery owner or a human services director. Or maybe you do not have a paid position, and are instead the president of your condominium association, or a volunteer hospital worker, or a parent. Whatever your job, you manipulate and bully the people who are under your thumb, as often and as outrageously as you can without getting fired or held accountable. You do this for its own sake, even when it serves no purpose except to give you a thrill. Making people jump means you have power-- or this is the way you see it-- and bullying provides you with an adrenaline rush. It is fun.
Maybe you cannot be the CEO of a multinational corporation, but you can frighten a few people, or cause them to scurry around like chickens, or steal from them, or--maybe best of all--create situations that cause them to feel bad about themselves. And this is power, especially when the people you manipulate are superior to you in some way. Most invigorating of all is to bring down people who are smarter or more accomplished than you, or perhaps classier, more attractive or popular or morally admirable. This is not only good fun--it is existential vengeance. And without a conscience, it is amazingly easy to do. You quietly lie to the boss or to the boss’s boss, cry some crocodile tears, or sabotage a coworker’s project, or gaslight a patient (or a child), bait people with promises, or provide a little misinformation that will never be traced back to you.
Or now let us say you are a person who has a proclivity for violence or for seeing violence done. You can simply murder your coworker, or have her murdered--or your boss, or your ex-spouse, or your wealthy lover’s spouse, or anyone else who bothers you. You have to be careful, because if you slip up you may be caught and punished by the system. But you will never be confronted by your conscience, because you have no conscience. If you decide to kill, the only difficulties will be the external ones. Nothing inside of you will ever protest.
Provided you are not forcibly stopped, you can do anything at all. If you are born at the right time, with some access to family fortune, and you have a special talent for whipping up other people’s hatred and sense of deprivation, you can arrange to kill large numbers of unsuspecting people. With enough money, you can accomplish this from far away, and you can sit back safely and watch in satisfaction. In fact, terrorism (done from a distance) is the ideal occupation for a person who is possessed of bloodlust and no conscience, because if you do it just right, you may be able to make a whole nation jump. And if that is not power, what is?
Or let us imagine the opposite extreme--you have no interest in power. To the contrary, you are the sort of person who really does not want much of anything. Your only real ambition is not to have to exert yourself to get by. You do not want to work like everyone else does. Without a conscience, you can nap or pursue your hobbies or watch television or just hang out somewhere all day long. Living a bit on the fringes, and with some handouts from relatives and friends, you can do this indefinitely. People may whisper to each other that you are an underachiever, or that you are depressed, a sad case, or in contrast, if they get angry, they may grumble that you are lazy. When they get to know you better, and get really angry, they may scream at you and call you a loser, a bum. But it will never occur to them that you literally do not have a conscience, that in such a fundamental way, your very mind is not the same as theirs.
The panicked feeling of a guilty conscience never squeezes at your heart or wakes you in the middle of the night. Despite your lifestyle, you never feel irresponsible, neglectful, or so much as embarrassed, although for the sake of appearances, sometimes you pretend that you do. For example, if you are a decent observer of people and what they react to, you may adopt a lifeless facial expression, say how ashamed of your life you are, and talk about how rotten you feel. This you do only because it is more convenient to have people think you are depressed than it is to have them shouting at you all the time, or insisting that you get a job.
You notice that people who do have a conscience feel guilty when they harangue someone they believe to be “depressed” or “troubled.” As a matter of fact, to your further advantage, they often feel obliged to take care of such a person. If, despite your relative poverty, you can manage to get yourself into a sexual relationship with someone, this person--who does not suspect what you are really like--may feel particularly obligated. And since all you want is not to have to work, your financier does not have to be especially rich, just reliably conscience-bound.
I trust that imagining yourself as any of these people feels insane to you, because such people are insane, dangerously so. Insane but real--they even have a label. Many mental health professionals refer to the condition of little or no conscience as “antisocial personality disorder,” a noncorrectable disfigurement of character that is now thought to be present in about four percent of the population--that is to say, one in twenty-five people. This condition of missing conscience is called by other names too, most often “sociopathy,” or the somewhat more familiar term, “psychopathy.” Guiltlessness was in fact the first personality disorder to be recognized by psychiatry, and terms that have been used at times over the past century include “manie sans délire,” “psychopathic inferiority,” “moral insanity,” and “moral imbecility.”
According to the current bible of psychiatric labels, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders IV of the American Psychiatric Association, the clinical diagnosis of “antisocial personality disorder” should be considered when an individual possesses at least three of the following seven characteristics: (1) failure to conform to social norms; (2) deceitfulness, manipulativeness; (3) impulsivity, failure to plan ahead; (4) irritability, aggressiveness; (5) reckless disregard for the safety of self or others; (6) consistent irresponsibility; (7) lack of remorse after having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another person. The presence in an individual of any three of these “symptoms,” taken together, is enough to make many psychiatrists suspect the disorder.
Other researchers and clinicians, many of whom think the APA’s definition describes simple “criminality” better than true “psychopathy” or “sociopathy,” point to additional documented characteristics of sociopaths as a group. One of the more frequently observed of these traits is a glib and superficial charm that allows the true sociopath to seduce other people, figuratively or literally--a kind of glow or charisma that, initially, can make the sociopath seem more charming or more interesting than most of the normal people around him. He or she is more spontaneous, or more intense, or somehow more “complex,” or sexier, or more entertaining than everyone else. Sometimes this “sociopathic charisma” is accompanied by a grandiose sense of self-worth that may be compelling at first, but upon closer inspection may seem odd or perhaps laughable. (“Someday the world will realize how special I am,” or “You know that after me, no other lover will do.”)
In addition, sociopaths have a greater than normal need for stimulation, which results in their taking frequent social, physical, financial, or legal risks. Characteristically, they can charm others into attempting dangerous ventures with them, and as a group they are known for their pathological lying and conning, and their parasitic relationships with “friends.” Regardless of how educated or highly placed as adults, they may have a history of early behavior problems, sometimes including drug use or recorded juvenile delinquency, and always including a failure to acknowledge responsibility for any problems that occurred.
And sociopaths are noted especially for their shallowness of emotion, the hollow and transient nature of any affectionate feelings they may claim to have, a certain breathtaking callousness. They have no trace of empathy and no genuine interest in bonding emotionally with a mate. Once the surface charm is scraped off, their marriages are loveless, one-sided, and almost always short-term. If a marriage partner has any value to the sociopath, it is because the partner is viewed as a possession, one that the sociopath may feel angry to lose, but never sad or accountable.
All of these characteristics, along with the “symptoms” listed by the American Psychiatric Association, are the behavioral manifestations of what is for most of us an unfathomable psychological condition, the absence of our essential seventh sense-- conscience.
Crazy, and frightening-- and real, in about four percent of the population.
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- Publisher : Harmony; 1st edition (March 14, 2006)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 256 pages
- ISBN-10 : 9780767915823
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- Dimensions : 5.16 x 0.55 x 7.96 inches
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Martha Stout, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in private practice, served on the faculty in psychology in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School for twenty-five years. She is also the author of "The Myth of Sanity" and "The Paranoia Switch." She lives on Cape Ann in Massachusetts.
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Customers find the book enlightening and comprehensive on the subject. They describe it as an entertaining read with clear writing and a rhythmic tone. The stories are engaging and depict the compelling nature of the subject. Many readers consider the book worth the price. However, opinions differ on the sociopathic mindset and the phenomenon of conscience.
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Customers find the book helpful and enlightening. They say it provides a good foundation for understanding sociopaths and how to deal with them. The book is comprehensive and fascinating, providing a good introduction to the subject. Readers mention the lessons are challenging and different from anything they've experienced. Overall, the book is engaging and helps them consider their own past.
"...The scary part is - The Sociopath Next Door is not fiction and very real...." Read more
"...What I Liked This is the true story of a psychologist who has become personally frustrated by the damage done to others by one specific group..." Read more
"...It's everyday reading and is very, very helpful and enlightening. I commend Martha Stout for writing it. It was recommended by a therapist." Read more
"...She provides some great examples, such as "super skip" who fits the prototypical, textbook model to a near T. Then there is "Darlene" I believe the..." Read more
Customers find the book engaging and entertaining. They describe it as a valuable read for anyone interested in the subject matter. The book is described as an eye-opening guide for spotting potential sociopaths, and it's a quick read that captures readers' attention.
"...experience also makes The Sociopath Next Door one of the best books on the subject...." Read more
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Customers find the book readable and well-written. They appreciate the clear writing style and rhythmic tone. The sentences make sense and are complete pages. Readers find the characters easy to identify with and instantly recognizable.
"...Writing appears to come to her naturally as every sentence makes sense, and is a complete page turner even if it was all just fiction...." Read more
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Customers find the book engaging with personal stories and examples. They appreciate the intelligent study rather than sensational stories, the variety of situational events, and the good conclusion. The author uses anecdotes, although some are not scientifically sound.
"...The book is divided into stories (composites from Dr. Stouts' patient stories) interspersed with Dr. Stouts' theories about the evolutionary,..." Read more
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"...of the human psyche, the composite "case studies" alone are worth the price of admission. The book was written well and reads quickly...." Read more
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- Reviewed in the United States on April 25, 2012I love the "The Sociopath Next Door" so much I read it again and again. I have had it several months now on my Kindle. The author Martha Stout is such an excellent writer is one reason that I can read it over and over. Writing appears to come to her naturally as every sentence makes sense, and is a complete page turner even if it was all just fiction. The scary part is - The Sociopath Next Door is not fiction and very real. Her education and clinical experience also makes The Sociopath Next Door one of the best books on the subject. Martha does not "guess," "suspect" or even "vent" - she has seen it time and time again in her practice and "it" has a name. "Sociopathic behavior." Her job has obviously been "janitor" clean up crew behind the lie laden trails of some great sociopaths - who have found a way to her client.
Martha Stout also has a way of introducing very real descriptions of a Sociopaths behavior right down to the true - but laughable conduct of a Sociopath, who after their first goal of "impression management" is achieved is sitting in your living room, watching your TV and asking you to fetch them a drink!" By then I am thinking "close Martha" but then she gets even more detailed about that particular prototype..." who also feigns depression because everyone will help a depressed person and no one will have the gall to ask them to get off the couch and stop watching a TV they don't even own." By that moment I felt Martha had been over to my house! She even gets deeper than that.
As you will learn in the book there are a few types of sociopaths and the couch ornament is just one.
Fairly pathetic a book can completely define every trait of someone in your present or past life - and even suggest what to do [run fast if you can]. It may mean if a person can be defined to a "tee," and each and every sentence in a book such as The Sociopath next Door applies to someone you know, you may be dealing with a non-person. A person with zero conscience. On the other hand, if you cannot be defined within the borders of a book - you may have a life and if you want to live it happily after a post sociopathic run in - read the book.
- Reviewed in the United States on January 21, 2013I married a sociopath a few months ago. I thought there was something weird about the way he had a history of hurting others but denying any responsibility. He was so charming to me and pretended to agree with me on pretty much everything, but a few times before the wedding, he became cruel. I blew it off thinking everyone has a bad day sometimes. After the wedding, he escalated into pure monster. He went into angry rages over tiny things several times a day, yelled and called me names, drove recklessly and sometimes ran people off the road, became physically aggressive with me, harassed his co-workers, conned people out of money, "forgot" his wallet EVERY time we went out to eat either alone or with others, and worse. (I don't want to share the x-rated details--but he was just as inconsiderate and cruel there as he was in every other area.) My first clue that something was wrong wasn't because he was being so mean, but was because he always blamed the person he hurt. He verbally attacked at me pretty much non-stop with hateful glaring in between outbursts, but told me I deserved it for getting on his nerves. But the things that were getting on his nerves would never bother normal people--stuff like getting dust on his jacket, (dust that I couldn't even see,) asking to stop to use the bathroom on long car rides, (seven hours with no food or bathroom break,) asking him not to scream at my child, accidentally stepping on the edge of his prized bath mat and getting dirt on it, (must have been invisible dirt,)not being able to read his mind, and more. Sometimes I was screamed at for things that never happened. For example, he had a real fetish about his bath mat and one day went crazy saying I was standing on it. (I definitely wasn't because I'd learned to walk on eggshells to avoid the rages.) He insisted I was on it and I looked down and pointed at my feet showing I was definitely NOT standing on it. He still insisted and I finally gave up and left the room crying with helplessness. Of course, crying really set him off. Every time he drove me to it with his cruel behavior, he'd start screaming at me for crying. I was in a state of fear and shock most of the time. He was insane and there was no hope. I pointed out to him that I didn't treat him that way. I didn't yell, cuss, scream, get in his face, attack him or call him names and he seriously said that's because he never did anything wrong. Actually, I pointed out, it's because healthy people in relationships compromise and don't abuse each other over meaningless things. They discuss the big things and let go of the little stuff. He was intensely cruel--denying me heat on cold days, forcing me and my child to go hungry, changing my cell phone number so friends couldn't find me, putting a keystroke logger on my computer so he could stalk me and get into my accounts, ordering me to give up my friends, etc.... But of course, none of the rules for me applied to him. He had to be right at all costs, even if I could get out a book or web page and show he was not right. He'd scream and go crazy. I finally just let everything go and avoided him as much as possible. He has a way of, (mostly,) avoiding arrest and repercussions, but he definitely has anti-social personality disorder. It took me a while to figure out what was wrong with him and his history of bad behavior, but it slowly came to me. It helped that our therapist saw him in action and validated my theories. This book further validated what I'd realized and helped me get past the abuse. I left the guy after 6 weeks, and even that was too long, but I don't feel bad. I wasn't a person to him. No one is. It wasn't personal; it was just a monster with no conscience using me just like he used everyone else. I can't wait until my divorce is final and I'm intellectually armed now, so I will recognize any other sociopaths that try to charm me!
One part I really liked about this book was the section discussing how sociopaths in clubs will often charm a couple people to protect themselves. My sociopath had those people. No matter how crazy he acted with me or other people, (I have since received condolence letters from multiple women who experienced the terror before me,) he would impress his cover people at all costs. These two women have zero idea that they are a front for a sociopath. When he acts insane, he swears it isn't him because so-and-so is his good friend and can vouch for him. I had noticed this on my own, but reading about the phenomenon in the book again validated what I was noticing on my own.
Bottom line: if something feels really wrong about your relationship with someone--it IS really wrong.
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vida cropasReviewed in Canada on July 11, 20245.0 out of 5 stars A deep understanding of victims.
The study of Antisocial Personalty Disorder is relatively new, and nothing seems written in stone. "Experts" tend to have different opinions. Some think that psychopathy and cluster B personality disorders should be considered as a spectrum disorder, as is autism, for example. Others will state that sociopaths do have a conscience but were brought up in harsh/criminal environments and acquired a callous disregard for anyone outside their own group of family members and cohorts. They will purport that narcissists also have a conscience but suffer from an inflated ego and feel superior to all others, and that psychopaths are the dangerous ones with no conscience at all...
Hence, all these terms are often used interchangeably...Then the numbers are also argued...Do these disorders represent 4% of the population, or 14%? ( if indeed similar disorders were lumped together with grey areas of assessment charts being included)... I have never found a book to explain and demystify the above. "Experts" seem to have different theories on the subject...
Ms. Stout is a Psychological Trauma Therapist. Her book is brilliantly written, very interesting, and insightful, and she does have a deep empathy and understanding of what victims go through. She also touches on the history of the disorder, and a number of studies. She points out the pervasive social impacts that predators have on society in general and provides clear examples. I certainly do recommend this book.
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Amazon KundeReviewed in Germany on January 22, 20255.0 out of 5 stars Gut
Mir hat das Buch gefallen und ich empfehle es weiter
Bertin GonzalezReviewed in Mexico on October 15, 20195.0 out of 5 stars Best book of these Topic
Great reading you can’t stop one time you start reading i ended up in one day
Highly recommended
A passionate topic
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DianaReviewed in Spain on December 31, 20185.0 out of 5 stars Perfecto
Entretenido y veraz
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jenesaisrienReviewed in France on December 5, 20185.0 out of 5 stars Vous connaissez certainement un sociopathe sans savoir qu'il l'est !
Ils sont nombreux autour de nous, et quoiqu'on en souffre au quotidien, beaucoup ignorent comment les appeler et surtout comment s'en préserver... avant qu'il ne soit trop tard. Même scenario avec les pervers narcissiques. L'auteur a bien décrit les comportements de ces prédateurs hautement toxiques.
Dommage qu'en France on n'y accorde pas l'intérêt mérité, ce qui éviterait à maintes innocentes personnes de bonne volonté de se retrouver intimement désarticulées dans les cabinets médicaux aux "spécialistes" inconscients...

