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Steven Petrow's Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners: The Definitive Guide to LGBT Life Paperback – Bargain Price, June 1, 2011
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“Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners helps gays and straights navigate the subtleties of the same-sex world.”
“Move over, Emily Post! When it comes to etiquette for members of the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community—as well as their straight friends, family members and coworkers—author and journalist Steven Petrow is the authority.”
“What could’ve easily become a novelty book has emerged as an exhaustively researched, essential resource thanks to advice columnist and etiquette expert Steven Petrow.” —The Advocate
—Ted Allen, host of Food Network’s Chopped
Top Customer Reviews
Author Petrow built this book upon his history and expertise gained through many years of writing advice columns about manners for the LGBT community. In this book, his highly-regarded advice is interspersed with actual inquiries (called "Queeries") culled from his columns and questions from his fans. If there is something about manners he has overlooked, I can't imagine what it is.
Petrow's writing style makes the reading easy and gets his point across with situational explanations and humor. However, different segments of the book use different fonts that I found distracting, although the y do set apart the "Queeries," the columns of advice, and the responses to the "Queeries.
I found it physically difficult to read these responses. The typeface is both small and faint, and my 77 year old eyes strained to recognize what is being said. If your eyesight is like mine, you will want a magnifying lens to make reading them comfortable. Since these responses are very important to the understanding of the subject, I am disappointed that this typeface was chosen.
Overall I think this is a valuable reference tool for anyone - gay or straight - who wants to deal supportively with the LGBT community. It can be particularly useful for those of us in the straight community who want to be aware of the subtle nuances of manners when dealing with our LGBT family members and friends.
LGBT people learned long ago that "one size does not fit all." Having been the exception to many, many rules, we know how important it is to have a set of standards and rules that uniquely fit us and our lives and loves. Petrow does this with experience, warmth, wit and knowledge in a way that few others would dare try.
I cannot recommend this book enough. It is a gift that might accompany any occasion from "coming out" to graduation, to starting a new job or a new life with someone you love. Or just because wherever you go and however you live, it's good to have a trusted friend by your side. Steven Petro is that friend.
The book's genius came from the countless questions and comments he receives on his website [...]. Steven Petrow's Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners is simply broken down into four areas: being LGBT, Love & Sex, Tying the Knot, Children, and Everyday Living.
On June 7 at the Outwrite Bookstore in the heart of Midtown, Petrow was joined by CNN's own Don Lemon, who served as moderated to the question and answer session.
Don Lemon, who "came out" two weeks ago, and has a soon to be release book, thought the book had helpful insight to the "dos and don'ts" within the LGBT life. His biggest surprise has been the support he has received and the uproar that it caused. "At one point, my story was one of the most tweeted", shared Lemon.
Petrow intends for the book to be a resource when individuals have those uncommon questions.
How do your refer to a same sex couple? Husband, husband or wife wife? Answer: listen to how the partner is introduced.
When probed on the most often asked question? Petrow said "overwhelmingly answers on coming out and saying `I'm gay'". In the book he points out to four steps: 1- Make a plan. 2- Consider all reactions 3- Do your research and 4- Keep it simple. Petrow also points out that when someone confines in you, that shows a deep level of trust.
On the opposite spectrum, if you suspect that someone is gay, you should not ask them. They will let you know.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
discussed multiple issues that, as the mother of an asexual man, I needed to know so I did not embarrass him, at least not any more that most mothers embarrass their children.Published 12 months ago by ellen foster
Highly informative, well written and extremely well written and presented in a way that makes it extremely useful to have.Published 18 months ago by George R. Squires
It is a nice book and quite funny.
But I do enjoy it a lot and it helps with identify the manners important to deal with diversity.
Very in-depth and down to earth. Addresses a lot of issues faced, by both the straight and LGBT community. Excellent read. A must have.Published on March 19, 2014 by Anonymous
I teach etiquette professionally and rely on a collection of books to covey to my students what the experts say about manners as well as my own life experiences. Read morePublished on January 5, 2014 by Jokie X Wilson
I like the book it was very helpful and informative. It gave a lot of information for all kinds of events.Published on October 3, 2013 by Michael W
Traditional etiquette books omit aspects of LGBT life, and the new social predicaments their friends and families face. Read morePublished on September 21, 2013 by Jim Provenzano
Helpful and informative for anyone who is acquainted with, or has a gay family member! I good reference book to have on hand.Published on September 7, 2013 by Trish in Idaho