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Stepliving for Teens: Getting Along with Stepparents, Parents, and Siblings (Plugged In) Paperback – March 19, 2001
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From School Library Journal
Grade 6 Up-Block and Bartell lay it on the line for the burgeoning number of young people facing the uncertainties of stepliving such as what you call your new stepparent or what you do when rules change. Capitalizing on group-therapy techniques, the authors address pressing issues from a can-do perspective, using the voices of several teens and parents who have gone through it all. Providing more than just scenarios and outcomes, the authors go through the decision-making process showing how to face problems or fears and overcome them. Strong on communication, they appeal to teens to open up and talk about their feelings. They provide lawyer-inspired "form letters" with fill-in-the-blank customizations for dealing with parents calmly and rationally. The writing style is relaxed, entertaining, often humorous, yet highly informative. The fonts and graphics embellish the text. A guidebook to return to again and again, this is a must-have for all libraries serving teens.
Lisa Denton, J. S. Russell JHS, Lawrenceville, VA
Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc.
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We know this book was written some time ago but, regardless, I'm not sure how I feel about telling a teenager that it's ok to hide in their room and begin making plans to move out if they're unhappy with their situation. Sometimes, yes, things can be dangerous but this isn't referring to times like that.
It was also very upsetting to see the book referring to a child's biological parents as "real" parents. What does that make us step-parents? We went as far as to white-out every time the word "real" appeared before "parent" and wrote in "bio". It completely defeats the purpose to refer to one set of parents as "real". This book was written at a time when step-parents were seen as "real" parents so in context I guess the verbiage makes sense but not anymore.
Nonetheless, we decided not to give our daughter the book. It offers seeds of information and plants thoughts and ideas, like moving out, and staying at a friend's house for long periods of time, that we don't want to expose her to.
It's very disappointing and I don't really recommend anyone in my situation purchase it.
However, at the end of each section, there is a segment called "What if it still doesn't work?" (As in, what if I've tried all of these things to no avail?) This is where we have the problem... there are several of these segment endings that suggest the teen do things such as stay in their room most of the time and focus on planning for when they're old enough to move out, or to get the help of others to arrange for changes in custody, etc.
While I agree that there are certainly situations in which such measures would be appropriate (such as changing custody due to physical or mental abuse), we do not think it's appropriate to suggest teens take such steps over things like siblings borrowing their things without asking, arguing with their step parent, etc.
Overall, it was a good book for us adults to get a closer view of how the kids may feel, but we are still undecided as to whether or not to give it to the kids to read because we feel these few "segment endings" are inappropriate. It's a shame, because the majority of the book is fantastic. Fortunately, our kids are not having any huge problems, so if we decide not to pass it on it will still be okay. But still a shame because it could have been a fantastic resource for them.
Overall, I would suggest reading it yourself first and then deciding whether to pass it on to the kids.