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It seemed like a better book would be a bit more nuanced ...
on November 15, 2016
Read this with my daughter. She and I both agreed on what the right response would be and we felt frustrated that there was no middle ground for people who stand up for themselves and others in a slightly more assertive way than just taking the middle/moderate/compromised road. It seemed like a better book would be a bit more nuanced (would give better examples of good responses) and also more positively view clearly advocating for yourself and others somewhere between behaviors characterized as choices "b" and "c" . We found this repeatedly throughout the book. For example, a quiz on page 27 had a girl who always expects you to buy her popcorn on popcorn Friday. The choices for response are b " I wanted to give you the heads up that I don't have extra money this week" or c "I'm tired of you using me. Dont you have your own money?" We both felt b was not a great answer because it only addressed stopping the problem for that particular week. It implies you will continue to buy her popcorn after that week. We agreed that c was too mean, but instead we felt something like "I wanted you to know that I wont be able to buy your popcorn any more" was more definitive and wouldn't lead to further issues and continued misunderstandings when it was popcorn time the next week and the week after. There are many examples like this.